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BabyBee
Who did u lose it to (boyfriend/girlfriend?)
Were you in a relationship?
If so how long did you wait?
Was it 'special'
Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated?

any thoughts?

It really doesn't matter what anyone replies to this thread.

Just do it whenever it seems right and certaintly don't base a decision on what did or didn't work for others.
Reply 2
Who did u lose it to (boyfriend/girlfriend?): My bf
Were you in a relationship?: Yes
If so how long did you wait?: 4 months-ish. When we were both ready, really.
Was it 'special': Yes, but only because I love the guy... it wasn't exactly great sex.
Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated?: Yes, because it wasn't very good. Neither of us really knew what we were doing...

any thoughts?: Yes. Sex is good. DON'T do it before you're ready, though. I know people whose whole sex lives are fairly messed up because they were pushed into it too early.
Reply 3
Girlfriend
Relationship
Long enuf 2 know we were ready! :wink:
Very special! :biggrin:
Overrated- probably! :rolleyes:
Who did u lose it to (boyfriend/girlfriend?) Random 'friend' in uni :frown:

Were you in a relationship? Nope

If so how long did you wait? No comment

Was it 'special'? Absolutely not

Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated? Depends on the person. It should be nice to be relationship with someone special *cough, hypocrit - sorry!*
Boyfriend
Relationship
One month exactly
No
God yea.
Girlfriend
Relationship
-
Yes
No
Reply 7
Girlfriend
Relationship
Nearly two weeks
Nope
Definitely
Reply 8
Who did u lose it to (boyfriend/girlfriend?) - First proper boyfriend.
Were you in a relationship? - Yeah
If so how long did you wait? - Bout 6 or 7 months
Was it 'special' - Not at all
Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated? - Definitely!
Reply 9
Girlfriend
Relationship
7 months
7 freaking months! of course it was! :tongue:
No
Reply 10
To be honest, I think the whole thing is hyped up far too much. Don't let yourself be pressured into having sex before you feel ready, but at the same time, don't kid yourself that the world will magically change afterwards. :wink:
Reply 11
BabyBee
Who did u lose it to (boyfriend/girlfriend?)
Were you in a relationship?
If so how long did you wait?
Was it 'special'
Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated?

any thoughts?

Current boyfriend
Yes
We didn't actually wait very long...we'd only been together 2 months...but it felt right to us.
Yes. The sex itself wasn't mindblowing as it was first time for both of us, but yes, it was special.
I don't think the concept of a first time is overrated. My first time was lovely - it's the closest you can ever be to someone emotionally.
Thoughts - have fun and be careful, hehe.
A "friend" i'd known for about two weeks
no
-
not at all, especially since he was "experienced" and i hardly had a clue
definately, although perhaps if i'd waited for someone i cared about and who cared about me, i may have a different view on the subject

I think its best to wait until everything feels right and you're in a relationship, not just to almost through yourself at someone you barely because it seems like a good idea at the time.
If you deflower a girl, you're the man. No one can ever do that again. You're the only one. No one, no one, has the power to do that again. It's like getting fame. Say you was to die tomorrow right, fifty years from now all the virgins you ever ****ed are gonna remember you. Right? They gonna tell their grandkids about that ****.
Who did u lose it to (boyfriend/girlfriend?): Boyfriend

Were you in a relationship? Yes

If so how long did you wait? About 4 months

Was it 'special' I guess at the time I thought it was, looking back, it really wasn't!

Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated? Yes very, personally it wasnt very memorable for me and you have first times for everything in your life so why is sex so special?

any thoughts? I guess just do what you feel and beleive to be right for you, if you're ready go for it and don't feel pushed into it by anyone.
Honestly..
Who did u lose it to (boyfriend/girlfriend?) Random stranger
Were you in a relationship? No
If so how long did you wait? A few hours
Was it 'special'? Not really
Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated? No

Reply 16
Who did u lose it to : My fiance

Were you in a relationship? yes

If so how long did you wait? about 8 months, when we were certain our relationship was going to last

Was it 'special': Yes and no. It was special because I felt very close to my boyfriend, but it wasn't because it hurt like hell and the setting wasn't ideal.

Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated? Yes and no. It isn't because it is a huge step and a milestone, and something you can never experience again. It is because it's not especially enjoyable (especially for the girls) since it's all inexperienced and painful. And also I don't think it was that important to me because now I can remember very little of it.
Who did u lose it to (boyfriend/girlfriend?) My then boyfriend

Were you in a relationship?
Yesss

If so how long did you wait?
Er, 3 months

Was it 'special' Not really, it was painless so that was a plus but it was also very 'meh', we were alone at his house and we were playing on his playstation and he randomly said 'you wanta go upstairs?' and I said 'yeah sure' and the rest is history.

Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated?
To some extent, it's nice to get to know the person first and establish some connections with them before you have sex with anyone for the first time. But the 'very first time' always has too much anticipation pinned on it. Sex is never magical at all, it's never like in the movies, it's just excellent fun and in a relationship it's, in my opinion, much better. If you love the person you're sleeping with it won't matter that it's not movie style sex, it sort of feels like it is.

any thoughts? :hmmm:
By movie-style sex do you mean sex with loads of cameras trained on you and a fat man in a cap shouting "NO NO NO your thigh is obscuring her face. Okay people lets run this again."
Reply 19
Who did u lose it to? My boyfriend.
Were you in a relationship? Yes.
If so how long did you wait? Until he was ready (I was ready before him) so, nearly a year.
Was it 'special'? Yes it was.
Do you think the concept of a first time is overrated? Yes, very.