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How to approach a girl (stranger) at the campus? watch

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    I am new in London as an international student & am currently studying at a uni in Central London. My course is pretty niche and there aren't many people in it. Of whatever few girls there are, 1 isn't interested (v nice and sweet girl!) and the others are not worth going after.

    There are many beautiful girls at my uni BUT the whole environment at the uni is weird. You don't see a lot of social interactions b/w students outside your course and nobody looks at each other to acknowledge them, smiles or even check someone out. Like everyone is cold, detached, disconnected, and just doesn't want to be bothered. The vibe seems so hostile and aloof and girls looks so dry, and hostile, with the damn earphones stuffed in their ears to shut out the world even more.
    I would like to approach girls that I fancy but I'm afraid she might report me or something. I've heard this kind of nonsense sh*t does happen. I'm not creepy at all btw, but am considerably confident and good looking (DEFINITELY NOT bad looking at all) I was told by one classmate that it does happen here, that you might approach a girl and she might report you to security or something. It's weird here. Lol

    Is that true? Are there girls so crazy who see being approached by a guy as sexual harassment?

    Like if I see someone walking to somewhere, how acceptable is it to stop her and start a conversation with a genuine statement something like "hey, excuse me, .I just saw you & had to come here and say hi. what's your name?". Or just walk up to someone at the uni cafe or library?

    So, yes it is dubious to randomly approach girls you fancy in inappropriate circumstances. They are not necessarily in dating mode, not necessarily interested, plus strangers can be threatening, however non creepy and attractive they view themselves. Rather you need to find social situations which link to friendships and dating and try your hand at some relationship building and flirting. Try joining a few societies, going to the pub etc.
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