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Breaking up with gf/bf when going to Uni
Appologies if there has alreay been a thread on this. I've been with my gf for about 2 n half years and we have a great relationship, but both decided that the right thing to do is break up for uni.
Just wondering what other people did? And if any long distance rels actually worked, lol.
Just wondering what other people did? And if any long distance rels actually worked, lol.
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Mine worked, although not many actually do. But if you really love each other it might be worth giving it a shot. But if you are going to break up, don't wait until the day you go away to Uni, do it now, otherwise it just not going to feel right.
If what u have feels special for both of you why ruin it?
If your scared bout meeting sum 1 else at uni while ur gf is 200 miles away i cud understand y u might want to break up.
But if ur heart is set on this girl, few people at our age can manage 6 mounths :P so i say u keep what u have going! cos i bet u, the second u slpit up and go ur seperate ways, u will miss her like crazy. Distance doesnt matter. Its the love tht counts =]
gd luck man.
If your scared bout meeting sum 1 else at uni while ur gf is 200 miles away i cud understand y u might want to break up.
But if ur heart is set on this girl, few people at our age can manage 6 mounths :P so i say u keep what u have going! cos i bet u, the second u slpit up and go ur seperate ways, u will miss her like crazy. Distance doesnt matter. Its the love tht counts =]
gd luck man.
are you both going to different unis???
If its just you going, is there any way she could move into an apartment somewhere near your uni and you live there too when you are not in uni and at night.
If its just you going, is there any way she could move into an apartment somewhere near your uni and you live there too when you are not in uni and at night.
This topic is causing tension in my relationship too.
She's going Birmingham, im going Kent. Almost opposite ends of the country, South East - North West.
We want to make it work and stay together, but its just proving hard. Its already caused a number of small arguments where she's said 'Whats the point, we wont last at uni.'
Although we never argue for long, and we once split up, but only for a day before we missed each other too much and wanted to be together.
Pft, i blame the women....
She's going Birmingham, im going Kent. Almost opposite ends of the country, South East - North West.
We want to make it work and stay together, but its just proving hard. Its already caused a number of small arguments where she's said 'Whats the point, we wont last at uni.'
Although we never argue for long, and we once split up, but only for a day before we missed each other too much and wanted to be together.
Pft, i blame the women....
If you're in love with this girl and you're meant for each other - you're not gonna want anyone else at uni anyway, so the whole "I wanna have all the fun I can have, eg sex and pulls" doesn't work. Plus, are random flings really more "fun" and indeed more worthwhile than this girl whom you claim to love? Flings - you can have them any time when you're single. This girl - if you lose her, you've lost her - that's it. There's no second time, or it's gonna be a battle anyway if you want a second chance.
Distance doesn't matter as long as you already know each other I think. My sister and her bf's relationship together is going well, and my sister is in Aberdeen, while her bf is in Wales
So you see, it could work. And above all, it's about commitment. If you trust each other and are committed - why should the distance matter? My housemate's fiancee is currently in South America and he in England. I know another girl whose bf is in Durham while she is in Nottingham. So you see - it all depends if both parties want it to work or not, in a way. Not entirely, but certainly partly.
You don't hear married couples saying "let's divorce" because one is moving away to work in another city etc. Why should serious relationships be all that different?
If you don't see a future with this girl, then yes, it's wise to break up now. But if you think there's a possibility of a future with her, it's worth sticking around and giving it a shot - or you're gonna regret it for the rest of your life
Distance doesn't matter as long as you already know each other I think. My sister and her bf's relationship together is going well, and my sister is in Aberdeen, while her bf is in Wales
So you see, it could work. And above all, it's about commitment. If you trust each other and are committed - why should the distance matter? My housemate's fiancee is currently in South America and he in England. I know another girl whose bf is in Durham while she is in Nottingham. So you see - it all depends if both parties want it to work or not, in a way. Not entirely, but certainly partly.You don't hear married couples saying "let's divorce" because one is moving away to work in another city etc. Why should serious relationships be all that different?
If you don't see a future with this girl, then yes, it's wise to break up now. But if you think there's a possibility of a future with her, it's worth sticking around and giving it a shot - or you're gonna regret it for the rest of your life
iris - do you mean me? Not that you know me particularly well, just quite a coincidence that's all.
My boyfriend is at Durham and i'm at Notts and it's working for us so far. We're both just finishing our second year and have been together 5 years. Before we went to uni we thought about breaking up without even trying to stay together but thought we should at least try to see how we got on. Obviously it's still working now. The thing that keeps is going is seeing light at the end of the tunnel. The relationship is pretty serious, i'd like to move in with him when we've finished uni. If i didn't see myself with him long term then i don't think i'd carry on with the stress of long distance and try and find a boyfriend closer to me. It will get even worse next year when he goes to France but i love him and want to be with him for as long as possible so we'll try that too. Although that's going to be a massive test because at the moment i'm seeing him every other week which obviously i won't be able to do. We talk a lot which helps. I always know how he's feeling about us which is good. We try and work through the problems as they happen rather than one of us staying quiet and just finishing it.
OK so i rambled on a bit there but yeah it can work but only if you both really want it to. You need to feel that being with them in a long ditance relationship makes you happier than pulling randoms/having a girlfriend at uni. xx
My boyfriend is at Durham and i'm at Notts and it's working for us so far. We're both just finishing our second year and have been together 5 years. Before we went to uni we thought about breaking up without even trying to stay together but thought we should at least try to see how we got on. Obviously it's still working now. The thing that keeps is going is seeing light at the end of the tunnel. The relationship is pretty serious, i'd like to move in with him when we've finished uni. If i didn't see myself with him long term then i don't think i'd carry on with the stress of long distance and try and find a boyfriend closer to me. It will get even worse next year when he goes to France but i love him and want to be with him for as long as possible so we'll try that too. Although that's going to be a massive test because at the moment i'm seeing him every other week which obviously i won't be able to do. We talk a lot which helps. I always know how he's feeling about us which is good. We try and work through the problems as they happen rather than one of us staying quiet and just finishing it.
OK so i rambled on a bit there but yeah it can work but only if you both really want it to. You need to feel that being with them in a long ditance relationship makes you happier than pulling randoms/having a girlfriend at uni. xx
Its probably a good idea, unless you know you're going to be with that person for the rest of your life(which is unlikely as you decided breaking up would be "for the best") then its doomed for failure.
On the other hand if your partner is the love of your life and you do want to spend the rest of your lives together its easily doable.
On the other hand if your partner is the love of your life and you do want to spend the rest of your lives together its easily doable.
My boyfriend is at Durham University whilst I am At University of Herts. WE had only been together 6 months when we first went to uni but we have lasted the entire year now . As you have been with your girlfriend a long time it may be worth trying to stay together . However i warn you it is hard. Not only in terms of missing your partner but also time and money. I wouldnt change it for the world. I dont think ive missed out in terms of not having a big social life and its surprising how cheap you can buy train tickets when you book online in adance. God I do love those advance £10 tickets to durham xx
. As you have been with your girlfriend a long time it may be worth trying to stay together . However i warn you it is hard. Not only in terms of missing your partner but also time and money. I wouldnt change it for the world. I dont think ive missed out in terms of not having a big social life and its surprising how cheap you can buy train tickets when you book online in adance. God I do love those advance £10 tickets to durham xxSomthingOriginal
This topic is causing tension in my relationship too.
She's going Birmingham, im going Kent. Almost opposite ends of the country, South East - North West.
We want to make it work and stay together, but its just proving hard. Its already caused a number of small arguments where she's said 'Whats the point, we wont last at uni.'
Although we never argue for long, and we once split up, but only for a day before we missed each other too much and wanted to be together.
Pft, i blame the women....
She's going Birmingham, im going Kent. Almost opposite ends of the country, South East - North West.
We want to make it work and stay together, but its just proving hard. Its already caused a number of small arguments where she's said 'Whats the point, we wont last at uni.'
Although we never argue for long, and we once split up, but only for a day before we missed each other too much and wanted to be together.
Pft, i blame the women....
Ahem, Birmingham is West Midlands - like right in the middle, barely opposite end of the country. Lancaster is 'North West'. Bloody southerners....
yeah.. lol about birmingham. although Im from sussex as well so anything above london is north england.
to OP: it ca work if you want it to. I know people who have stayed together, 250 miles apart and been happy over the period of 2, 3 years. But its your choice. If you have a great relationship I think what you did was an error. But hey, theres plenty other fish in the sea.
to OP: it ca work if you want it to. I know people who have stayed together, 250 miles apart and been happy over the period of 2, 3 years. But its your choice. If you have a great relationship I think what you did was an error. But hey, theres plenty other fish in the sea.
john!!
yeah.. lol about birmingham. although Im from sussex as well so anything above london is north england.
Hah, damn right!
Ok so its not complete opposite, but still a fair old distance. And the more we think about it the further it feels..
I think you are quite surprise that i manage to read this Qi.
I believe you and your gf matched well, although i probably not in a good position to judge. I haven't had a gf long distance, and yeah my opinion is, why split up? My cousin came from China to do a master degrees and didn't split up with his Gf. 2/3 years later he had to go back to China because he couldn't find a job in UK because of Visa problems. He still is with his gf. In his time in england, he regularly talked to his gf i n chian using webcam and audio. So some long distance relationships can work. I believe that since you have been with your girlfriend for over 2 years, the relationship is very strong. If its strong its hard to break, you love her alot if the relationship has lasted that long and vice versa. You could try and not break up, but maybe you have already. Hope this helps.
Jonathan Liu
I believe you and your gf matched well, although i probably not in a good position to judge. I haven't had a gf long distance, and yeah my opinion is, why split up? My cousin came from China to do a master degrees and didn't split up with his Gf. 2/3 years later he had to go back to China because he couldn't find a job in UK because of Visa problems. He still is with his gf. In his time in england, he regularly talked to his gf i n chian using webcam and audio. So some long distance relationships can work. I believe that since you have been with your girlfriend for over 2 years, the relationship is very strong. If its strong its hard to break, you love her alot if the relationship has lasted that long and vice versa. You could try and not break up, but maybe you have already. Hope this helps.
Jonathan Liu
Nooo!!!! Don't break up before you go unless there is something seriously wrong with your relationship. Give it a try, I would have been devastated if I'd split up with my boyfriend purely because he, and then I went to uni. I'm not going to say that keeping it all together is easy, because it really isn't. My boyfriend and I have 200 odd miles between us, but staying with him is the best thing I've ever done. Please don't think that LDR's are impossible, they're not. PM me if you need to chat.
super_qi2
Appologies if there has alreay been a thread on this. I've been with my gf for about 2 n half years and we have a great relationship, but both decided that the right thing to do is break up for uni.
Just wondering what other people did? And if any long distance rels actually worked, lol.
Just wondering what other people did? And if any long distance rels actually worked, lol.
Mine kind of feels like this too, I'm (hopefully) going to Leeds or Norwich in Sept (either 2 or 3 hours away) and he's, well, older than me (21) and still living at home. So for one thing it seems weird that I'll be the first one to move out and the fact he didn't go to uni... etc. Though it might mean we are more able to see each other as he won't be all busy at uni.
But my friends keep saying I should break up with him (I know, why listen?) because 'you only get this experience once etc, and I just figure that it's a four year course, where's the harm in trying it for however long, and seeing if it works, cause if it doesn't, then fair enough, but if we break up before, won't we always just be wondering 'what if?'
Joce
My boyfriend is at Durham University whilst I am At University of Herts. WE had only been together 6 months when we first went to uni but we have lasted the entire year now . As you have been with your girlfriend a long time it may be worth trying to stay together . However i warn you it is hard. Not only in terms of missing your partner but also time and money. I wouldnt change it for the world. I dont think ive missed out in terms of not having a big social life and its surprising how cheap you can buy train tickets when you book online in adance. God I do love those advance £10 tickets to durham xx
. As you have been with your girlfriend a long time it may be worth trying to stay together . However i warn you it is hard. Not only in terms of missing your partner but also time and money. I wouldnt change it for the world. I dont think ive missed out in terms of not having a big social life and its surprising how cheap you can buy train tickets when you book online in adance. God I do love those advance £10 tickets to durham xxOoh Herts uni. I live near there. Pointless and irrelevant fact. hello.
my girlfriend went to nottingham trent last year and we had tried to break up before she went but it never worked. we got back together and stayed together while she went uni.......
in the end she started in october and had dropped out by december, her main reason was cause she missed me too much....
we aint together anymore tho lol......funny that she dropped outta uni for me and then split up wiv me a couple of months after
point is some things are good at the time but are your feelings gonna make you want to drop out and go back to her or will you be able to get thro uni and know that she will stand by you while your away....
you just gotta think mate
in the end she started in october and had dropped out by december, her main reason was cause she missed me too much....
we aint together anymore tho lol......funny that she dropped outta uni for me and then split up wiv me a couple of months after
point is some things are good at the time but are your feelings gonna make you want to drop out and go back to her or will you be able to get thro uni and know that she will stand by you while your away....
you just gotta think mate
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