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Can you elaborate more on what you've argued with them/your boyfriend about? I don't think people can give much advice because you're being pretty general. I know what it's like to feel like you can't please everyone, and it's not a nice feeling :frown:

so..hugs!

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OP

spacecowgirl89

Can you elaborate more on what you've argued with them/your boyfriend about? I don't think people can give much advice because you're being pretty general. I know what it's like to feel like you can't please everyone, and it's not a nice feeling :frown:

so..hugs!

mmm sorry was a bit vague - just didnt want to put loads on here I've posted before!

Its so stupid really - I like wearing proper corsets and my parents think they are bad for me because they are too tight. Anyway I agreed to wear them less and in fact hadnt worn one since last week. Parents are better!

Boyfirend however not okay now - he bought all but 1 of my corsets and really likes seeing me in them so now I'm not wearing them he is off with me.

So this afternoon after 6th form I put one on at his house - so he is happy now. Got home still wearing said corset - mum notices and is off with me.

So I wear one once!.... and I did agree to wear the them less which I my book does still mean occassionally...grrr

Standing back from the situation it just seems so stupid...but its happening...arrghh

Reply 3

Hmm..can't you just change before seeing the person concerned? :p:

So, wear a corset when you go over your boyfriend's, but then change before you go home? Btw, how old are you? And do you like wearing them? You should be able to wear whatever you want, so if this is the case, then just tell your parents that. (However, I know how easy it is saying that, when parents are another story altogether!)

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OP

spacecowgirl89

Hmm..can't you just change before seeing the person concerned? :p:

So, wear a corset when you go over your boyfriend's, but then change before you go home? Btw, how old are you? And do you like wearing them? You should be able to wear whatever you want, so if this is the case, then just tell your parents that. (However, I know how easy it is saying that, when parents are another story altogether!)

Well I could and I couldnt! Corsets are not really a quick on and off item as they need lacing properly plus today I went straight from 6th form to my boyfriends and then didnt get chance to change again.

I'm 17..nearly 18 - in 6th form - my parents arnt bothered really by what I wear apart from corsets as they think they are too tight. I have several proper corsets 2 of which lace to 18" (and I can and do wear them at 18").

Do I like them - well to start with no - I just wore them for my boyfriend, but now I do like wearing them.

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alicejb

Well I could and I couldnt! Corsets are not really a quick on and off item as they need lacing properly plus today I went straight from 6th form to my boyfriends and then didnt get chance to change again.

I'm 17..nearly 18 - in 6th form - my parents arnt bothered really by what I wear apart from corsets as they think they are too tight. I have several proper corsets 2 of which lace to 18" (and I can and do wear them at 18").

Do I like them - well to start with no - I just wore them for my boyfriend, but now I do like wearing them.

Hmm...well, I understand your parents' concern..'cos obviously they probably associate wearing a corset with not being able to breathe etc....don't you find them bad at all? You should be able to wear what you want, but not if they're hurting you/causing you not to breathe properly. (bloody hell, 18" btw!!! :eek:

)

If you actually like wearing them and they don't cause you discomfort or whatever then go for it - it's not your fault your parents don't like them. You can wear what you like.

Edit: you can wear what you like, but if it's only your boyfriend who got you into this, then you don't have to wear them constantly, and you certainly don't have to answer to him if you don't want to wear one all the time, even if he bought you them.

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Why is your boyfriend off with you just because you didn't wear a certain piece of clothing? He must be able to understand why you're not wearing them - especially the health worry which your parents have - so why can he not accept you not wearing them?

Edit: Just seen that you said you wore them originally for your boyfriend, thats a little disturbing, has he got some kind of corset fetish?

Reply 7

Ginger_Rogers

7

18 inches? That's mad. Dita Von Teese has a 16 inch waist, and hers is TINY.

Reply 8

Llamaaa

15

aren't you at all worried that he is completely off you if you don't wear a corset? I mean, you can't live all your life in a corset. It is unhealthy. There is a reason why the victorian women died young. I would be seriously concerned if m boyfriend went off me if I wasn't wearing a particular item of clothing. Even more if it were him that made me wear them in the first place. I'm sorry, but his corset fascination is weird and a bit too obsessive.

You really should consider the health implications of wearing corsets all the time. It's all very well when you are fully grown, but at 17 your body is not yet fully grown. Most women stop growing at 21. You have no idea how much harm you are doing to yourself, and you won't know until you are older and it is too late.

I think your parents have got it right.

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Wikipedia

A badly-fitting corset can:
Chafe.
Impede digestion.
Damage ribs.
Pinch nerves.
Deform the stomach.
Deform the liver.
Deform the intestines.

Yikes. Isn't that enough to put you off anyway?

Reply 10

Llamaaa

15

This woman started at 17 wearing an 18 inch corset, and look at her now. :puke:

Reply 11

helenkr

This woman started at 17 wearing an 18 inch corset, and look at her now. :puke:

...................................that's a woman!? :eek:

Looks like a man.

Reply 12

Talya

16

I don't think the OP came here for you guys to tell her about how bad her corset is, this is about her relationships with her parents and bf.

Reply 13

little one

11

oh my lord

EDIT: at the pic

Reply 14

Llamaaa

15

I would follow the parents' advice, cut out the corset, and if the boyfriend doesn't like you if you are not wearing a corset, then he isn't worth it.

I posted the picture and the info so that the OP understands where her parents are coming from and why they are upset/worried.

Reply 15

Lady_Darkness

I can understand the health worries your parents have... perhaps don't wear the corsets quite so tightly? Try to reach a compromise with your parents - you need to reassure them that you're not doing any permanent damage by wearing them and let them know that you like wearing them... only wear them occasionally and not all the time - make it clear you don't want to torture your body!

:smile:

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OP

wow - that pic is awful. Thats way smaller than 17" .... and its way too small for such a large person. The reduction there must be 12" or more - thats just horid and wrong and very unhealthy.

I am slim and have a natural waist size of about 24" so 18" is a 6" reduction which does not look anything like that picture.

Just to put some more perspective on it - Kylie wears corsets and doesnt look like that picture.... and she wears a 16" corset according to the press....though I think its more likely 18".....

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/showbiz/showbiznews.html?in_article_id=341836&in_page_id=1773

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spacecowgirl89

Hmm...well, I understand your parents' concern..'cos obviously they probably associate wearing a corset with not being able to breathe etc....don't you find them bad at all? You should be able to wear what you want, but not if they're hurting you/causing you not to breathe properly. (bloody hell, 18" btw!!! :eek:

)

If you actually like wearing them and they don't cause you discomfort or whatever then go for it - it's not your fault your parents don't like them. You can wear what you like.

Edit: you can wear what you like, but if it's only your boyfriend who got you into this, then you don't have to wear them constantly, and you certainly don't have to answer to him if you don't want to wear one all the time, even if he bought you them.

I don't find wearing a corset bad - I am slim naturally with a natural waist of 24" so even at 18" its only 6" reduction. 2 of my corstes will lace to 18" the others 20" and 21" which are really easy to wear - they dont even make you breath shallow.

I know I dont have to answer to him and I must admit I am a little annoyed at his response and it does start me thinking

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bunthulhu

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alicejb

wow - that pic is awful. Thats way smaller than 17" .... and its way too small for such a large person. The reduction there must be 12" or more - thats just horid and wrong and very unhealthy.

I am slim and have a natural waist size of about 24" so 18" is a 6" reduction which does not look anything like that picture.

Just to put some more perspective on it - Kylie wears corsets and doesnt look like that picture.... and she wears a 16" corset according to the press....though I think its more likely 18".....

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/showbiz/showbiznews.html?in_article_id=341836&in_page_id=1773

She's very petite anyway...

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