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    I've been with my girlfriend for 5/6 months now. The thing is I'm a very jealous, insecure person and it seems whenever I get a girlfriend I turn into a proper obsessive and controlling person. It's like I'm always scared of her leaving me or cheating on me and it's not fair on her, me or the relationship.

    So I'm wanting to change the way I feel and think. I've started hitting the gym so than hopeful I can gain some confidence and be more secure of myself. I've also started hanging round with my friends more as I would never really see them because I always wanted to see my girlfriend. I just want to stop thinking bad of her, stop thinking that she will leave me or cheat on me. Or if in the end she does actually finish things with me or she does cheat that I don't get too down about it. Don't want to make her my entire life if you get what I mean? Like I don't want to depend on her to make me happy in life. Any advice?

    Sounds like you're already doing those things.

    Trust is built when your other half is able to live their life and doesn't cheat. Not when you make sure they can't.

    Being aware of it is a huge part of making a change.

    its good that your realizing how you are and are trying to change
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