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    (Original post by MevMev)
    Yeah I'm doing the right thing by not leading him on and giving him false hopes right?
    exactly (:
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    I think anyone that says only personality matters is kidding themselves a bit, physical attraction is near vital in a relationship especially long term, if you consider the sex life two people will have would be harder without physical attraction, and having children would also be harder....why would you have children with someone who isn't attractive? Since your kids will also look like them.

    Of course though there needs to be both physical attraction, and personality as factors in a relationship, attractiveness isn't everything and it means little as far as long term commitments are concerned.

    Physical attraction can't be forced but over time, if you find someone's personality attractive then they can become more attractive overall in your eyes.
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    (Original post by Hirsty97)
    yeah it's very important

    good looking = good looking kids = better QoL

    But personality is important too, as you have to consider, from a man's perspective at least, that this is the woman that will raise your children, so being a narcissistic, selfish wretch is a major red flag.
    lol but who automatically thinks when they meet a person 'nah, i'll pass, i don't want my kids to be ugly' come on loool. Just because your partner is good looking, doesn't mean your kids will turn out like that too. Maybe even your partner was an ugly duckling when they were a child so your kids may take after them.
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    (Original post by -CarpeDiem-)
    I think anyone that says only personality matters is kidding themselves a bit, physical attraction is near vital in a relationship especially long term, if you consider the sex life two people will have would be harder without physical attraction, and having children would also be harder....why would you have children with someone who isn't attractive? Since your kids will also look like them.

    Of course though there needs to be both physical attraction, and personality as factors in a relationship, attractiveness isn't everything and it means little as far as long term commitments are concerned.

    Physical attraction can't be forced but over time, if you find someone's personality attractive then they can become more attractive overall in your eyes.
    wait so i like his personality if i spend enough time with him will i start to be attracted to him too?
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    Only for shallow people
    And depends on what kind of relationship, coz in my view I believe that those boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are purely based on physical attractiveness, attention and all that which doesn't really count
    So if it's a serious relationship such as marriage or wishing for that in the future it shouldn't be too important
    Hope this helps
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    (Original post by dmy15)
    lol but who automatically thinks when they meet a person 'nah, i'll pass, i don't want my kids to be ugly' come on loool. Just because your partner is good looking, doesn't mean your kids will turn out like that too. Maybe even your partner was an ugly duckling when they were a child so your kids may take after them.
    It does most of the time, because people's offspring inherit the genes of their parents, so facial features will look alike. Perhaps you misconstrued I don't expect my future hypothetical partner to have supermodel looks, I expect her to be attractive to my eye, at least. It shows that she cares about her appearance and values herself. I have never dated a woman I had considered to be unattractive and I never will.
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    (Original post by Hirsty97)
    It does most of the time, because people's offspring inherit the genes of their parents, so facial features will look alike. Perhaps you misconstrued I don't expect my future hypothetical partner to have supermodel looks, I expect her to be attractive to my eye, at least. It shows that she cares about her appearance and values herself. I have never dated a woman I had considered to be unattractive and I never will.
    Well I didn't say that looks were not important
    Well obviously when you get married etc, you would think about your children and all that
    But tbh though a person can be the attractive but does not mean their souls are

    I know it is important that even you find your partner attractive
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    Well I couldn't sleep with someone I didn't find attractive, so very important. Someone's personality can make them more attractive though.
 
 
 
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