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    So, I'll cut to the chase. In the past 2 years I've had 3 major emergency operations for an ongoing condition, without which I would have died. As a result I'm pretty covered in scars on my stomach - I've got one long vertical one from ribs to bikini line (about 4 inch), plus another 3 inch one going diagonally across on the right side, plus about 5 more smaller ones dotted all round my stomach! I'm a walking jigsaw, basically.

    I'm not bothered by my scars really, as to me they're a sign that I pulled through and 'survived' what happened to me. I was in a LT relationship when I had the operations but that broke down for unrelated reasons - I've since dated a couple of people casually and neither of them seemed bothered by the scars. I mean yeah, I'm rather my stomach looked in 'one piece', but I'm here, so I can't complain.

    2 people isn't exactly very reflective, though, and I'm curious for others' opinions as to whether this would put guys off. Honest opinions please!
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    So, I'll cut to the chase. In the past 2 years I've had 3 major emergency operations for an ongoing condition, without which I would have died. As a result I'm pretty covered in scars on my stomach - I've got one long vertical one from ribs to bikini line (about 4 inch), plus another 3 inch one going diagonally across on the right side, plus about 5 more smaller ones dotted all round my stomach! I'm a walking jigsaw, basically.

    I'm not bothered by my scars really, as to me they're a sign that I pulled through and 'survived' what happened to me. I was in a LT relationship when I had the operations but that broke down for unrelated reasons - I've since dated a couple of people casually and neither of them seemed bothered by the scars. I mean yeah, I'm rather my stomach looked in 'one piece', but I'm here, so I can't complain.

    2 people isn't exactly very reflective, though, and I'm curious for others' opinions as to whether this would put guys off. Honest opinions please!
    You could be the most beautiful jigsaw puzzle made, i guess.

    No, I wouldn't care, personally. In fact, I'm more likely to kiss them when I see them and tell her how pleased I am she (or you in this case) pulled through.
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    It's a sign of strength, which is seen as good by most people
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    So, I'll cut to the chase. In the past 2 years I've had 3 major emergency operations for an ongoing condition, without which I would have died. As a result I'm pretty covered in scars on my stomach - I've got one long vertical one from ribs to bikini line (about 4 inch), plus another 3 inch one going diagonally across on the right side, plus about 5 more smaller ones dotted all round my stomach! I'm a walking jigsaw, basically.

    I'm not bothered by my scars really, as to me they're a sign that I pulled through and 'survived' what happened to me. I was in a LT relationship when I had the operations but that broke down for unrelated reasons - I've since dated a couple of people casually and neither of them seemed bothered by the scars. I mean yeah, I'm rather my stomach looked in 'one piece', but I'm here, so I can't complain.

    2 people isn't exactly very reflective, though, and I'm curious for others' opinions as to whether this would put guys off. Honest opinions please!
    Wear your scars with pride, that's all I can say. I really don't think that anyone would dismiss a girl purely on that basis. Scars from self-harm is one thing that may concern people, but scars inflicted due to surgeries are generally seen as a sign of strength since you survived.
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    Wouldn't bother me in the slightest! don't worry about your scars, they're part of you and anyone decent wouldn't love you any less because of them!
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    sounds very negligible to me
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    yes bother me very much
 
 
 
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