I've had a massive crush on this cute guy at work for the best part of 5 months, I asked him out at the end of December but he said no to me. I love to see him at work because I think he's adorable but I know that having feelings for him is completely pointless because nothing good can come from it and I find it hard to be productive when he's in and talking to me
How do I get rid of these feelings?
How do you get over a crush? watch
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- 13-03-2016 04:59
Kvothe the Arcane
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- 13-03-2016 08:14
Hi there. I'm sorry to here about your experience. Well done for having the courage to ask him out. I think it might have been worse if you'd let the fantasy play out mentally but of course it is not ideal that things didn't turn out the way you hoped.
You can try keeping some distance (if possible) and meeting new people and investing in those relationships whether they be platonic or romantic.
One thing that I have noticed when I have crushed on others is that my mental impression of one is always amazing and idealistic. Try to bring that back to reality by considering their flaws. Whenever you feel the feelings returning, you may also find it helpful to take a deep breath and distract yourself with another thought or activity.
And lastly, this is something everyone goes through. Relax, it'll fade in time and don't be afraid to talk your friends about it. I'm sure they'll have had similar experiences in the past.