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Do you think it is better to have a relationship with a friend and risk loosing that friendship if things don't work. Or is it better not to know the person beforehand so the relationship based more on physical attraction?

Thank you!

Reply 1

Louise88

I've never been out with someone that I wasn't friendly with before. Every boyfriend i've had has been a good friend before, and it's always worked for me. Despite the fact that our relationships might not have worked out, I talk to every single one of them and consider them good friends.

I couldn't really imagine going out with someone that I didn't really know. Those guys knew me, I knew them therefore it was comfortable. I wouldn't feel comfortable around someone that I wasn't particularly friendly with.

Everyone is different though, you just have to do what feels right for you.

Reply 2

Kate.

15

I met my current boyfriend at the end of December, and we were together by the end of January. I guess we had a short period of getting to know each other as friends but I think the attraction/intention to take things further was always there. There was a similar beginning to my last relationship too, but my first boyfriend was a pretty good friend for a while before we got together. We broke up early last year and only recently have I been able to talk to him like a friend again...well, more like acquaintance :P

Reply 3

smellielli

1

Personally, I prefer being friends with the person first, as that way you get to know them.

Reply 4

Danny Zuko

smellielli

Personally, I prefer being friends with the person first, as that way you get to know them.

Whether you're attracted to them straight away or just grow to be friends, you're still going to get to know each other! Like DUH! :rolleyes:

Reply 5

devils_nose

10

Makes no odds to me as they will become one of my best friends over the course of the relationship anyway so the risk of losing a really good friend is always there whatever the starting point!!

Reply 6

username43584

8

Personally, I can't go out with anyone I haven't known for a long time beforehand. I may not know them particularly well (you don't really get to know someone properly until you're in a relationship with them, or are really really close friends) but I'll still know them. What's important for me is feeling comfortable around the person I'm going out with. And I'm generally not in the least comfortable round someone I barely know.

Reply 7

dita_parlo

11

I've never been involved with anybody who was a friend first... I don't really think it matters how you meet the person!

Reply 8

grace

15

Danny Zuko

Whether you're attracted to them straight away or just grow to be friends, you're still going to get to know each other! Like DUH! :rolleyes:

agreed, i've never been friends with any of my bfs first, it's all been based initially on physical attraction. However, my partner is my absolute best friend, and i have the confidence of knowing he finds me hot enough to warrant a purely physical attraction, yet our connection has developed into something way deeper.

i couldn't imagine dating any of my male friends. That's just...eeeew.

Reply 9

guitargirl03

13

I've been friends with my boyfriend for 7 years and I have to say that it's worked in our favour as we know a lot about each other, which has helped to bring us closer.

Reply 10

messynessie

1

florafox

Do you think it is better to have a relationship with a friend and risk loosing that friendship if things don't work. Or is it better not to know the person beforehand so the relationship based more on physical attraction?

Thank you!

Um, the three before this, I was friends with them before, not amazingly close friends, but then went out with them, found them annoying, and didn't really speak to them again. Lol.

This one I spoke to only like 3 times (only twice in real life) before we got together.

and this one's fab.

So I'll go with the stranger thing.

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