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    Ok so hands up I have screwed up in the sense that I appeared clingy to someone I met a few weeks back. We've already met for coffee once and it went really well and there seemed to be a spark. We also spoke about doing stuff afterwards (she even suggested a few things), so it definitely didn't seem one-way.

    Over the past week her texts have been different - replies take longer to come in and also I jokingly suggested meeting up to celebrate some good news she had which she didn't address in her reply.

    Is there a way I can turn this around? If I take a few steps back could it help? I do like her and while a lot of people may 'say that she isn't to you' I do think that there is something there. Just want to see what steps I can take to maybe turn this around however I also do appreciate that I may have blown this or that she doesn't feel the same way.
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    Yeah it is possible to turn it around, text a bit less frequently and make sure that when you do they are high quality texts which are a bit different and will make her laugh / smile (easier said than done)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok so hands up I have screwed up in the sense that I appeared clingy to someone I met a few weeks back. We've already met for coffee once and it went really well and there seemed to be a spark. We also spoke about doing stuff afterwards (she even suggested a few things), so it definitely didn't seem one-way.

    Over the past week her texts have been different - replies take longer to come in and also I jokingly suggested meeting up to celebrate some good news she had which she didn't address in her reply.

    Is there a way I can turn this around? If I take a few steps back could it help? I do like her and while a lot of people may 'say that she isn't to you' I do think that there is something there. Just want to see what steps I can take to maybe turn this around however I also do appreciate that I may have blown this or that she doesn't feel the same way.

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    Yeah it is possible to turn it around, text a bit less frequently and make sure that when you do they are high quality texts which are a bit different and will make her laugh / smile (easier said than done)
    or just don't speak with her for a while yo.
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    There's always a way, let her make the effort from now on.
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    Might be tough. The key thing here is to step away without going completely cold turkey
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    Sometimes you need to do your own thing from time to time, don't let it just be one person putting the effort in.
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    Easy enough, just back off and let her come to you. Please, PLEASE, don't apologise for being clingy or anything like that...
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    What's the right balance between not losing touch and stepping away. Really confused about what to do here... Do I suggest meeting up or leave that alone totally????
 
 
 
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