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Please help: Frustrated about communication with new girlfriend...or lack of Watch

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    Hey guys, I started dating a girl recently and she asked me out after the 3rd date, which I happily agreed to.

    Anyway, I've only known her for 3 weeks, we've met up 4 times, and we started of whatsapp messaging every day, morning and night, to be honest this got a bit much, but not wanting to mess things up with her, I never failed to reply, was careful not to overdo it and everything, but she seems less responsive now.

    I met up with her yesterday, we kissed, and she invited me to a wedding with her next week, and I invited her to my nieces christening the day after. We are also meant to be meeting this Saturday, and I love seeing her, but the communication aspect is becoming an issue, how often to message her, and reading the signs etc.

    So I'm not playing games, but last night I thought I'd leave it a bit later to see if she messaged me goodnight, she didn't, so I messaged her and she replied with a message that at the end said, 'have a good day at college tomorrow xx', this is fine, so I thought maybe that was sign that I need'nt text her this morning. I really wanted to text her, but she knew already wished me a good day, and she said she's gonna be busy, so as she knows I am also busy, I decided for this one time only to not text her until 6pm when I get home. To be honest I am a bit sad she hasn't messaged me today, and really confused about the whole thing. Any advice?
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    I just wanna add that I've not been in a relationship for quite a few years, and after being let down a number of times I thought I'd stop caring and let things just happen naturally, so I am not gonna make the same mistake as I have previously done by letting the whole situation of girl ending a good thing ruin me
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey guys, I started dating a girl recently and she asked me out after the 3rd date, which I happily agreed to.

    Anyway, I've only known her for 3 weeks, we've met up 4 times, and we started of whatsapp messaging every day, morning and night, to be honest this got a bit much, but not wanting to mess things up with her, I never failed to reply, was careful not to overdo it and everything, but she seems less responsive now.

    I met up with her yesterday, we kissed, and she invited me to a wedding with her next week, and I invited her to my nieces christening the day after. We are also meant to be meeting this Saturday, and I love seeing her, but the communication aspect is becoming an issue, how often to message her, and reading the signs etc.

    So I'm not playing games, but last night I thought I'd leave it a bit later to see if she messaged me goodnight, she didn't, so I messaged her and she replied with a message that at the end said, 'have a good day at college tomorrow xx', this is fine, so I thought maybe that was sign that I need'nt text her this morning. I really wanted to text her, but she knew already wished me a good day, and she said she's gonna be busy, so as she knows I am also busy, I decided for this one time only to not text her until 6pm when I get home. To be honest I am a bit sad she hasn't messaged me today, and really confused about the whole thing. Any advice?
    I wouldnt over analyse it so much, like you said you've both been busy today so maybe she s not had any time to text today. She's invited to you to things with her family so i d assume you've nothing to be worrying about at the moment
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    I wouldnt over analyse it so much, like you said you've both been busy today so maybe she s not had any time to text today. She's invited to you to things with her family so i d assume you've nothing to be worrying about at the moment
    I know, just things seem so complicated, I refuse to keep up this level of insecurity for long, and will talk it out soon, and not gonna continue with it if things aren't satisfactory eventually. Really don't have the energy for this kinda chit anymore, would honestly prefer to be single and depressed than in a relationship feeling elated one day, then horribly insecure the next. Why do I even bother
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know, just things seem so complicated, I refuse to keep up this level of insecurity for long, and will talk it out soon, and not gonna continue with it if things aren't satisfactory eventually. Really don't have the energy for this kinda chit anymore, would honestly prefer to be single and depressed than in a relationship feeling elated one day, then horribly insecure the next. Why do I even bother
    Talking about your insecurities is a difficult thing but its a good thing to do. I m sure in time you'll get into the swing of things with communicating with your girlfriend, you havent been together long so give it more time.
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    I wouldnt over analyse it so much, like you said you've both been busy today so maybe she s not had any time to text today. She's invited to you to things with her family so i d assume you've nothing to be worrying about at the moment
    You are right about not over analysing things too much, but it feels a funny situation for me to be in, and unfamiliar territory. I really wanna keep it casual for now, however am I right to be just causal if we are as she said, bf and gf? Do I just plod along, or what?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You are right about not over analysing things too much, but it feels a funny situation for me to be in, and unfamiliar territory. I really wanna keep it casual for now, however am I right to be just causal if we are as she said, bf and gf? Do I just plod along, or what?
    I d go with ploding along for now and see how things go.
 
 
 
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