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best way to get over a guy?

kelly1989

and dont say get under another one.. just broke up with my boyfriend after 2 years, and with my exams coming up I cant concentrate :frown:

Reply 1

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Damnit...that was gonna be my reply...

Reply 2

notsoperfect

1

see your friends lots and lots. it's a gradual thing and may not feel like it helps much at first as people may say the wrong thing/remind you of the situation. but it will really help, i promise. i couldn't have got through my last breakup without my friends!

Reply 3

TheRandomer

18

That's awful if he broke up with you at exam time.. =/
Firstly, *hugs*
You need to concentrate on what you've got going for you.. like your friends & family, plans for summer, that you most likely have a lot of other guys after you... um, think about the importance of the exams, and that you shouldn't let some guy ruin the rest of your life!
Oof, it must be really, really hard after 2 years.. but you can do it :]

Reply 4

Tyler Durden

17

3232

Damnit...that was gonna be my reply...

:dito:

Reply 5

kelly1989

OP

thanks guys :smile:

Reply 6

HereFishyFishy

13

Seriously hun, there have been many threads on this with good advice, so look 'em up.

Anyhow, I'm sorry :hugs:

that really sucks. I'm afraid nothing but time will help cure your upset. But try and get into a work mindset, as it may help to keep your thoughts away from your ex. Start with your favourite topics and think about how good summer will be if you pass them all well. Good luck.

Reply 7

john!!

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kelly1989

and dont say get under another one.

why the hell not

Reply 8

tinkerbellejess

13

When my ex dumped me (we'd been together 2 years too (well on and off...)) it made me realise how great all my friends were because they all helped me get through it, and how I'd maybe rejected them a little bit when it came to my bf. So I concentrated on having fun, being with my friends, going out, keeping my mind occupied, telling them how I was feeling if I had a really bad day where I was missing him, and I spent more time with my friends than ever before, and it made me realsie that as long as I have these friends I don't need this idiot that had broken my heart!

And it was a couple of days before my birthday....******! :P (Bet he just didn't want to get me a pressie!)

Reply 9

lazzyfuzzylou

i think the best thing you can do is tell yourself over and over that if you broke up, it's because he's not right for you. it's the clearest sign of all that he wasn't the one and you can find someone so much better for you. and then when you accept that this is how it's going to be, and that you won't get back together, it is sad, but then it gives way to soo much freedom. good luck xxxx

Reply 10

SmilerNuts

15

lots of good advice there but yeah, just try and go out and unwind, let your hair down. If you have lots of fun then you wont be thinking of him. though that may be hard if it's exam time, you can always try.
and apparently it helps girls if they have clear reasons as to why they broke up, helps them move on easier

Reply 11

princesshannah1986

I too have recently just broken up with my boyfriend after 2 years. I was really caught up on him and believed the sunshine shined out of his backside. I couldnt move on for weeks. BUT all is not lost. I simply decided to do all the things he used to have a go at me for doing such as going out with friends, planning my educational future. I threw myself into catching up with old friends who I had kinda ignored when i was with him and I started planning going back to university. So I reckon, throw yourself into your exams, revise like mad, and then when you get that top grade you will be so glad!

Reply 12

HeadShock

Men suck

try and concentrate on the reasons why you broke up.

Reply 13

Trigger

18

I find a shotgun and thier head helps.

Reply 14

tis_me_lord

14

My ex ended it with me right in the middle of my A-levels and a few days before my 18th Birthday. It's approaching a year ago that this happened actually... but anyway.

The first thing that helped me was when I called one of my friends. I know guys have a reputation of being really unemotional etc but we talked for about an hour and a half (at the time that was loads for me) and he made me feel a lot better.

I suppose everyone does things differently. I'm not the social or partying type, so I didn't really go out and get drunk at all, I preferred to stay in and watch lots of comedies. Family guy and peepshow both cheered me up a bit! But this happened in June and it didn't just go away for ages. Even months later I'd begin to feel terribe about it, but the feeling bad happened less and less often. The only thing which made me completly over it though was finding somebody else. But that's only an option after a good half a year or so gap, or at least that was the case for me.

In the more immediate term, I know from experience, you're really quite helpless. You can take our advise but it's only little short term bursts of happiness you'll get. There will be a lot of hard times for you as well but that's all normal, and eventually, however long it takes, it honestly will get easier.

As for your exams, I found that being emotionally crippled wasn't too bad. The fact I wasn't sleeping for a while let me revise all night, I actually got 120/120 in an exam I did the next day so don't worry about it ruining your exams too much!

Reply 15

username47781

20

Time is the healer

Reply 16

ßlαcksωαn

17

time, tears and fun.

Reply 17

becky xxx

2

I'll let you know when I find out.

Reply 18

Schmokie Dragon

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kelly1989

and dont say get under another one.. just broke up with my boyfriend after 2 years, and with my exams coming up I cant concentrate :frown:

Read what tis_me_lord put =) I am the "someone else" he found.

Last May my boyfriend of two years broke up with me. I was already very depressed and this just pushed me further down. He was inconsistent and varied between telling me he still cared about me and wanted to make feel feel better and calling me a whore. I also had my A-Levels coming up and from the moment we broke up, I couldn't revise. Anytime alone and in the quiet would leave me feeling broken and empty. I think I ended up gaming quite a lot, falling for other people, having casual sex, playing chess at 4am and having nightmares. I would not recommend any of that.

What helped me get over things was realising that my ex was a piece of crap.

Reply 19

portiale

1

kinda the same thing for me my ex broke up with me a month ago im still finding it hard but if you keep looking to the future youll stop thinking of the past iv had great advice from people off here too.

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