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Had a miscarriage today

Thread title says it all I suppose. I just don't don't know how to feel at the moment.

My boyfriend is in Spain, he is flying back in the morning to be with me but for the next 12 hours, I am just driving myself insane here, and just needed someone to talk too, I suppose.

I was 9 weeks gone, I was looking forward to it and I just feel so empty. I have been taking it all out on myself, started cutting and drinking vodka for the first time in weeks and I could really do without, not being strong :frown:

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Reply 1
Aww no way, I'm really sorry to hear that.
You don't wanna be drinking or doing anything silly.
There's not much anyone can say tbf, so you just gota keep ya chin up!! :smile:
Reply 2
:hugs:
Reply 3
I posted on here a month or so ago, saying I though I had an alcohol problem. I have done so well since I knew that I was pregnant as I didn't want anything to go wrong, and it has.

Vodka was just staring at me, being in the house myself has not helped and I just keep punishing myself :frown:
Have you got any friends nearby that you could call? I'm sure they would come around and talk to you no matter what time it is, this must be extremely hard for you.
I doubt this will help, but alcohol will not help you at all or solves your problems.
Reply 6
Alcohol will not help the problem. To be fair, it will probably make the situation worse. Why don't you just go out? Stay out of the house and try not to think about it.
Well you do seriously need some help from somewhere, looking at your past threads. Things have obviously been bad in many ways for all this to happen.
Reply 8
I know it will not help. I was keeping my pregnancy secret until I was 12 weeks, and the only person that knows stays in England, a long way away from where I stay.

I was thinking of calling someone anyway, but then i think it would probs best to just go to sleep and try and block out how I am feeling, instead of taking it out on myself with alcohol and razorblades.

I am just trying to console myself by thinking, when I wake up he will nearly be home :frown:
Reply 9
It's my life
Well you do seriously need some help from somewhere, looking at your past threads. Things have obviously been bad in many ways for all this to happen.


I have professional help, and have an appointment on Wednesday - so I suppose that's not too long to wait. I fear though, that I always go, I talk and do whatever they say - and it makes no difference at all.
Trouble is, a lot of these places don't make you feel any better, just hope your boyfriend will continue to be supportive. Guess least that's one positive in your life.
I just read all my threads there, and I must look like a complete mental case, I'm not really - just don't find any of the support helpful.

For instance, I have a bad day today and I have already cut myself, taking painkillers and drank a fair wee bit of vodka. I'm pretty impulsive, and so things without thinking.
Reply 12
You've really got to help yourself petal. You've had a miscarriage, so you're obviously and understanably very down and out. Think of it this way though: You've just got over a drink problem, if you start drinking again it wont help your chances if you get pregnant again, I'm sure you don't want another miscarriage. I hope tht didn't come across as harsh, but just trying to put things into perspective.

It seems bad, and, it is, but there's nothing you can do about it, so don't punish yourself :smile:
Hollz
I just read all my threads there, and I must look like a complete mental case, I'm not really - just don't find any of the support helpful.

For instance, I have a bad day today and I have already cut myself, taking painkillers and drank a fair wee bit of vodka. I'm pretty impulsive, and so things without thinking.


I'm guessing you are tired of being like that, but you know if you continue to do this, you are going to do a lot of damage to yourself.
Nah I don't, but I did say I am pretty impulsive and for me, being myself it just seemed like the best way to act, it was a way to block out howI was feeling.
Reply 15
Hollz
I posted on here a month or so ago, saying I though I had an alcohol problem. I have done so well since I knew that I was pregnant as I didn't want anything to go wrong, and it has.

Vodka was just staring at me, being in the house myself has not helped and I just keep punishing myself :frown:


Don't beat yourself up Hollz, you did your best to give up alcohol for the sake of your baby you couldn't have done more. 10 to 20 percent of confirmed pregnancies result in miscarriage, sometimes these things just happen and it's mother nature making a correction and nothing to do with anything you may have done.
Have a hot bath? Have some hot chocolate. I am sorry to hear that. Nothing else I can say aww Im sorry *hugs*
Reply 17
Have you been to the hospital to get checked out? If not, go and say you need to speak to someone sooner than Wednesday and they may be able to help out.
see your friends. look after yourself, watch some tv you like, try and keep your mind off it until your boyfriend gets there. maybe a drink will help you to sleep, but try not to rely on it. just look after yourself and try and do something low key to keep yourself occupied until your boyfriend comes home.
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