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No orgasm/No feeling during sex?

I'm Male, 17, (on anonymous for obvious reasons) and I have quite an embarrassing question. I have had 3 sexual partners, all of which have struggled to/never made me orgasm and I also hardly feel anything during sex. I am circumcised and masturbate. Can anyone help? I'm worried that it will affect my future sex life.
Quick answer - it's almost certainly down to the difference in sensation: you're used to your hand and a partner does it differently. The solution is practice, and trying different ways when alone. A Fleshlight gives the physical sensations of intercourse, for example.
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Thanks for the answer, would refraining from masturbating at all allow me to get the sensitivity to other sensations back?
No, the point is to learn different ways of coming, not to stop entirely. Plus it's also more fun (and thus an incentive...)

So if you've been using a 'hard and fast fist' action, what happens if you use lube (if you're not already) and fingertips? What happens if you use a toy? What if you focus on the sensations of what you're doing rather than on any porn?

You may not come at first a new way, but you will probably discover that there's more to it than orgasm and the arousal and plateau sensations are good too.
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Thanks for the answer, would refraining from masturbating at all allow me to get the sensitivity to other sensations back?


Yes! You've been masturbating too much so you need to lay off it for a while and see how that goes for you.

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