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    the other day a guy licked me out for the first time, ad been asked a lot of times but didnt say yes as i knew it would lead to sex. so i made it clear that i did not want sex afterwards even though if i did get super horny and say lets have sex i wouldnt mean it deep down it would be lust and would regret it afterwards as staying a virgin is super important to me . so this is what happened, a guy licked me out and i got really turned on and wanted him in me at that point and we had sex. so im wondering was it sex without consent or with?
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    It wasn't non-consensual sex, as such, but he did take advantage of you.
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    i got really turned on and wanted him in me at that point and we had sex.
    Congrats! You gave consent
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    wanted him in me
    there's your answer
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    the other day a guy licked me out for the first time, ad been asked a lot of times but didnt say yes as i knew it would lead to sex. so i made it clear that i did not want sex afterwards even though if i did get super horny and say lets have sex i wouldnt mean it deep down it would be lust and would regret it afterwards as staying a virgin is super important to me . so this is what happened, a guy licked me out and i got really turned on and wanted him in me at that point and we had sex. so im wondering was it sex without consent or with?
    I'm pretty sure you consented. If you said you wanted it at the time and didn't tell him at any point to stop, you consented. It would be silly if it wasn't considered consent just because you didn't plan to beforehand, because otherwise some girls would cry rape if they regretted it afterwards.

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    errr you said you wanted to at the time= consent.
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    Congrats! You gave consent
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    there's your answer
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    I'm pretty sure you consented. If you said you wanted it at the time and didn't tell him at any point to stop, you consented. It would be silly if it wasn't considered consent just because you didn't plan to beforehand, because otherwise some girls would cry rape if they regretted it afterwards.

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    yeah i guess, it was just playing on my mind but i knew the answer. yeah i would never cry rape over this
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    Hmm.. well in the same way that you can withdraw consent after giving it, you can consent after not giving consent (oh boy, that was poorly-written). He should have respected your wishes and made sure you really wanted to have sex at that point, and you can want sex without wanting it at that precise moment, but it seems you did give consent.
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    From what you've said, you def consented. You were horny and not necessarily thinking about how you'd feel afterwards, but you consented nonetheless :yes:
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    Why was it ok for you to turn back on your word but not him? Is he not allowed to be pushed by desire as well?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    the other day a guy licked me out for the first time, ad been asked a lot of times but didnt say yes as i knew it would lead to sex. so i made it clear that i did not want sex afterwards even though if i did get super horny and say lets have sex i wouldnt mean it deep down it would be lust and would regret it afterwards as staying a virgin is super important to me . so this is what happened, a guy licked me out and i got really turned on and wanted him in me at that point and we had sex. so im wondering was it sex without consent or with?
    Is this a troll thread or what?

    If it's not then as long as you were consenting to the oral and then to the sex there is nothing you can do, regardless of whether you regret it or not. Whatever your reasons were for wanting to "stay a virgin", what's done is done.
 
 
 
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