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mum's getting depression again
I can tell it's happening by her behaviour,obsessively tidying,saying wierd things,more stressy at me and then mood changes. I keep eating cus I'm so nervous all the time because of it.
How could this happen again?
It hurts soooo bad.
I can't tell the doctor, I did before and she's never properly forgiven me.
I don't want her to go back to the linden centre
I just want her to be better again
This is breaking my heart again.
How could this happen again?It hurts soooo bad.
I can't tell the doctor, I did before and she's never properly forgiven me.
I don't want her to go back to the linden centre
I just want her to be better again
This is breaking my heart again.
Reply 1
Maybe she has just had a stressy day. I obsessively tidy, say odd things and am stressed but not depressed. Lillian, you seem like a lovely girl 
but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I bet your mum is stressed in part because her daughter is considering dropping out/not doing basic qualifications everyone else has. I know that would make me depressed and annoyed. Good luck though. 
but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I bet your mum is stressed in part because her daughter is considering dropping out/not doing basic qualifications everyone else has. I know that would make me depressed and annoyed. Good luck though. 
Reply 3
Hi there
I don't know the history between you and your mum but maybe you could:
Hope your mother gets better before she gets worse again.
I don't know the history between you and your mum but maybe you could:
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Try talking to her and approaching in a manner she won't realise you are talking about the onset of depression or just talk to her openly and ask her to get some medical advise before it becomes actual depression. Maybe if you tell her how it makes you feel she would try to seek some help?
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If you can't talk to her, maybe you could ask someone else to talk to her?
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You could try talking to some close friends for your own health?
Reply 4
KeenEconomist
Maybe she has just had a stressy day. I obsessively tidy, say odd things and am stressed but not depressed. Lillian, you seem like a lovely girl but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I bet your mum is stressed in part because her daughter is considering dropping out/not doing basic qualifications everyone else has. I know that would make me depressed and annoyed. Good luck though.
but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I bet your mum is stressed in part because her daughter is considering dropping out/not doing basic qualifications everyone else has. I know that would make me depressed and annoyed. Good luck though. Hmm, I am inclined to agree with this.
KeenEconomist
Maybe she has just had a stressy day. I obsessively tidy, say odd things and am stressed but not depressed. Lillian, you seem like a lovely girl but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes.
but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I have to agree with this. I know what it's like when everything just seems terrible and gets on top of you, but it happens to all of us at some point. We just have to work through it, carry on with life and try not to let it get us down too much. Letting yourself become bogged down in it all just doesn't help, usually it makes it seem 100 times worse than it really is.
Perhaps try talking to your mum? If the symptoms are there she may have noticed them herself anyway. And if you feel telling the doctor is the right thing to do, then do it! Your mum might be mad but she'll realise in the long run that what you did was for the best and that you're just looking out for her.
Reply 6
Thanks guys, I was worried I'd get a flaming for not saying something particularly nice
Reply 7
KeenEconomist
Maybe she has just had a stressy day. I obsessively tidy, say odd things and am stressed but not depressed. Lillian, you seem like a lovely girl but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I bet your mum is stressed in part because her daughter is considering dropping out/not doing basic qualifications everyone else has. I know that would make me depressed and annoyed. Good luck though.
but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I bet your mum is stressed in part because her daughter is considering dropping out/not doing basic qualifications everyone else has. I know that would make me depressed and annoyed. Good luck though. Well I'm going to disagree.
(partially). I could be wrong here, but I was under the impression that Lilian wasn't going to drop out and not get basic qualifications - I thought she was just going to take a break and not take the exams right now so she can get herself sorted out and then hopefully take the exams at a later date. This isn't the be all and end all of her education by any means and, ok, sure, her mother will be worried about her. But if her mother lets herself slide into depression again then its her own damn fault, not Lilian's.
Though of course I do agree when you say her mother might just be worried and anxious and not depressed. I hope that's the case. I also agree that Lilian needs to take some positive action to help herself, but I see no harm in her posting here with her troubles at the same time. I think it's a bit insensitive to say that she's 'whiny and emo', she has some problems which she's trying to sort out. I know TSR is hardly coucelling, but if talking about it here has a similar effect then I think it's great. Sometimes just keeping busy isn't always going to help make things better.
Lilian have you seen a doctor for yourself yet? You said you were going to and then you didn't (can't remember the specific excuse you gave). Maybe now you can see why getting professional help is so important..? If you don't think you need a doc then what else are you doing to help yourself?
And about your mum - chin up.
I know that living with people who suffer from depression can be hard to adjust to, but it may not get that bad. I know this sounds hard, but, (speaking from experience), once you come round to the idea that you aren't responsible and its up to them to fix themselved you do kind of get used to it and it stops hurting so much... 
Reply 8
Vampyrcorn
Well I'm going to disagree. (partially).
I could be wrong here, but I was under the impression that Lilian wasn't going to drop out and not get basic qualifications - I thought she was just going to take a break and not take the exams right now so she can get herself sorted out and then hopefully take the exams at a later date. This isn't the be all and end all of her education by any means and, ok, sure, her mother will be worried about her. But if her mother lets herself slide into depression again then its her own damn fault, not Lilian's.
Though of course I do agree when you say her mother might just be worried and anxious and not depressed. I hope that's the case. I also agree that Lilian needs to take some positive action to help herself, but I see no harm in her posting here with her troubles at the same time. I think it's a bit insensitive to say that she's 'whiny and emo', she has some problems which she's trying to sort out. I know TSR is hardly coucelling, but if talking about it here has a similar effect then I think it's great. Sometimes just keeping busy isn't always going to help make things better.
Lilian have you seen a doctor for yourself yet? You said you were going to and then you didn't (can't remember the specific excuse you gave). Maybe now you can see why getting professional help is so important..? If you don't think you need a doc then what else are you doing to help yourself?
And about your mum - chin up. I know that living with people who suffer from depression can be hard to adjust to, but it may not get that bad. I know this sounds hard, but, (speaking from experience), once you come round to the idea that you aren't responsible and its up to them to fix themselved you do kind of get used to it and it stops hurting so much...
(partially). I could be wrong here, but I was under the impression that Lilian wasn't going to drop out and not get basic qualifications - I thought she was just going to take a break and not take the exams right now so she can get herself sorted out and then hopefully take the exams at a later date. This isn't the be all and end all of her education by any means and, ok, sure, her mother will be worried about her. But if her mother lets herself slide into depression again then its her own damn fault, not Lilian's.
Though of course I do agree when you say her mother might just be worried and anxious and not depressed. I hope that's the case. I also agree that Lilian needs to take some positive action to help herself, but I see no harm in her posting here with her troubles at the same time. I think it's a bit insensitive to say that she's 'whiny and emo', she has some problems which she's trying to sort out. I know TSR is hardly coucelling, but if talking about it here has a similar effect then I think it's great. Sometimes just keeping busy isn't always going to help make things better.
Lilian have you seen a doctor for yourself yet? You said you were going to and then you didn't (can't remember the specific excuse you gave). Maybe now you can see why getting professional help is so important..? If you don't think you need a doc then what else are you doing to help yourself?
And about your mum - chin up.
I know that living with people who suffer from depression can be hard to adjust to, but it may not get that bad. I know this sounds hard, but, (speaking from experience), once you come round to the idea that you aren't responsible and its up to them to fix themselved you do kind of get used to it and it stops hurting so much... I see where you are coming from, but I'm sceptical. It just seems such an easy way out. I was an unhappy, bullied, sad, obese, disabled Sixth Form student (and I'm not particularly emotionally strong either) but I stuck in there in school and got myself to a top university. She's obviously not stupid (she has 2As at AS I think) so I just think it's a bit pathetic and lazy.
Oh well.
Reply 9
I've noticed Lillian's posts seem a little self pitying. And self pity is never a good thing.
Reply 10
I think you guys are being a bit harsh. It's a lot to go through, just having eating problems let alone anything else that might be going on so maybe instead of saying she's a whining emo, how about some support or advice?
Lilian-you have to put your health first, get your eating sorted and get yourself stable-you're more use to your mum when you're happy and healthy than you are with eating problems. Also, there might be something in the relationship between your problems and your mum's. Maybe she is worried about you, which is stressing her out. I know my mum is always stressing out about me lol.
Hope things get easier for you!
Lilian-you have to put your health first, get your eating sorted and get yourself stable-you're more use to your mum when you're happy and healthy than you are with eating problems. Also, there might be something in the relationship between your problems and your mum's. Maybe she is worried about you, which is stressing her out. I know my mum is always stressing out about me lol.
Hope things get easier for you!
Reply 11
KeenEconomist
Maybe she has just had a stressy day. I obsessively tidy, say odd things and am stressed but not depressed. Lillian, you seem like a lovely girl but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I bet your mum is stressed in part because her daughter is considering dropping out/not doing basic qualifications everyone else has. I know that would make me depressed and annoyed. Good luck though.
but I'm finding that a lot of your posts/threads are taking a slightly emo/whiney/I'm despressed/'the world's out to get me' slant and frankly it drives me up the wall. Go back to school/revise will take your mind of things. Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but I really think you need to get your act together sometimes. I bet your mum is stressed in part because her daughter is considering dropping out/not doing basic qualifications everyone else has. I know that would make me depressed and annoyed. Good luck though. You're well out of order. And it's plain mean to criticise her for having 'I'm depressed' posts, if she's down then she's going to want to spill her heart out on a forum, sometimes it's easier that way. My mum has mental illness and it affects me hugely, and it's hard when you are the 'child' and your parent isn't in control. Luckily I have now left home, so there is much less stress for me, but this poor girl is trying to stay strong for her mum whilst her own world probably feels like it's falling apart. Don't judge her, she needs support. Lilian, I have been exactly where you are, so feel free to PM me
Reply 12
try talking to her about it when she's having a 'better' day.
my mum was depressed and is currently 'ok' but she's mainly depressed due to her mother putting pressure on her...
and sometimes it gets to my mum..
and i can see it happening all over again. so when i see her having a bad day, i just wait til she's feeling a bit better and just tell her im worried about it and ask her to chill out and see if there's anything you can do!
my mum was depressed and is currently 'ok' but she's mainly depressed due to her mother putting pressure on her...
and sometimes it gets to my mum..
and i can see it happening all over again. so when i see her having a bad day, i just wait til she's feeling a bit better and just tell her im worried about it and ask her to chill out and see if there's anything you can do!
I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with depression today (just as a catchup for people who care)
Having a blood test.
Not alllowed to lose anymore weight.
I feared I would seem self pitying. I'm not I just sometimes need to get how I feel out and it makes me kinda go over it more in my head and stuff.
thanks for the people who gave me the love
Having a blood test.
Not alllowed to lose anymore weight.
I feared I would seem self pitying. I'm not I just sometimes need to get how I feel out and it makes me kinda go over it more in my head and stuff.
thanks for the people who gave me the love
Reply 14
Lilian
I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with depression today (just as a catchup for people who care)
Having a blood test.
Not alllowed to lose anymore weight.
I feared I would seem self pitying. I'm not I just sometimes need to get how I feel out and it makes me kinda go over it more in my head and stuff.
thanks for the people who gave me the love
Having a blood test.
Not alllowed to lose anymore weight.
I feared I would seem self pitying. I'm not I just sometimes need to get how I feel out and it makes me kinda go over it more in my head and stuff.
thanks for the people who gave me the love
Aww
At least now the doc's got his eye on you so he can start making you feel better hopefully. Stay strong hun Related discussions
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