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    (Original post by Mahmoud X)
    Who says such a thing?
    The fact that I'm actually highly charismatic in person when I'm not talking in an utterly bunt manner for the sake of clarity via tsr. Why's that a fact? Well people ****ing tell me! And I can get on with pretty much anyone. Make them laugh. Make them smile. Make them respect me (definition of respect - if someone asks about my personality they will respond only with compliments and sincere, specific ones at not, not vague, wishy-washy ones).

    Please don't assume my conversations with anyone IRL are anything like this. They're not. But this way of speaking has a certain value that's for sure.
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    (Original post by gemmam)
    She likely doesn't want to go on birth control because she's put off by the possible side effects of hormonal contraception and isn't comfortable with the idea of the copper coil. Obviously a femidom is non-hormonal/not as invasive as a coil so if that's the case she might be willing to try it.
    Noted.

    However, I do feel it's inappropriate especially for first time sex for the woman to be wearing a femidom when nearly always it is the woman who has the climaxing issues. Even if that may not be the case in this instance it still has an even higher chance of failure than a regular condom which doesn't bode well in my overly anxious mind.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Noted.

    However, I do feel it's inappropriate especially for first time sex for the woman to be wearing a femidom when nearly always it is the woman who has the climaxing issues. Even if that may not be the case in this instance it still has an even higher chance of failure than a regular condom which doesn't bode well in my overly anxious mind.
    bloody women with their climaxing issues :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Mahmoud X)
    bloody women with their climaxing issues :rolleyes:
    It's true though right?

    A good first impression of sex is important. Keep her coming back for more

    No need to rush into it I think...
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    It's true though right?

    A good first impression of sex is important. Keep her coming back for more

    No need to rush into it I think...
    I wouldn't know.
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    (Original post by Mahmoud X)
    I wouldn't know.
    But earlier you were speaking with such an air of confidence and arrogance about you that you could have fooled me good sir!
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    wow i feel bad for your girlfriend, yoj want to dump her just to find someone who u dont have to use a condom for, birth control causes a lot of hormonal issues somtimes, and its not for everybody.


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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    But earlier you were speaking with such an air of confidence and arrogance about you that you could have fooled me good sir!
    I've never really thought of myself as arrogant.
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    (Original post by ranz)
    wow i feel bad for your girlfriend, yoj want to dump her just to find someone who u dont have to use a condom for, birth control causes a lot of hormonal issues somtimes, and its not for everybody.


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    Lol, please. It's not that like that at all wtf. why are you twisting my words?

    I don't want sex with a condom right this moment. So if she demands that I have sex with her now with a condom or she goes then I will let her go. That's it

    I'm not going to dump her for not using birth control. Clearly my **** is broken so I will take the time to fix it and if she can't wait for me to do that clearly she is just using me for sex anyway soooooo I will not be at a loss if she has to go.
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    You don't sound ready. "I can't get there", "i can't use a condom", "i can't get her pregnant".

    You don't know it yet,but you're making excuses. Make sure you're ready. I myself am allergic to the pill and have to use condoms, but my friend regularly forgets to take her pill so don't trust the fact that girls are telling you they have taken the pill, they can lie. None of my male friends will sleep with anyone without a condom because it is there, you can see it, you know it hasn't been pricked because you have bought it and have put it on.

    Real life isn't like porn. It's not all about you and your manly needs. It is a serious commitment between two people. Both need to give consent, be comfortable and be safe.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Yeah, I know, less than 0.02% chance of pregnancy per sex act. HOWEVER. That's with perfect use conditions and I've never had sex with a condom. What if we are changing positions, it slips slightly, pre-*** spills? What if it is too big and slips off? Too thin and it tears? Or what if its just a **** condom and it breaks for pretty much no reason because manufacturing fault (that's the 0.02% chance I guess and I suppose that doesn't really bother me).

    What if she forgets the pill, lies about taking the pill,has an allergic reaction to the pill- like i did- and gets rushed into hospital for 8 hours (it can kill people). I know of 8 girls who got pregnant taking the pill religiously.
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    (Original post by GreekTea)
    You don't sound ready. "I can't get there", "i can't use a condom", "i can't get her pregnant".

    You don't know it yet,but you're making excuses. Make sure you're ready. I myself am allergic to the pill and have to use condoms, but my friend regularly forgets to take her pill so don't trust the fact that girls are telling you they have taken the pill, they can lie. None of my male friends will sleep with anyone without a condom because it is there, you can see it, you know it hasn't been pricked because you have bought it and have put it on.

    Real life isn't like porn. It's not all about you and your manly needs. It is a serious commitment between two people. Both need to give consent, be comfortable and be safe.
    Are you allergic to the patch, the jab and IUDs too btw? Just curious.

    I don't even know why you are talking about real life and porn... Stop being so condescendingly sexist. I would prefer to avoid wearing a condom because I know I will not enjoy sex if I am to have it within a few weeks and wear a condom. That's not me being a selfish lover is it ffs? Would you really expect a girl to have sex to please her boyfriend who really wants to **** her even if she felt she wasn't ready and would not enjoy sex?

    It's literally the same analogy. Just like a girl who isn't ready for sex will not be turned on, will be too dry and tight for the male to enjoy. I will not be turned on, will get a limp **** and the whole thing will just put her off. and that's only made worse by the fact that's she's a virgin and so a good first impression of sex will be really important for her.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Are you allergic to the patch, the jab and IUDs too btw? Just curious.

    I've never tried them...why would i. My boyfriend is a man- he just slips a condom on, you know, like MEN do.

    I don't even know why you are talking about real life and porn... Stop being so condescendingly sexist. I would prefer to avoid wearing a condom because I know I will not enjoy sex if I am to have it within a few weeks and wear a condom. That's not me being a selfish lover is it ffs? Would you really expect a girl to have sex to please her boyfriend who really wants to **** her even if she felt she wasn't ready and would not enjoy sex?

    It's literally the same analogy. Just like a girl who isn't ready for sex will not be turned on, will be too dry and tight for the male to enjoy. I will not be turned on, will get a limp **** and the whole thing will just put her off. and that's only made worse by the fact that's she's a virgin and so a good first impression of sex will be really important for her.

    Because your entire thread revolves around you and your needs and your actions. Yes you are selfish. Get a grip, and a life and grow the **** up. Heck, if you don't want to wear a condom, and she doesn't want to put that poisonous **** inside her body, that will make her gain weight, be moody and affect HER as a person in everyday life- dump her or get her pregnant. How will wearing a condom affect you negatively?! Poor little boy can't get it up.

    Put up or shut up.

    Don't complain to a student website. What the hell do you want us to do about it? We can't all walk over there and cram a pill down her throat or wack your **** out and put a condom on.

    Silly little boy.
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    TorpidPhil Omfg. Just try it OP. You might like it :hubba:

    And how do you know what wet pussy feels like? People have sex with rubbers all the time. Having it raw obviously is better, it's juicy, warm and you can feel the muscles contracting ohh hoo hoooooooo :sogood: lool

    Seriously though but just try out which condom works for you, there's loads of brands, some are **** and feel like you're wearing a grocery bag, others are better. It's your ****, try what works for you. Stop all this speculation and guessing games, get the rubber, stop pressuring the chick and **** her and see what works, what doesn't. Sex with rubbers never stopped anybody who's sane.

    You're probably just scared that you won't get turned on (not that you'd truly know) and will not be able to please her and will be traumatised as some lame f*ck. Get over that and get in there.
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    (Original post by GreekTea)
    Because your entire thread revolves around you and your needs and your actions. Yes you are selfish. Get a grip, and a life and grow the **** up. Heck, if you don't want to wear a condom, and she doesn't want to put that poisonous **** inside her body, that will make her gain weight, be moody and affect HER as a person in everyday life- dump her or get her pregnant. How will wearing a condom affect you negatively?! Poor little boy can't get it up.

    Put up or shut up.

    Don't complain to a student website. What the hell do you want us to do about it? We can't all walk over there and cram a pill down her throat or wack your **** out and put a condom on.

    Silly little boy.
    Exaaaactly :toofunny:
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    (Original post by GreekTea)
    Because your entire thread revolves around you and your needs and your actions. Yes you are selfish. Get a grip, and a life and grow the **** up. Heck, if you don't want to wear a condom, and she doesn't want to put that poisonous **** inside her body, that will make her gain weight, be moody and affect HER as a person in everyday life- dump her or get her pregnant. How will wearing a condom affect you negatively?! Poor little boy can't get it up.

    Put up or shut up.

    Don't complain to a student website. What the hell do you want us to do about it? We can't all walk over there and cram a pill down her throat or wack your **** out and put a condom on.

    Silly little boy.
    Well the thread isn't even necessary now because I've came to my conclusion. It did help me come to that conclusion though. I have a tendency for getting stressed over nothing... I just needed a little guidance. People's honest guidance. Relax jeez, I don't think this is a common scenario that most people find themselves in so I think it was justified for me to make a thread. I'm new to all this and really don't have a clue People give such conflicting messages even as you see just from this thread alone.
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    (Original post by mrsjenner)
    TorpidPhil Omfg. Just try it OP. You might like it :hubba:

    And how do you know what wet pussy feels like? People have sex with rubbers all the time. Having it raw obviously is better, it's juicy, warm and you can feel the muscles contracting ohh hoo hoooooooo :sogood: lool

    Sex with rubbers never stopped anybody who's sane.

    You're probably just scared that you won't get turned on (not that you'd truly know) and will not be able to please her and will be traumatised as some lame f*ck. Get over that and get in there.
    It's not even ****ing mental though. She was giving me a handjob and it felt worse then when she was stroking the hairs on my forearm ffs. I guess I hadn't really came up front about my masturbation addiction before... I need to deal with that first clearly before anything else. then I'll try the rubber. But I made the thread since she was asking me for sex in a few days time. I'm gonna have to be like noooo. Yet I let her give me a handjob. She's gonna be thinking wtf is wrong with this ****.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    It's not even ****ing mental though. She was giving me a handjob and it felt worse then when she was stroking the hairs on my forearm ffs. I guess I hadn't really came up front about my masturbation addiction before... I need to deal with that first clearly before anything else. then I'll try the rubber. But I made the thread since she was asking me for sex in a few days time. I'm gonna have to be like noooo. Yet I let her give me a handjob. She's gonna be thinking wtf is wrong with this ****.
    My brother

    listen to me carefully ok


    you need to lubricate

    you don't just yank it out and go ham

    you will hurt yourself

    It's skin.

    Imagine madly rubbing your naked dry arm for an hour straight

    That **** will probably hurt.

    Sex without lube especially jerking off causes hyper-stimulation
    and it gets worn out faster/desensitises

    So lube it up and make sure she knows wtf she's doing as well.
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    (Original post by mrsjenner)
    My brother

    listen to me carefully ok


    you need to lubricate

    you don't just yank it out and go ham

    you will hurt yourself

    It's skin.

    Imagine madly rubbing your naked dry arm for an hour straight

    That **** will probably hurt.

    Sex without lube especially jerking off causes hyper-stimulation
    and it gets worn out faster/desensitises

    So lube it up and make sure she knows wtf she's doing as well.
    Yeah. I've killed my **** through over-masturbation. I REALISE THAT NOW. But it's kind of late... If I use lube now I just feel even less ffs. So I guess this is day 2 of the waiting game.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Yeah. I've killed my **** through over-masturbation. I REALISE THAT NOW. But it's kind of late... If I use lube now I just feel even less ffs. So I guess this is day 2 of the waiting game.
    So this was never about rubbers, this was just about your penis struggles. Cool. Good luck Chuck.
 
 
 
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