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    Hi All
    I have a serious question for you guys, I do not want it to be taken as a joke, I like this girl, I do not know her on a personal basic, I see her from time to time, we do not talk, we have talked maybe once or twice not for long periods of time, I asked her out, I think I was too intense in my approach, I was going upstairs when I met her in the stairs, I asked her out, she said she had a boyfriend, She said they just recently started dating. I respect she has a boyfriend, I am not here to wreck her relationship. I was thinking of approaching her and apologising if my approach was weird, I was thinking of building a friendship basis with her, I was stupid in my approach, I was thinking I could redeem myself by apologising and telling her I respect you have a boyfriend, I would like to be friends, or should I just let things be.
    I am not happy with my approach, I asked her direct, I was thinking of becoming friends with her, if she likes me, then things can go further.

    Opinions anyone,Thanks in advance
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    leave it and move on
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    ^agree, there's no point in dragging out any awkwardness, I'm sure she's not bothered and you weren't disrespectful or out of line, just forget about it
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    (Original post by Blondie987)
    ^agree, there's no point in dragging out any awkwardness, I'm sure she's not bothered and you weren't disrespectful or out of line, just forget about it
    I was polite, I always speak to people with courtesy, I was just thinking maybe my approach put her off, I was thinking maybe my approach scared her and she said she has a boyfriend.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was polite, I always speak to people with courtesy, I was just thinking maybe my approach put her off, I was thinking maybe my approach scared her and she said she has a boyfriend.
    If she was scared off, you're not going to make it any better by bringing it up again, if you're already friends just mention it casually at some point that you hope you two are cool and leave it at that.
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    "I was thinking of becoming friends with her, if she likes me then things can go further"

    No they can't. She has a boyfriend. If she lied about that, it means she doesn't like you. I would forget about it and move on.
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    (Original post by Katarvi)
    "I was thinking of becoming friends with her, if she likes me then things can go further"

    No they can't. She has a boyfriend. If she lied about that, it means she doesn't like you. I would forget about it and move on.
    Ok, i agree its hard, i have to do it though
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    She has a boyfriend already.

    Forget it and just look for another girl.
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    Just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean the relationship is working or will last, don't become friends with her though, just make it clear about where you stand (as you did) and let her seek you out if anything happens between them, if they break up and she sees you at a bar or something you could try again.
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean the relationship is working or will last, don't become friends with her though, just make it clear about where you stand (as you did) and let her seek you out if anything happens between them, if they break up and she sees you at a bar or something you could try again.
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean the relationship is working or will last, don't become friends with her though, just make it clear about where you stand (as you did) and let her seek you out if anything happens between them, if they break up and she sees you at a bar or something you could try again.
    How do I make it clear where I stand with her? Should i do nothing and wait for her, i dont go to bars etc.
 
 
 
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