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    Basically what the title says - I have ZERO friends/aquaintances. I just spend my time going from class to my room and back, sometimes I go out walking or the library but that's about it. I do spend Wednesday's going to groups but nothing has come out of those groups and they are often cancelled anyway.

    It's been a very hard time for me this year, i'm going home tomorrow so I suppose it doesn't matter but i've just spent the last 20 minutes reflecting on it and i've realised that I haven't really made any connections with anyone really.

    I have stayed in a single occupancy flat the whole year. The university are trying to get me to go into shared accomodation on campus next year but i'm not sure? Some people have suggested that I could make friends that way but it's not guarnteed..

    The whole thing puts me into a state of depression constantly, I often cry in bed and sit up for hours and hours thinking about it over and over again. I wonder what is wrong with me that I have went a full year and not even made one aquaintance at the very least. Sometimes I wonder if everyone hates me or something. I don't think i'm a boring person so people should at least find something to talk to me about, I feel like i've got at least something interesting to offer. I don't think people give me a chance, like when I am around my family and people I get along with I am really jokey and bubbly but they are not seeing that side of me.

    I tried to discuss it with the head of the course this week but she was very unsympathetic and her suggestions were a waste of time. She basically said i'll just have to get on with it and that she's not going to do anything about it... I didn't come out of the meeting feeling any better. The university hasn't really tried to help me or give me any guidance when I have tried to bring it up.

    It just makes me very sad, I don't think that I am getting my full potential out of this and I don't think people are seeing the real me or giving me a chance to show who I am. I really don't know what to do about this anymore, it is very hard.
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    (Original post by Frostyjoe)
    Basically what the title says - I have ZERO friends/aquaintances. I just spend my time going from class to my room and back, sometimes I go out walking or the library but that's about it. I do spend Wednesday's going to groups but nothing has come out of those groups and they are often cancelled anyway.

    It's been a very hard time for me this year, i'm going home tomorrow so I suppose it doesn't matter but i've just spent the last 20 minutes reflecting on it and i've realised that I haven't really made any connections with anyone really.

    I have stayed in a single occupancy flat the whole year. The university are trying to get me to go into shared accomodation on campus next year but i'm not sure? Some people have suggested that I could make friends that way but it's not guarnteed..

    The whole thing puts me into a state of depression constantly, I often cry in bed and sit up for hours and hours thinking about it over and over again. I wonder what is wrong with me that I have went a full year and not even made one aquaintance at the very least. Sometimes I wonder if everyone hates me or something. I don't think i'm a boring person so people should at least find something to talk to me about, I feel like i've got at least something interesting to offer. I don't think people give me a chance, like when I am around my family and people I get along with I am really jokey and bubbly but they are not seeing that side of me.

    I tried to discuss it with the head of the course this week but she was very unsympathetic and her suggestions were a waste of time. She basically said i'll just have to get on with it and that she's not going to do anything about it... I didn't come out of the meeting feeling any better. The university hasn't really tried to help me or give me any guidance when I have tried to bring it up.

    It just makes me very sad, I don't think that I am getting my full potential out of this and I don't think people are seeing the real me or giving me a chance to show who I am. I really don't know what to do about this anymore, it is very hard.
    Do you have any hobbies you enjoy? I'm sure there are societies or clubs you could join with same interests as you.

    You could also try conversing with people on your course. If you really want to make friends you need to put yourself out there, not just sit around hoping people will just become your friends.

    I'm sure you could do it, be optimistic! You might want that shared accommodation for next year, but you'll still have to put yourself out there to make friends.

    I'm sure you can do it, good luck.
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    Join some societies and clubs. It doesn't matter if you are not that keen on what on offer, its about getting more social. That is the reason why there are so many societies and clubs at university. Most British people need an excuse to talk to people so having a common interest or activity whether its tennis, Star Trek or politics helps overcome the innate reserve and lack of spontaneity common to the British.

    Also, most universities have a support and counselling service so its a good idea to find what they can do for you until you can get out more and make connections.
 
 
 
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