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    (Original post by LizzieTwoShoes)
    I think with the amount of people at University it's more than likely you'll come across people that prefer to stay in rather than party etc.

    I'm starting this year at University also and I don't like to party, I'd much prefer a night at the cinema or playing the arcades. My biggest concern however is my age as I'm 26 and I'll be 27 in November where as most in halls are going to be a lot younger than me.

    Try not to worry too much about it all and look forward to taking a step towards your future, it'll be great and when you go into the second year you'd have made some friends you can move in with instead of a roulette of house mates like the first year.

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    Shows like fresh meat have as much to do with real student life as eastenders does to living in London.

    There are some freshers that go mad and show their immaturity by overdoing everything but there are plenty of straight students who apply themselves and don't party. Although it is probably better to make an effort in the first term and socialise ( within limits)

    You can ask for a quiet hall and join less boozy societies
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    They're not that messy or noisy. If you request a quiet part of a quiet hall then not much at all. There's a couple of flatmates of mine who tend to leave their pans drying for ages, but other than that there's no nuisance. They only really make as much noise as necessary. I think everyone else in my flat drinks, but it's not really a big deal. They just have a beer over dinner or go out to party.
    You don't have to party.
    If you like to cook, ask for a self-catered hall.
    You can still shop, assuming you have the money.
    Gardening less so. There may be a gardening society, but I don't think it'd be the same. If you have someone at home who also enjoys gardening, they can do it for May to June and you can take over in July.
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    If you think about it, student life only involves finishing your education. Partying and stuff are just side thing activities for other people to serve as a stress reliever from the uni. You can look for a quite place near the uni. You can always ask questions from the locals for you to have an idea on what kind of community you'll be dealing with. Anyways, you seem a smart person. you'll figure it out eventually what to do, but I would definitely follow the suggestions given by the lots up my post. Good luck!
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    (Original post by a-98)
    I just don't see the appeal of student life
    Partying just doesn't appeal to me at all. I want a peaceful, healthy life, without noisy and unclean people like students are portrayed.
    I'm not unsocial but I would much prefer more relaxing hobbies like cooking, a bit of shopping, gardening etc!
    I love it at home. I have no real urge to leave. I want a degree but imagining student life is making me depressed
    don't worry about it there are loads of people at uni you don'y want to go out and get obliterated every night there are other things yo can do

    socialites like the film club or radio station would cater for you you want a chilled out night I'm sure you could find an acoustic night I mean what kind of stuff do you like?
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    (Original post by a-98)
    I just don't see the appeal of student life
    Partying just doesn't appeal to me at all. I want a peaceful, healthy life, without noisy and unclean people like students are portrayed.
    I'm not unsocial but I would much prefer more relaxing hobbies like cooking, a bit of shopping, gardening etc!
    I love it at home. I have no real urge to leave. I want a degree but imagining student life is making me depressed
    Student Life isn't always about parting and booze.

    There's a dozen of societies and clubs you can join. They'll be things like baking society or cupcake society, really average ones to very individual ones too! Uni isn't going to shun you out because you don't like to go out and party!

    You will meet a whole lot of people from the spectrum of human life! That's life!

    Can you not stay at home rather than halls of residence? I do think you will meet a lot more people if you stay in halls though! And finding friends isn't always with who you'll live with! It's not a golden rule that everything thinks!
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    I'm just finishing my second semester and I've been out a handful of times (maybe like 6 or 7 times). I worried just the same before I started uni. Just join a few societies you're interested in to make friends and only go out if you actually want to. There are plenty of students who feel the same as you good luck!
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    (Original post by bdi)
    I'm just finishing my second semester and I've been out a handful of times (maybe like 6 or 7 times). I worried just the same before I started uni. Just join a few societies you're interested in to make friends and only go out if you actually want to. There are plenty of students who feel the same as you good luck!
    I second this. Meet people with the same interests as you.
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    (Original post by a-98)
    I don't want to end up lonely either?
    You know what, the fact that so many people, including myself, can relate to you and like the hobbies you like, just goes to show that the uni crowd isn't all wild, like they are portrayed. I hate clubbing, and the idea of going into a dark club, with a bunch of strange people isn't my idea of fun. So, I'm sure there are people like that, who'd rather go for a walk, have study sessions, binge watch movies with you.

    I'm not in uni, but, try joining some of the societies and clubs. You can make loads of friends there, and, I highly doubt that if you joined a bird watching society, or drama club, they'd be out doing drugs and having 'netflix and chill' all the time.

    Don't worry!
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    (Original post by fandom-queen)
    You know what, the fact that so many people, including myself, can relate to you and like the hobbies you like, just goes to show that the uni crowd isn't all wild, like they are portrayed. I hate clubbing, and the idea of going into a dark club, with a bunch of strange people isn't my idea of fun. So, I'm sure there are people like that, who'd rather go for a walk, have study sessions, binge watch movies with you.

    I'm not in uni, but, try joining some of the societies and clubs. You can make loads of friends there, and, I highly doubt that if you joined a bird watching society, or drama club, they'd be out doing drugs and having 'netflix and chill' all the time.

    Don't worry!
    The way you put it, makes it more lighter
    Hey TS, follow her. Don't worry
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    (Original post by a-98)
    I just don't see the appeal of student life
    Partying just doesn't appeal to me at all. I want a peaceful, healthy life, without noisy and unclean people like students are portrayed.
    I'm not unsocial but I would much prefer more relaxing hobbies like cooking, a bit of shopping, gardening etc!
    I love it at home. I have no real urge to leave. I want a degree but imagining student life is making me depressed
    No one forces you to party, plenty of people stay in and chill. If you live in halls you will have to deal with disgusting sinks etc that's just a fact of life, might make you a better person for it, you never know.

    Why not live at home / study at OU or something?
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    (Original post by a-98)
    I just don't see the appeal of student life
    Partying just doesn't appeal to me at all. I want a peaceful, healthy life, without noisy and unclean people like students are portrayed.
    I'm not unsocial but I would much prefer more relaxing hobbies like cooking, a bit of shopping, gardening etc!
    I love it at home. I have no real urge to leave. I want a degree but imagining student life is making me depressed
    It pains me to know that the prospect of higher learning is causing you distress. If it's really the idea of moving out that distressing you, there are online college options available. If it's the notion of being 'required' to engage in the stereotypical activities associated with college that bothers you, know that you're likely to meet people who share your wavelength because college is full of different people. Try to figure out what's really causing you to worry and decide from there, and I wish you the best of luck.
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    (Original post by yourJeremyL)
    The way you put it, makes it more lighter
    Hey TS, follow her. Don't worry
    Thank you! Personally, I would be concerned as well, but this logic just appealed to my common sense!

    It isn't that serious an issue, I'm sure people can survive.
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    (Original post by fandom-queen)
    Thank you! Personally, I would be concerned as well, but this logic just appealed to my common sense!

    It isn't that serious an issue, I'm sure people can survive.
    True. Uni aren't meant to socialize but to learn for the field you are interested in, right?
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    (Original post by yourJeremyL)
    True. Uni aren't meant to socialize but to learn for the field you are interested in, right?
    "Socializing" doesn't need to be as wasteful as popular depictions of it seem. I'd argue that forming good, enjoyable relationships with our classmates and teachers can make uni a lot more fun and productive. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't go out partying or attending every mixer, and I assure you that you'll find people who share your wavelength.
 
 
 
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