Why ruin other peoples lives, just because your own is lame?!

There is this group of girls in my year at school! They get a kick out of intimidating people and they dont ever think about other peoples feelings! When they fall out with you they will shout things down the corridor at you just to make sure you hear, and alot of the time the things they shout are rather immature yet quite hurtful! They will also do any thing they can to make your days at school really unbarable! They were shouting abuse at me one day for something i really hadn't done, and so i went into the toilet with 2 of my friends to talk and they surrounded around the toilet and were saying things just so i could hear!!

The story behind all of the abuse is that they were all friends with me, and quite good friends too, and then one day someone told them a rumour that wasnt true and then one of them turned against me! This i could handle but then the rest of the group all turned against me aswel! They all started slagging me of, and saying **** to ma face! It was coming to the point where i didnt want to go to school!

One of the girls in this group also beat up one of my good friends IN school! She attacked her with no real reason and then didnt even show that she was sorry! She called this girl (my friend) fat and horrible names like that, but it aint my mate that fat...its her! She is so vcious and she is only ever happy when shes making other people unhappy!!!

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with people like this, that want to make every day at school hell? Im on with my exams and so is my mate and they just wont leave it?! I could handle it if they wernt so nasty!!!

They were also sending one of my best friends text messages saying they were going to 'batter' me!!!

Help!? :frown:

Reply 1

dh00001

16

people like that are called bullies. dont have anything to do with them and if youre feeling threatened or harrassed tell someone in autority.

Reply 2

username47781

20

I think at the end of the day, people like them are insecure themselves and have issues in life. They won't get far in the end.

Reply 3

SFC_FOREVER!

1

They are pathetic little school chrildren who think they are all grown up. Seriously, the best advice would be to smack them right in the face, and I bet they don't trouble you again.

Reply 4

Vampyrcorn

14

If they physically hurt you get them arrested for assault. :smile:

Reply 5

londonkid89

Sounded like my high school. Personally, ignore them. Yeah it's easier said than done, but so long as you've got your friends, there shouldn't be anything to worry about. You could also talk to your tutor/head of year about it, but in my past experience, it didn't help at all.

Reply 6

evil groove

Keep your head down; ignore them. The obvious advice works.

Reply 7

Yellowmarshmellow

dh00001

people like that are called bullies. dont have anything to do with them and if youre feeling threatened or harrassed tell someone in autority.

Agreed - they have no right to be treating you like this.

Reply 8

Angrybanana

11

Schokis

Keep your head down; ignore them. The obvious advice works.

Sometimes that works, but in this case it's quite severe so probably won't go away on it's own. If she ignores them, that's like giving them permission to treat her that way so they won't stop.

I agree that you should get the authorities involved, and maybe even resort to the police if they attack you or your friends again because that's assault.

Also have a look at this thread, it has good advice for dealing with bullying
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=185844

Reply 9

sufiankane

2

if she cusses you down, cuss her back. if she hits you, punch her back.

Reply 10

Missy_Robbo

OP

She thinks shes really hard though, and if we even say as much as a word to one of these girls, we will get her older sister and all her friends smashing our heads in! Thats how bad it is! So we cant stand up for ourselves because we would just come out worse!!

Reply 11

Guitarman5

I think laughing at them to their face would work rather well. Also when they start shouting stuff at you laugh/smile.

Keep this up for a week and they'll get bored at the lack of reaction you're giving them.

Cushty!

Reply 12

Fishfinger Sandwich

1

Missy_Robbo

There is this group of girls in my year at school! They get a kick out of intimidating people and they dont ever think about other peoples feelings! When they fall out with you they will shout things down the corridor at you just to make sure you hear, and alot of the time the things they shout are rather immature yet quite hurtful! They will also do any thing they can to make your days at school really unbarable! They were shouting abuse at me one day for something i really hadn't done, and so i went into the toilet with 2 of my friends to talk and they surrounded around the toilet and were saying things just so i could hear!!

The story behind all of the abuse is that they were all friends with me, and quite good friends too, and then one day someone told them a rumour that wasnt true and then one of them turned against me! This i could handle but then the rest of the group all turned against me aswel! They all started slagging me of, and saying **** to ma face! It was coming to the point where i didnt want to go to school!

One of the girls in this group also beat up one of my good friends IN school! She attacked her with no real reason and then didnt even show that she was sorry! She called this girl (my friend) fat and horrible names like that, but it aint my mate that fat...its her! She is so vcious and she is only ever happy when shes making other people unhappy!!!

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with people like this, that want to make every day at school hell? Im on with my exams and so is my mate and they just wont leave it?! I could handle it if they wernt so nasty!!!

They were also sending one of my best friends text messages saying they were going to 'batter' me!!!

Help!? :frown:

Your situation sounds very similar to what happened to me at school, (although in my case they didnt threaten to "batter" me, because I would have been able to turn anyone of them ino a mangled corpse in about 12 seconds). I kept trying to be friends with them for a month or so, and kept hanging out with one of them who stuck by me for a while when all my other "friends" had become my enemies. After a while, I got sick of it and kind of excommunicated myself from them. I started hanging around with some pseudo friends that I'd known for a while and after some time, these were my new group of friends. Strangely, now I'm at college, I'm friends with some of the people that were my enemies before (although not the main offender, because obviously, I hate his manipulative, evil guts).

All the way through my problems, I thought about just kicking the **** out of one of them (at my lowest point, I actually got into the early stages of a plan to stab one of them), but this would have been a bad idea. I would have ended up in serious trouble, and in the long run I would have been no better off. Only use violence if they use it on you.

Basically, you just need to do all the usual things that everyone else has said (avoid them , get new friends, try to ignore their pathetic and hurtful comments etc.).
Most people experience bullying whilst they're at school, you, like I was, are just unlucky that it was your friends who did it, so you don't really have anyone to turn to.

I'm sure it will pass in time;console;

Reply 13

Angelic_19

2

Missy_Robbo

There is this group of girls in my year at school! They get a kick out of intimidating people and they dont ever think about other peoples feelings! When they fall out with you they will shout things down the corridor at you just to make sure you hear, and alot of the time the things they shout are rather immature yet quite hurtful! They will also do any thing they can to make your days at school really unbarable! They were shouting abuse at me one day for something i really hadn't done, and so i went into the toilet with 2 of my friends to talk and they surrounded around the toilet and were saying things just so i could hear!!

The story behind all of the abuse is that they were all friends with me, and quite good friends too, and then one day someone told them a rumour that wasnt true and then one of them turned against me! This i could handle but then the rest of the group all turned against me aswel! They all started slagging me of, and saying **** to ma face! It was coming to the point where i didnt want to go to school!

One of the girls in this group also beat up one of my good friends IN school! She attacked her with no real reason and then didnt even show that she was sorry! She called this girl (my friend) fat and horrible names like that, but it aint my mate that fat...its her! She is so vcious and she is only ever happy when shes making other people unhappy!!!

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with people like this, that want to make every day at school hell? Im on with my exams and so is my mate and they just wont leave it?! I could handle it if they wernt so nasty!!!

They were also sending one of my best friends text messages saying they were going to 'batter' me!!!

Help!? :frown:

Your situation sounds like mine....5years ago when i was in high school. I was in the same situation except the girls wernt my mates....but they were in my year and they did exactly what these stupid girls are doing to you. Tehy even threatened to beat me up. :frown:

I ended up leaving school after my gcse's and going somewhere else for sixth form because i just didn't want to come to school anymore :frown:

But you know what DON'T let them get to you. They are just bullies and they havn't grown up. Find new friends...even if it literally means asking a whole new lot of people if you can just hang with them. All you need to do is explain you situation and im sure people will be kind of enough to help you.
Just don't let them get to you. Everythingwill come back to them one day.....and they'll regret what they did to you :wink:

Reply 14

Sorani

16

They're just bitter, horrible people and also seem like the spineless cowardly types who have to hang around in groups to pick on others.

If it helps, think of it this way, when I was in school the girls who tended to be nasty and spiteful were the ones who got out of highschool with terrible marks and were the first to get knocked up and live very dreary lives.
It's one of the most satisfying types of revenge you can have in my opinion, to do well, go far and be happy while they've gone absoloutely nowhere.

Just ignore them (unless they get violent on you, then call the police) because you know you're better then they are and that you can do well with yourself.

Reply 15

sol89

10

I feel sorry for you but this kind of thing just flags up jealousy and it sucks to be honest.
The best way to cope with it is to just get on with your life and isolate yourself and the rest of your friends from them completely (don't even acknowledge them) and then outperform them academically or by whatever your good at that they aren't. Trust me, they'll get bored and move onto someone else or just stop completely.
I'm guessing you are in Y7-11 cos by Y12 these losers have dropped out of school so just concentrate on your GCSEs and wait till Sixth Form where you can surround yourself with decent people who are aiming towards the same goals as yourself.
Good luck... :smile:

Reply 16

nays

If they are sad enough to spend their lives obsessing over you, they obviously have problems and won't have the balls to do anything. don't worry!

Why ruin other peoples lives, just because your own is lame?!

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