boyfriend troubles....

Ive been wih my boyfriend for a year and a half now, hence i have got involved with his family, and him with mine. the trouble is...i cant help flirting with other guys when i go out. especially at the moment, as there is this guy who likes me, and i know i shouldnt like him back, but i cant help it.

i always think about cheating, but dont want to becuase i enjoy the relationship i have with my boyfriend.

the problem im having is i dont know whether to waste my relationship on a stupid fling about lust?

but if i feel this way then is it worth staying with my boyfirned?!

complicated situation....help!!

Reply 1

moves-my-world

There is nothing wrong with flirting (providing you make sure the boyfriend knows you want him). But everyone get's slightly bored within a relationship. At the end of the day it's like excercise. You can go for a wee while, and you feel great. Then you hit "the wall" and maybe you go off the rails for a while but if you manage to stay on them after the hiccup then you can go on forever.. or until as long as you want.

Reply 2

alicejb

I had similar thoughts at the year and a half point. It just seems like a learning process in a relationship. I didn't cheat and am glad I didn't. I guess its just natural to meet people you get on with as time goes on but you have learn that some things offer more than others..

Reply 3

spacecowgirl89

I think a lot of people feel like this in relationships at some point or another. Maybe you're just flattered this guy likes you so feel you must feel the same and start liking him without realising? I have a lot of friends who do this...and then they get over it pretty quickly :p:

It's ok to feel like you want to flirt, but cheating is another thing entirely. If you value your relationship with your boyfriend, don't do it! It's not worth risking a long term relationship [which sounds pretty good from what you're saying] over a quick fling with someone who fancies you. At the end of the day, the person who fancies you will probably stop fancying you at some point. Whereas your boyfriend probably loves you unconditionally.

Reply 4

simple_things

very true. stick with the boyfriend. my girlfriend is a flirt, but we've had a talk and decided on boundaries - a kiss on the lips or groping is too far. just have a talk with him. make sure you don't have a communication breakdown though cos it can make you go crazy.
eg: at the moment she'd quite like to sleep with one guy at college. she's told me and i do feel uncomfortable when she flirts with him so there is definitely a line. i've let her know how i feel though and i know she loves and wants me more than him cos she always comes back to me :smile: