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    (Original post by Mayhem™)
    With 3 gems and 2 followers, I really don't think you're in a position to judge me.
    Just lol.
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    (Original post by shades1984)
    Ok look it's obvious why he doesn't want to wear a condom. The reason is he struggles to get aroused when using a condom. Therefore he will refuse to wear one. You must be more understanding of your boyfriend. This is clearly a terrifying ordeal for him. Don't do ultimatums, that's very poor relationship management and will lead to breakdown in the future. However this could also be related to a stressful
    Incident and when mentioned he does as you say go in a mood. Support your boyfriend. Don't suffocate him.
    What…what…my brain… what?

    Definition of a first world problem right here.
    'So why aren't you putting it on?'
    'I…can't..'
    'What you need help?'
    'No. It's just I have traumas. Putting on a condom is terrifying. The thought of having kids at a young age is less terrifying than putting on a condom at this moment in time'

    Mate, you ever heard of a mutual relationship? Dun sound like a mutually invested relationship if she's the one with the implant for years, which involves hormones being injected into her blood stream mind you, but he can't be bothered to put on a less invasive, thin latex sheath over his (what seems like) his small manhood.
    Logic right here. Yes right here, no wait, it ran screaming out of the window as soon as you spoke.
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    (Original post by Mayhem™)
    With 3 gems and 2 followers, I really don't think you're in a position to judge me.
    Did you just use 'gems' and 'followers' as a methodical gauge for someones ability to critique you. That is very moist.
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    Maybe he wants to be a daddy instead?
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    (Original post by banterboy)
    condoms ****ing hurt, they are either too loose or too tight and it's nigh on impossible to *** in them. I couldn't even feel when my **** was in while shagging a virgin once. ugh it's understandable.
    lol chill, they're bearable.
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    You just need to both talk properly. I understand it is childish of him to throw a strop in a supermarket for you buying condoms and he isn't really showing any understand but maybe it's best telling him your reasons if you haven't already.

    He can be responding the way he is for several reasons. He might not know how to apply condoms as you've both relied on your implant to do the work for 6 years or he might feel a bit anxious it falls out etc or he won't get the same sensation.

    My boyfriend was the same. We tried condoms but he would lose his erection after we tried to apply, probably because it took us so long to apply it in the first place. We decided that I would go on the pill as the implant wasn't working for me.

    Everyone's different. Give your reasons that you need to give your body a rest for a while and ask him if he could try wearing condoms instead of just going to a store. Ask him what's stopping him from wanting to try them apart from the cost of them and see what he says. Good luck!
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    (Original post by Mayhem™)
    give him an ultimatum of condom or front door; that'll get him to put it on
    or find someone else lol
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    (Original post by banterboy)
    condoms ****ing hurt, they are either too loose or too tight and it's nigh on impossible to *** in them. I couldn't even feel when my **** was in while shagging a virgin once. ugh it's understandable.

    So what do you do then?
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    if youve been with the implant for so long why the sudden change.

    i understand where your boyfriends coming from, having to deal with less pleasurable sex, annoying application of the latex, restrictions during sex e.g no spontaneous sex, having to stop and get a condom etc - all because you want your body to rest or something?

    doesnt make much sense, unless theres a real issue about having the implant long term?

    why not go for the pill, it reduces acne and makes periods less bad apparently
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    (Original post by janeyiffey)
    I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years. For these years I have had the contraceptive implant in. In November I had it taken out as I felt like I had it in for way too long and want my body to go back to normal for a while. I tried to talk to him about my decision of getting it taken out and told him he would probably need to wear a condom when we want to have sex. He told me there was no way he would wear a condom. I'm not sure why he doesn't want to, I have a feeling it's partly because he doesn't know how to put it on but I've told him to find out how or I will put it on (I've never put a condom on either)

    I tried to buy a box of condoms from our local Tesco but he shouted at me and told me there was no way he was buying them here. We had booked a week away and I decided to get some there as we wouldn't know anyone so he couldn't get embarrassed but he went in a mood with me in the shop and wouldn't talk to me properly for a good 1-2 hours and thought that £12 for 15 condoms was too much money. We tried the condom but he went soft as soon as I put it on him and he acted annoyed at me ever since. It's been over 3 months and we haven't had sex yet.

    So, my problem here is why won't he wear a condom? I've been on contraception for 6 years. Is it not his turn now? I feel like I have to get the implanon again when I really don't want to.
    Being on the pill seriously messes up your endocrinology and its bad for the environment to boot. Explain to him how it is damaging for your body (there's plenty of evidence)

    If he still doesn't want to wear a condom then you don't have sex with him simples, he sounds like a man-child.
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    if youve been with the implant for so long why the sudden change.

    i understand where your boyfriends coming from, having to deal with less pleasurable sex, annoying application of the latex, restrictions during sex e.g no spontaneous sex, having to stop and get a condom etc - all because you want your body to rest or something?

    doesnt make much sense, unless theres a real issue about having the implant long term?

    why not go for the pill, it reduces acne and makes periods less bad apparently
    Have you thought that the op might have had to deal with potential annoyances of the implant for the past 6 years? Disrupted periods, mood changes, headaches and she will have had to be wary of other medications she takes at the same time. Same with the pill there's lots of little annoyances one of them being having to remember to take it daily. Do you not think about these things. These are health annoyances the ones you mention all revolve around you and lack of pleasure during just one sex act intercourse.
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    You're boyfriend is very selfish and a hothead by the looks of it. Taking the pill and being on the implant for that long can decrease your chances of fertility as my pharmacist has told me before. You've had it in for 6 years and he won't even put a condom on now? Not good.
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    You need to get your body back to it's normal cycle. All these things aren't sweet and rosy forever. You're boyfriend is selfish.
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    (Original post by Elise213)
    You're boyfriend is very selfish and a hothead by the looks of it. Taking the pill and being on the implant for that long can decrease your chances of fertility as my pharmacist has told me before. You've had it in for 6 years and he won't even put a condom on now? Not good.
    (Original post by Elise213)
    You need to get your body back to it's normal cycle. All these things aren't sweet and rosy forever. You're boyfriend is selfish.
    Youve made your point twice. We get it lol
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    (Original post by janeyiffey)
    I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years. For these years I have had the contraceptive implant in. In November I had it taken out as I felt like I had it in for way too long and want my body to go back to normal for a while. I tried to talk to him about my decision of getting it taken out and told him he would probably need to wear a condom when we want to have sex. He told me there was no way he would wear a condom. I'm not sure why he doesn't want to, I have a feeling it's partly because he doesn't know how to put it on but I've told him to find out how or I will put it on (I've never put a condom on either)

    I tried to buy a box of condoms from our local Tesco but he shouted at me and told me there was no way he was buying them here. We had booked a week away and I decided to get some there as we wouldn't know anyone so he couldn't get embarrassed but he went in a mood with me in the shop and wouldn't talk to me properly for a good 1-2 hours and thought that £12 for 15 condoms was too much money. We tried the condom but he went soft as soon as I put it on him and he acted annoyed at me ever since. It's been over 3 months and we haven't had sex yet.

    So, my problem here is why won't he wear a condom? I've been on contraception for 6 years. Is it not his turn now? I feel like I have to get the implanon again when I really don't want to.
    Your boyfriend sounds like a very selfish person. You shouldn't sacrifice your body for his pleasure.You did say that you don't want to get the implant again. Why should you take charge of contraception?.

    I presume you're young & don't have children yet. I suggest you let your body, your endocrine system get back to normal to make sure everything is still ok because 6 years is a very long time.


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    (Original post by sachinisgod)
    Youve made your point twice. We get it lol
    lol i said what i said. don't really know why you're telling me that.
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    So what do you do then?
    not having regular sex atm so condoms.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Have you thought that the op might have had to deal with potential annoyances of the implant for the past 6 years? Disrupted periods, mood changes, headaches and she will have had to be wary of other medications she takes at the same time. Same with the pill there's lots of little annoyances one of them being having to remember to take it daily. Do you not think about these things. These are health annoyances the ones you mention all revolve around you and lack of pleasure during just one sex act intercourse.
    okay i didnt know that about the implant.


    but surely having to take a pill every day isnt much of a inconvenience considering that it ensures a pretty good sex life for both parties. and even if you miss one it's not even the end of the world.

    what you said about the pill isnt a good enough reason at all. and 'one sex intercourse' is a terrible way to put it, good regular sex in a relationship is extremely important, having one pill a day to ensure its continuity is hardly a struggle.
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    (Original post by Elise213)
    You're boyfriend is very selfish and a hothead by the looks of it. Taking the pill and being on the implant for that long can decrease your chances of fertility as my pharmacist has told me before. You've had it in for 6 years and he won't even put a condom on now? Not good.
    long term use of the pill does not decrease fertility.
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    (Original post by Zarvee)
    What…what…my brain… what?

    Definition of a first world problem right here.
    'So why aren't you putting it on?'
    'I…can't..'
    'What you need help?'
    'No. It's just I have traumas. Putting on a condom is terrifying. The thought of having kids at a young age is less terrifying than putting on a condom at this moment in time'

    Mate, you ever heard of a mutual relationship? Dun sound like a mutually invested relationship if she's the one with the implant for years, which involves hormones being injected into her blood stream mind you, but he can't be bothered to put on a less invasive, thin latex sheath over his (what seems like) his small manhood.
    Logic right here. Yes right here, no wait, it ran screaming out of the window as soon as you spoke.
    clearly missed the point entirely. the fear of not being able to get it going because of putting on the condom (extremely common) is the issues hes facing and a very valid one at that. not the fear of rolling latex down his penis. you should learn to read.
 
 
 
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