The question in short : Why is it acceptable to skinny shame someone but not acceptable to fat shame someone?
The backstory :
So was at the school gym this afternoon and saw this young lad trying to do dumbbell curls and he was surrounded by a mixed group dishing out so much unnecessary chat (to him). Most of it was like this: "you're so big mate", "wow! huge arms bro", "look at those legs, how much do you lift", "you make us look so small" ... He was skinny in truth but was not enjoying this sarcasm one bit and it didn't help that those dishing were chuckling and one of them even wrapped their arm around his to try and intimidate him further. When one of the girls (who was quite chubby) tried to do the same thing he quickly retracted his arm and she said "come on I just wanna see how big they are" whilst turning to the group and laughing, to which he replied "why don't you hop on the treadmill to try and lose some weight first. And let me do my thing".
*silence/gasp* She stared at him for a few seconds bewildered and then started to cry. A few of her girl friends were trying to comfort her whilst saying how rude and dickish he was for saying that whilst the other guys in the group did the same. They then walked off and spoke to each other about him, loudly so that he could hear .
I witnessed pretty much all of this from about 20 feet away and was totally disgusted; not so much by fact that the lad was getting bullied, but more so by the reaction of the girl and the group who couldn't experience a taste of their own horseshit. Didn't he have all the right to say that after all the abuse he was getting..?
lmao he destroyed her faster than she would destroy a big mac
Lol the head of sixth form is apparently worried about me because I'm 'too thin.' Yes I'm skinny(I'm a size 6/8) but I don't look at all unhealthy, so I honestly so baffled. Instead of speaking to me directly,they go talking about it behind my back to other teachers.
I was very annoyed because they wouldn't ever talk about a student being 'too fat', yet they think it's acceptable to talk about me being too skinny
short answer, skinny shaming is no more acceptable than fat shaming. But some people are perpetual victim snow flakes and think they award special illogical treatment
Skinny shaming is more acceptable than fat shaming because skinny has been and still is a goal for so many individuals, mostly girls (which explains why the whole "fat acceptance" movement consists of mostly girls), and fat is quite the opposite. That is why.
Both are wrong.
Yeah, I totally agree, I've always been skinny and in the past have been called things like a stick or told 'you're all skin and bone', and while I wasn't too upset at these comments as I'm only slightly insecure about my appearance, it still really annoyed me that if I had said the equivalent to them like calling them a whale or 'you're all blubber' or something similarly harsh, I would have been heavily criticised and shouted at for it, and rightly so. Neither should be acceptable imo, skinny people can be insecure about their weight too, yet no-one considers that.