Need some advice people...

Well basically, ive been talking to this girl online for about a week now and text her nearly everyday. I've seen pictures of her and shes pictures of me, however we havent met yet. Ive rang her once as well which took me some courage would you believe but we were talking great for about 20mins until she cut it off n txt me later sayin her mum came in the room. This is the problem i am having that she is 19 but her parents are really strict i.e she cannot go out at night etc.
She lives in another city as well but i have arranged to meet her this friday for a little while, the problem is im really nervous and keep thinking she might not like me and stuff which is worrying me (i always think the negative), also do you think i should ask her out on the first time i meet her or should i just talk to her generally? Any advice would be great

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

17

just talk generally when you meet. People are usually different off the net. Good luck.

Reply 2

Pseudomuse

1

shabz123

Well basically, ive been talking to this girl online for about a week now and text her nearly everyday. I've seen pictures of her and shes pictures of me, however we havent met yet. Ive rang her once as well which took me some courage would you believe but we were talking great for about 20mins until she cut it off n txt me later sayin her mum came in the room. This is the problem i am having that she is 19 but her parents are really strict i.e she cannot go out at night etc.
She lives in another city as well but i have arranged to meet her this friday for a little while, the problem is im really nervous and keep thinking she might not like me and stuff which is worrying me (i always think the negative), also do you think i should ask her out on the first time i meet her or should i just talk to her generally? Any advice would be great

meet her during the day, talk generally, don't come on too strong, and if you like each other, see each other again, and then hopefully you'll be able to have a date, and then ask her out.

Reply 3

Schmokie Dragon

17

shabz123

Well basically, ive been talking to this girl online for about a week now and text her nearly everyday. I've seen pictures of her and shes pictures of me, however we havent met yet. Ive rang her once as well which took me some courage would you believe but we were talking great for about 20mins until she cut it off n txt me later sayin her mum came in the room. This is the problem i am having that she is 19 but her parents are really strict i.e she cannot go out at night etc.
She lives in another city as well but i have arranged to meet her this friday for a little while, the problem is im really nervous and keep thinking she might not like me and stuff which is worrying me (i always think the negative), also do you think i should ask her out on the first time i meet her or should i just talk to her generally? Any advice would be great

Excluding the bit about strict parents, this is exactly the situation I found myself in about 5.5 months ago . . .

I met Ben (tis_me_lord) on TSR and after a series of PMs, he added me to his MSN and we got chatting. Within one conversation we knew that we REALLY liked eachother, and were soon arranging to meet up and having long phone calls.

So, what happened? We were both nervous, him more so than me, and had no idea if we would even like eachother in real life (although we were convinced that we would). We had already decided that we were together 'unofficialy', pending meeting up and seeing if there was a spark there. There was a spark, but I would recommend to others that they meet someone several times before they start thinking about a relationship. She could have some really annoying habits or ideas that only come out once she gets used to you and that could prove to damage the relationship (with my ex it was sympathising with the BNP and getting drunk far too often, amongst other things). So I would always say get to know someone in person before you start dating them.

Being nervous is understandable, but you have to make sure that you can still seem fun and relaxed, as she may get the wrong impression of you if you are uptight and uncomfortable!

And if she is 19, worryingly strict parents doesn't sound good . . .

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