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    Basically, for the 4th time in my life I saw an escort girl (once the same person twice so 3 different ladies in total). I feel sick because doing this doesn't make me feel good about myself. But my sex drive and testosterone is crazy and much like an alcoholic or an addict of some kind, I need a fix every now and again. If I can't get it in normal conditions and my frustration grows over a long period of time I snap and become weak. My most recent visit I just received oral because I would have felt even fithier going all the way. I just needed some relief and frankly some attention, even if this isn't the right way to go about it. It's a cycle I don't know how to break because the real world doesn't satisfy me and then I turn to doing this and feel worse for it after. I genuinely don't know what to do. Considering going to a church on sunday to find some peace because my soul is just empty, battered and lost. Being a guy this isn't something I can just talk about with someone. It's hard keeping this to myself but I won't call people like the Samaritans as I find them useless.

    Ultimately I feel low about myself. I don't want to do this and I don't like how it turns my head and tihs isn't something I ever thought I would do so it's not something I'm proud of but I don't know what to do anymore.
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    Maybe try to find a way to transfer your 'addiction' into something productive/beneficial. I did that with weightlifting and it worked wonders!
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    First of all don't feel bad or dirty because sex and urges are a natural thing and because you haven't had much luck with recieving that "in normal conditions" that will definitely make your urges stronger, have you ever heard of "the forbidden fruits taste sweeter" saying?

    Samaritans are useless as they do not give actual feedback and the same goes for counselling so I would suggest seeing a psychologist who can actually help you with these issues or one that specialises in this.
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    Sex is a normal thing, everyone does it and have urges, I mean you wouldn't exist if it wasn't for sex.

    As for your weakness, you need to take responsibility and develop will power, go to the gym, feel good about yourself, fix yourself up, wear good clothes, sort out your grooming, smell nice, observe men who are with women and successful with women.

    Join online dating or go to speed dating events or else approach women.

    As one of the posters have said, do something productive like learn a skill, meet your ambitions, join a sports club.

    Good luck
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    Having a casual **** and making love are two different things; don't feel bad about using escorts for exactly what they're there for


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    (Original post by BristolFresher15)
    Maybe try to find a way to transfer your 'addiction' into something productive/beneficial. I did that with weightlifting and it worked wonders!
    it's actually really difficult to do this and won't just stop nature in it's courses tbh.
    yes it might take your mind of it for a while but it won't stop your body from producing natural urges and hormones.
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    (Original post by CompSci89)
    Sex is a normal thing, everyone does it and have urges, I mean you wouldn't exist if it wasn't for sex.

    As for your weakness, you need to take responsibility and develop will power, go to the gym, feel good about yourself, fix yourself up, wear good clothes, sort out your grooming, smell nice, observe men who are with women and successful with women.

    Join online dating or go to speed dating events or else approach women.

    As one of the posters have said, do something productive like learn a skill, meet your ambitions, join a sports club.

    Good luck
    I've done all that .. doesn't work. That's why I have become weak to my sins. Being 'me' just attracts weirdos and girls I'm not attracted to whatsoever.
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    (Original post by alkaline.)
    it's actually really difficult to do this and won't just stop nature in it's courses tbh.
    yes it might take your mind of it for a while but it won't stop your body from producing natural urges and hormones.
    Of course. But they can be somewhat suppressed by an overload of other hormones i.e. endorphin and adrenaline.

    Its obviously not a cure, but it helps a lot.
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    You need to work on yourself a bit.
    put that energy into something productive.
    Not give into temptation.
    Then hopefully with that drive and passion you will attract a girlfriend.

    The paradox of feeling sad/down/depressed and then horny will just carry on and on, until you man up, face it head on and do something about it.
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    (Original post by MyunrequitedLove)
    You need to work on yourself a bit.
    put that energy into something productive.
    Not give into temptation.
    Then hopefully with that drive and passion you will attract a girlfriend.

    The paradox of feeling sad/down/depressed and then horny will just carry on and on, until you man up, face it head on and do something about it.
    But it's not as if every guy who has a girlfriend or gets girls is getting it through having a passion or skill. Llikely he is getting it because he is either extremely handsome or he is a really good charmer or has some material assets that interest girls. It's not as if a guy who is passionate about playing the flute is suddenly going to be surrounded by girls. So I'm not sure what this supposed productivity is all about to be completely honest.
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    Having a passion is a great thing to have. It gives you drive, motivation.
    Being passionate about something is a quality that a lot of girls look for in potential partners.

    By working on yourself and finding something that you can invest you energy into, will help you take your mind off of things and before you know it, without thinking you will meet someone.
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    (Original post by MyunrequitedLove)
    Having a passion is a great thing to have. It gives you drive, motivation.
    Being passionate about something is a quality that a lot of girls look for in potential partners.

    By working on yourself and finding something that you can invest you energy into, will help you take your mind off of things and before you know it, without thinking you will meet someone.
    Well in principle it makes sense. However, I have focued on my studies for a while now diligently and without stopping and have been extremely well rewarded through this (landed a top job) - yet that hasn't impressed any sane halfway pretty girls enough to show any concrete interest in me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well in principle it makes sense. However, I have focued on my studies for a while now diligently and without stopping and have been extremely well rewarded through this (landed a top job) - yet that hasn't impressed any sane halfway pretty girls enough to show any concrete interest in me.
    Maybe it might be other issues. With me I don't have that many female friends. Alot of people meet partners through friend groups.
    So networking and socializing helps.
    Confidence issues can make it harder.
    That saying comes to mind "how can you love someone if you don't love yourself".

    Judging by the stuff you have written, you seem like a decent guy. Im sure you will find someone eventually!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, for the 4th time in my life I saw an escort girl (once the same person twice so 3 different ladies in total). I feel sick because doing this doesn't make me feel good about myself. But my sex drive and testosterone is crazy and much like an alcoholic or an addict of some kind, I need a fix every now and again. If I can't get it in normal conditions and my frustration grows over a long period of time I snap and become weak. My most recent visit I just received oral because I would have felt even fithier going all the way. I just needed some relief and frankly some attention, even if this isn't the right way to go about it. It's a cycle I don't know how to break because the real world doesn't satisfy me and then I turn to doing this and feel worse for it after. I genuinely don't know what to do. Considering going to a church on sunday to find some peace because my soul is just empty, battered and lost. Being a guy this isn't something I can just talk about with someone. It's hard keeping this to myself but I won't call people like the Samaritans as I find them useless.

    Ultimately I feel low about myself. I don't want to do this and I don't like how it turns my head and tihs isn't something I ever thought I would do so it's not something I'm proud of but I don't know what to do anymore.
    You should talk to someone you trust
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    Message me I can help you
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    Can you tell me where you found the escort and how much you paid? I'm still a virgin in my 20s and seriously considering using one.
 
 
 
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