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    Settling down, yes. Having kids, no.
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    Yeah. Having thought about it seems like the only way I can avoid having a massive existential crisis as I get older (well minimise one anyway, or make it worse as I know these things I have brought into the word are going to get old and die as well). Currently I think 28 is the best age to have kids. When your kids are teenagers you are in your 40s which is plenty young enough to do exciting things with them etc.

    That gives me five years to sort myself out. That's not very long :-/ I wanna be 19 again :-/


    But then we are all living longer now. I don't want to see my kids get past middle age :-/ I want to be dead before that. Ahhhh. I don't know

    First things first, finding a suitable and reciprocal woman who doesn't drive me nuts Then can worry about kids.
    I think giving yourself deadlines to have completed various milestones by is generally a bad idea. Because when you fail to achieve it, it makes a midlife crisis more likely.
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    I think giving yourself deadlines to have completed various milestones by is generally a bad idea. Because when you fail to achieve it, it makes a midlife crisis more likely.
    Yeah but I need a kick up the arse

    I am on anti depression drugs now for the first time ever. Already in crisis
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    'Settling down', as in purely getting married, yes.
    The rest, no. I'd much rather spend my life travelling and enjoying life rather than strapped down by sprogs.

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    (Original post by jblackmoustache)
    As I'm in my late 20s I get this question all the time.

    I just can't imagine settling down and having kids like everyone I know is. It's like everyone has gone from having mad nights out to dinner parties and wedding parties. So many weddings coming up.
    I just wouldn't be able to stand having my own kids and the everything else that comes with settling down. Living with a partner, living in suburbia, having to get a babysitter everytime I go out, having to make plans when school is out, having to put up with bad behaviour, the financial strain, etc.
    Of course it takes two as well and i'm pretty much single pringle who is crap with women and a poor postgrad, but even if I fell in love with a girl I don't think I could settle down. There's just so much to do and so much to see and so much I want to achieve. When kids come into the mix and a wife/long term partner your life is no longer just yours?

    Anyone else feel like Peter Pan atm?
    I've already done it mate. Being married isn't so bad. The company is a definite plus!
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    I'm only 17 but not at this rate. How will I talk to girls when i move from London to Manchester next year when I can barely muster the courage to ask for extra ketchup at McDonald's.
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    Yes

    I don't want to p*ss my life away...
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    I can see myself settling down with someone, in a nice little house in a quiet rural area, with a career developing steadily...

    But I can't see myself having kids
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    (Original post by Hydeman)
    Oh well. Maybe you can move back for university.

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    not that straightforward london is basically a no go zone... but hopefully there will be girls at uni
    and u know :lol: a poisonous leaf that climbs on trees
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    not that straightforward london is basically a no go zone... but hopefully there will be girls at uni
    Wanna talk about it over PMs? :beard:

    and u know :lol: a poisonous leaf that climbs on trees
    Ah. Piggies, you mean. :3
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    (Original post by Hydeman)
    Wanna talk about it over PMs? :beard:

    Ah. Piggies, you mean. :3
    awww you are so cute :cute: there isn't much to say really, other than some stuff happened there which, bad memories y'know?

    and no xD for once :lol:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    awww you are so cute :cute: there isn't much to say really, other than some stuff happened there which, bad memories y'know?
    Ah. I understand. I feel the same way about Cardiff, I think. I've no intention of ever coming back here once I've moved out for university, even though it's a pretty nice place to live.

    and no xD for once :lol:

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    i mean ivy she lives there
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    Ohhhhhhh. Gotcha. :yy:

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    I'm slow, okay. xD
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    Definitely. I love the thought

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    (Original post by Hydeman)
    Ah. I understand. I feel the same way about Cardiff, I think. I've no intention of ever coming back here once I've moved out for university, even though it's a pretty nice place to live.
    yes :hugs: awwww <3 and yes ik what you mean , would feel like i was going backwards instead of forwards u know?
    :rofl: dw about it :lol:


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    Definitely. I love the thought

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    awwww :cute: everything you post is adorable
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    awwww :cute: everything you post is adorable
    Awww same to you chick :teehee:
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    lol **** that.
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    i'd love to settle down and have kids in say a decade after i have banked a decent amount of money so my company runs itself to an extent and i can afford to take time out of the directors chair
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    I'm in my mid twenties, OP, so I know how you feel. I keep seeing my peers getting engaged, married and having kids but at the moment (I've never wanted kids) I'm too focused on my career and travelling and I'm simply too busy to settle down. I socialise a fair bit but I still don't even have time to hang out with my friends on a regular basis so I can only imagine the issues I would have if I was to find a girlfriend
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    (Original post by SeanFM)
    Yes.

    Finding someone, on the other hand.. :rofl:
    Aw, I know I'm always replying to your posts but you will find someone and she'll be amazing, trust me
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    Aw, I know I'm always replying to your posts but you will find someone and she'll be amazing, trust me
    :lol: can I get that in writing?

    I wonder if my TSR crush feels that way :holmes:
 
 
 
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