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    Hello,
    I'm asking for advice on how I can get more comfortable with being in close vicinity or contact with girls. I've never dated and feel really uncomfortable when I am close to a girl who I am not already good friends with.
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    (Original post by EdwardBarfield9)
    Hello,
    I'm asking for advice on how I can get more comfortable with being in close vicinity or contact with girls. I've never dated and feel really uncomfortable when I am close to a girl who I am not already good friends with.
    Its just a matter of finding the right girl in my opinion. There is no point in you going for a super confident, outgoing girl when you yourself are very shy and introverted. You need to find someone who you can connect with, someone who you feel comfortable with and someone who feels comfortable with you, that way you two will get along just fine.

    I was the same, lots of girls I liked were very outgoing and confident but myself was very shy, nervous and inexperienced around girls. But then I found my current girlfriend who was 'kinda' the same? Very understanding of my inexperience and is comfortable with me, as am I with her. Its been great so far.

    Hope this helps!
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    Stop using the word vicinity, space is perfectly fine. Just ask NASA
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Its just a matter of finding the right girl in my opinion. There is no point in you going for a super confident, outgoing girl when you yourself are very shy and introverted. You need to find someone who you can connect with, someone who you feel comfortable with and someone who feels comfortable with you, that way you two will get along just fine.

    I was the same, lots of girls I liked were very outgoing and confident but myself was very shy, nervous and inexperienced around girls. But then I found my current girlfriend who was 'kinda' the same? Very understanding of my inexperience and is comfortable with me, as am I with her. Its been great so far.

    Hope this helps!
    Thanks. Not quite what I meant but that's completley down to my post
    I never go for any girl as I don't have the confidence to talk to anyone that I find attractive.
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    Thanks. Not quite what I meant but that's completley down to my post
    I never go for any girl as I don't have the confidence to talk to anyone that I find attractive.
    Ooooohh I think I understand you now. The only thing I can think of is to just be around girls, throw yourself in the deep end so to speak.
    Just talk to girls how you would talk to your guy friends, but remember its a girl you're talking to so some guy-to-guy topics might be a no go
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    (Original post by EdwardBarfield9)
    Hello,
    I'm asking for advice on how I can get more comfortable with being in close vicinity or contact with girls. I've never dated and feel really uncomfortable when I am close to a girl who I am not already good friends with.
    Try to build up the conversation gradually. Make her laugh , and be yourself
 
 
 
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