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Such An Awful Predicament..
This really is awful and I can't believe i'm in this sitution. Quite complex but i'll try and keep it simple...
The problem concerns this guy i'd been seeing. Met in Jan, been quite on-off as he wasn't sure what was happening with his 'ex. That sounds awful and it's hard to describe it in a nutshell. However, started seeing him again before easter. All was going well until he informed me that he wasn't ready to commit, but he'd still like to keep in contact, yet he didn't want to sleep with me. We didn't really keep in contact.
Now, here's the scenareo. I received a message from someone who I dont know on Facebook, telling me that this guy had been passing a video around of me and him, ahem. Now, I have certainly never done this and we have only slept together three times, while i believed we were okay.
I spoke to him this morning and he's adament that he's done nothing of the sort. The messager clearly doesn't like this guy, and alleges that they've played rugby together at Uni. He claims to have never heard of him. He's added several of his friends, and he claims that nobody knows who he is. We go to different \Uni's in the same city, so I dont know any of his friends in order to discover if this is the case.
Obviously, I have no proof, and he asked me to message him asking what position he plays in. His point being that if he knew him he'd surely know which position he plays in. He emailed back with the wron position, and I was happy to acept that he must have been lying.
However, I just received another email telling me he thought I'd asked for HIS position, and provided that instead. He's said something about pictures although Im not sure what he means, and he isnt online so i cant ask.
Hop that explains it suffieciently.
WHAT THE HELL DO I DO??????
The problem concerns this guy i'd been seeing. Met in Jan, been quite on-off as he wasn't sure what was happening with his 'ex. That sounds awful and it's hard to describe it in a nutshell. However, started seeing him again before easter. All was going well until he informed me that he wasn't ready to commit, but he'd still like to keep in contact, yet he didn't want to sleep with me. We didn't really keep in contact.
Now, here's the scenareo. I received a message from someone who I dont know on Facebook, telling me that this guy had been passing a video around of me and him, ahem. Now, I have certainly never done this and we have only slept together three times, while i believed we were okay.
I spoke to him this morning and he's adament that he's done nothing of the sort. The messager clearly doesn't like this guy, and alleges that they've played rugby together at Uni. He claims to have never heard of him. He's added several of his friends, and he claims that nobody knows who he is. We go to different \Uni's in the same city, so I dont know any of his friends in order to discover if this is the case.
Obviously, I have no proof, and he asked me to message him asking what position he plays in. His point being that if he knew him he'd surely know which position he plays in. He emailed back with the wron position, and I was happy to acept that he must have been lying.
However, I just received another email telling me he thought I'd asked for HIS position, and provided that instead. He's said something about pictures although Im not sure what he means, and he isnt online so i cant ask.
Hop that explains it suffieciently.
WHAT THE HELL DO I DO??????
Reply 1
Right so this random annonymous guy is claiming that there is a video of you and the guy you were seeing up until recently having sex?
Reply 2
Exactly. Sorry it's a little incohesive, not really thinking properly.
An anonymous person that happens to be 'friends' with dozens of people who are listed on his Facebook profile.
An anonymous person that happens to be 'friends' with dozens of people who are listed on his Facebook profile.
Reply 3
Was there any chance the guy you were seeing could have filmed you? If you think there is you need to talk to him and you need to make it clear to him that if you find out he DID film you without your consent that he is breaking the law and that you have the right to report him to the police. See how he reacts to that and go from there
Reply 4
Well I confronted him about it this morning and he swore that he hadn't. He seems to think that the mix-up over the rugby positions indicates that he is telling the truth. However the second batch of messages telling me about 'pictures' and the fact that he has corrected himself does nothing to deter my suspicion.
Should I mention the second message to him; he doesnt know about this??
Should I mention the second message to him; he doesnt know about this??
Reply 5
Well I would not start seeing this guy again either way.
Reply 7
It's my life
Well I would not start seeing this guy again either way.
Right now, that thought hasn't entered my head. I'm deliberating whether or not to ask him again.
Reply 8
If it's just one person saying this, then the chances are he's just telling you lies.
Reply 9
Wez
The anonymous guy either has a crush on you or was flattened by your b/f playing rugby. Ignore him.
I really don't think that is the case, he's pretty adament. even when ive told him that i'm going to get the police involved, his opinion remains the same
Reply 10
kimberley1987
Well I confronted him about it this morning and he swore that he hadn't. He seems to think that the mix-up over the rugby positions indicates that he is telling the truth. However the second batch of messages telling me about 'pictures' and the fact that he has corrected himself does nothing to deter my suspicion.
Should I mention the second message to him; he doesnt know about this??
Should I mention the second message to him; he doesnt know about this??
If it were me, firstly I'd step back and look at the big picture. Use your brain, something which alot of girls don't do. If the pictures really did exist the person who sent you the message would send proof, OR, they would let you know who they were and meet you.
My first impression is that it's some pathetic person with a grudge against you who's making it up.
Is it possible someone, perhaps a female friend who's jealous of you, could do something like this to worry you? I know what girls are like.
Secondly, I'd put on a show about going to the police over the message and see his reaction, put some pressure on him, make him sweat a little. If he's telling the truth he won't be concerned. You should be able to read him if you've known him for several months.
Reply 11
Oh and by the way, you're over analysing the little details like the rugby position. Anyone can find that information out. You just ask one of his team mates. That's not proof any pictures existed.
Reply 12
Sweet-Euphoria
Use your brain, something which alot of girls don't do.
not that you're generalising
Reply 13
kimberley1987
I really don't think that is the case, he's pretty adament. even when ive told him that i'm going to get the police involved, his opinion remains the same
You need to find the anonymous guy's incentive. Tell him you want proof and if he doesn't have a shred of it to **** off, 'cos you don't believe him.
I don't really understand what you mean about rugby positions.
Why doesn't anyone know who he is even though they accepted him on facebook?
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