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    I've been with my bf for about a year and half now and thought he was the one.

    About 6 months ago he started working a few days a week away from home though which has been hard as its long hours too.

    Recently he got really drunk after an all day drinking session with his friends and bought a girl a drink in a club and woke up in her bed. He says they were both fully clothed but he can't remember what happened.

    I know he is really stressed at work and feeling depressed etc and I decided to give him another chance.

    We've had 2 weeks of what I thought was good as we seemed happier etc working through things. However he rang me at the weekend and said he felt depressed and he's not sure what he wants. Everything he said was a contradiction ie I don't want to break up but im not sure I see us together in 5 years.

    Also I love you but I'm not sure if as a friend or relationship way.

    He also mentioned being tempted by other girls.

    I asked he he is afraid of commitment and he said he thinks so, he is 26 by the way.

    Basically I just wondered if this has happened to anyone else from either point of view and what happened?

    He has asked for a few days to sort his feelings out so we are not taking at the moment.
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    (Original post by Steph_1919)
    I've been with my bf for about a year and half now and thought he was the one.

    About 6 months ago he started working a few days a week away from home though which has been hard as its long hours too.

    Recently he got really drunk after an all day drinking session with his friends and bought a girl a drink in a club and woke up in her bed. He says they were both fully clothed but he can't remember what happened.

    I know he is really stressed at work and feeling depressed etc and I decided to give him another chance.

    We've had 2 weeks of what I thought was good as we seemed happier etc working through things. However he rang me at the weekend and said he felt depressed and he's not sure what he wants. Everything he said was a contradiction ie I don't want to break up but im not sure I see us together in 5 years.

    Also I love you but I'm not sure if as a friend or relationship way.

    He also mentioned being tempted by other girls.

    I asked he he is afraid of commitment and he said he thinks so, he is 26 by the way.

    Basically I just wondered if this has happened to anyone else from either point of view and what happened?

    He has asked for a few days to sort his feelings out so we are not taking at the moment.
    I think it would be best to end the relationship as hes clearly not showing commitment to you.
 
 
 
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