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    I find it hard to talk to some others, especially figures of authority like teachers or just adults in general. I often have to convince my friends to do stuff for me like ask a teacher a question or buy food from a shop like mcdonalds or something. I cant even speak to people online without getting really nervous because just always afraid. I used to shake sometimes when some people spoke to me but that's stopped. now its usually just my heard beating really fast and i have this automatic reaction to look down and play with my hands. I'm fine when im with my friends in the case that my my confidence rises like tenfold but when im alone its like im suddenly back to feeling in this helpless state. I can tell that my friends and family are getting tired of this shyness but i cant talk to them about it because they always just think im being over dramatic when i try to mention it. I want to go to my GP and get a professional diagnosis but im too scared and i don't want to go on my own. One of my friends tries to be understanding and offer to go with me but i don't want to bother them and i don't want to do to it behind my mum and dad's back.

    i don't know what to do and i haven't always been like this, ive always been a bit shy but it only got this bad at the end of year 7/beginning of year 8 (im in year 12 now)
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    Speak to your gp, if you're friend is happy to go with you then I would advise you do go with them for support, don't be worried, they're only there to help you and you'll be able to get past this much easier with the right guidance. I'd also encourage you to speak to your parents about how you're feeling dpending on their stance on mental health but if you think they'll be supportive t will help you. Good luck op
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    I know from experience that social anxiety doesn't just go away by itself. I'm not trying to scare you - we both know how bad it can be. Do you avoid uncomfortable situations? That's one of the big indicators of social anxiety.

    If you feel more comfortable going with your friend, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that; you are only trying to improve your situation and that can never be a bad thing. Also, it sounds like you have low self-esteem. Don't be scared about "bothering" people - you'll find that most people will probably be glad to help and you're worth the effort.

    Things are never as bad as you think they are. From my experience, I always believe that the worst is going to happen and that nobody will like me. We're both the same as everyone else at heart and we just need to start believing it. Good luck
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    (Original post by Blondie987)
    Speak to your gp, if you're friend is happy to go with you then I would advise you do go with them for support, don't be worried, they're only there to help you and you'll be able to get past this much easier with the right guidance. I'd also encourage you to speak to your parents about how you're feeling dpending on their stance on mental health but if you think they'll be supportive t will help you. Good luck op
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    I know from experience that social anxiety doesn't just go away by itself. I'm not trying to scare you - we both know how bad it can be. Do you avoid uncomfortable situations? That's one of the big indicators of social anxiety.

    If you feel more comfortable going with your friend, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that; you are only trying to improve your situation and that can never be a bad thing. Also, it sounds like you have low self-esteem. Don't be scared about "bothering" people - you'll find that most people will probably be glad to help and you're worth the effort.

    Things are never as bad as you think they are. From my experience, I always believe that the worst is going to happen and that nobody will like me. We're both the same as everyone else at heart and we just need to start believing it. Good luck
    Thanks for all your support ;v; it really means alot
    can I ask what is actually done when you speak to the GP? What type of questions do they ask?

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    Thanks for all your support ;v; it really means alot
    can I ask what is actually done when you speak to the GP? What type of questions do they ask?

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    No problem, just make an appointment, try doctor will probably know beforehand what it's about and just talk to them about how you have been feeling. It might help to write down your feelings so you know exactly what you want to say, good luck!
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    Thanks for all your support ;v; it really means alot
    can I ask what is actually done when you speak to the GP? What type of questions do they ask?



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    The doctor will probably refer you on to a mental health specialist. Really, don't be so concerned about the particular label or whether you have a checklist of every symptom. Anxiety covers a multitude of things; if you feel like you have a problem, then you have a problem.

    Do you have a good relationship with your GP? If you feel like they aren't taking you seriously or you just don't get on with them, then arrange an appointment with another one. Most doctors nowadays are quite good at dealing with mental health problems, but some may be dismissive. It's good that you will have a friend there to support you - I'm sure the thought of it is daunting at the minute. This is your opportunity to take control of things. Social anxiety makes you feel powerless but you're not!
 
 
 
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