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Can anyone help?

Sorry if this is in the wrong place. I wasn't sure where to post this.

Basically, I am really worried that someone who I only know online has committed suicide. I'm going insane because I tried to help (as best as you can over the internet) but I think I was too late. I've tried to get in contact with them in all the ways I can think of - TSR, MSN, email, MySpace, Facebook - but I've had no reply and have not seen them online for a couple of days (since I discovered they had posted what I interpreted as a suicide note). Is there anything I can do? Have I left it too late trying to get in contact with them? Any help would be much appreciated.

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Reply 1

Do you actually know anything about who they are? Know someone who knows them in real life?

Reply 2

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

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Do you actually know anything about who they are? Know someone who knows them in real life?

Unfortunately not.

Reply 3

Ah, then no, not really...

Reply 4

Missy_Robbo

Do you feel you have done all you physically can under the circumstances? I understand that you are anxious to know, but you can't do any more than your best! Are we able to know that the 'suicide note' said? or not?! We can then possibly interpirate whether we think you should be concerned or not!?

Reply 5

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

On the depression society thread, this:

I can't deal with any of this anymore. Everything hurts and nothing is getting any better. There's only one option left.

Reply 6

Becca <3.

Oh no! That's not very good...
But sometimes, no matter how hard you try [and you sound as if you've tried quite hard!] people have already made up their mind. Especially if they're over the internet.. they have no real connection with you, so to make a difference was always gonna be quite a task..

As I can empathise with your worry, I don't think there's much else you can do. Just keep a check on it though. You never know, maybe they're just going through a "phase". They might just re-appear tonight for all you know!

Take Care. Hope it turns out ok. :smile:

Becca <3.

Reply 7

tetrahydrocannabinol.

I had a situation like this on here, I posted a thread in Ask A Mod and they sorted it.

Reply 8

yellow96

I knew a guy online who I think killed himself a few years ago. Could you message some of their friends on MySpace and ask if they've had any contact? Don't worry yourself too much though, it could be the case that they're too upset / depressed to spend time on MSN and the such at the moment, or maybe their internet is just down.

Reply 9

girl_in_black

Like Thelfo said, you could try to contact a friend of theirs on Myspace who might know the person in real life and ask them to contact her. Or if you could try to find her phone number in a phone book, although that will proably be quite difficult.

But as harsh as this might sound, you might have no choice but to leave it and wait to see what happens. Even if she has tried to do something, there is nothing you can do about it :frown:

. I do hope that everything turns out OK.

Reply 10

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

This person deleted their MySpace page. I tried to find it so I don't know how I can contact their friends.

Reply 11

Sweet-Euphoria

It's nothing to do with you. You shouldn't feel responsible. It was nice of you to try and help, but maybe you've learned a lesson. Don't get involved with someone like him/her again.

Reply 12

dh00001

post this in AAM. contact admins to the sites. and as others have said try to contact their other friends

Reply 13

Angrybanana

I can understand why you're so worried but remember that there could be all kinds of explanations for him/her not being online that don't involve suicide so please try not to jump to that conclusion right away. But if there is no way of getting in touch with them then unfortunately there is little you can do anyway.

I hope they're ok, and I'd like to think they just wanted to vent their feelings. People don't always mean what they say.

Reply 14

girl_in_black

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

This person deleted their MySpace page. I tried to find it so I don't know how I can contact their friends.

Try contacting their friends on facebook?

But if you tried to contact her on myspace before and she has now deleted it, it means that she is fine, for the moment at least? Maybe she just needs a break from the internet and I know what she wrote does seem worrying but not everyone who plans things like that actually does them. And does she live with someone? Because if she does, that means she has more chance of being discovered if she does try something... :frown:

Reply 15

StrangerthanEleven

do you know what area they live in? If you do would something like that not be on the local news if it really happened?

Reply 16

girl_in_black

hayles101

do you know what area they live in? If you do would something like that not be on the local news if it really happened?

To be honest, I don't think it would. How often do you hear about people (who aren't famous) commiting suicide on the news? Yet even in a town the size of mine there are several attempts made almost every night :frown:

Reply 17

Llamaaa

Do you know their full name? If so, you could try to find them, check if a death has been registered, phone the police in the local area. I would check local newspapers as well, you never no.

Reply 18

Ginger_Rogers

^ That's all you can do really.

On a side note, I don't think it is healthy to surround yourself with suicidal depressives, if you are of the same disposition. You wont rise out of it.