No one likes me...

I am 23 and know that it's rather juvenile to think in this manner, but I just do feel this way. I get defriended by people sometimes and it makes me feel sad. Heck, even by someone from TSR.

WTF is wrong with me?

Reply 1

sufiankane

2

nothing much tbh. there are arseholes, idiots and normal people. One guy at my school, hated me for 6 years, played poker wiht me one day, said i was ok now we are friends. some people cba to give a chance and assume. these are called knob ends. it happens more than you think, just be open and outward, if you hit common ground, talk, if you dont hit common ground with someone, just pretend you care, or act interested and find out more about it. hope it helps.

Reply 2

Butterfly

1

^ The problem is not necessarily with the rest of the world.

This may sound harsh, but I reckon it is probably the most likely reason for what is happening one hit...perhaps you are a bit on the boring side? :confused:

Reply 3

Danielle89

14

All through primary and the start of secondary many people were like this with me because I was quite quiet and subdued although I did have my parents divorce going on and a whole heap of crap besides.

Anyway, this year a lot of people have realised Im actually a nice person and started talking to me as normal because Im in classes without my normal group of friends. I have very low self-esteem not just because of the friendless thing but then I have mates who have been around for a good couple years now and I've grown up a lot.

Just depends on circumstances. The smallest thing can lead to people thinking you're a bitch but then if you put yourself in situations where you have a chance to make a good impression it usually works and they'll change their minds.

Reply 4

Danny Zuko

Butterfly

This may sound harsh, but I reckon it is probably the most likely reason for what is happening one hit...perhaps you are a bit on the boring side? :confused:

Na-huh! Apt use of the confused smiley there. To be excommunicated or "defriended", you've got to cause friction or be quirkily different. Simply being uninteresting won't get the same result.

The OP must also stop using a "internet forum friends" v "real-life friends" comparison. A "people who really matter" v "people who don't" paradigm works way better! :biggrin:

Reply 5

Butterfly

1

^ I don't agree...sometimes you kinda just get forgotten about or sidelined because you aren't that much fun or don't fit in.

Reply 6

Adam83

12

what is a friend anyway

Reply 7

prash_s90

16

Dont change yourself completely just to make people like you, but you should take the initiative to make people like you...dont know if that makes sense ..

Reply 8

fat_hobbit

2

theonehitwonder

I am 23 and know that it's rather juvenile to think in this manner, but I just do feel this way. I get defriended by people sometimes and it makes me feel sad. Heck, even by someone from TSR.

WTF is wrong with me?

I am sure there are people that like you, you have to be more specific on why by using examples of situations you have been in.

If someone treats you like you have 0 worth then don't hang out with them simple as...Just recently, I had to cut ties with a girl I knew because of this reason - she treated me like a knob and absolutely hated it when her friends give me attention or if I get attention from girls in general. I don't know why -but either way I cant be arsed with wasting my time with her. For two reasons, a) she may bitch about me too girls I don't know...so whats the point? (even though the girls I meet through her eventually see through it and continue giving me attention) b) more importantly, she brings me down...so for that reason I disregard her friendship as I have no time for it.

...Saying that, I have also got friends that I am very very close too and I am sure you will meet people like that too. If not I am very suprised. If you are at uni, surely you have met people on your course that you get along with - or even randomly.

Don't get down mate, remember not everyone will like you - just filter the knobs from the people who like you and be confident too. If you are not, then people will pick up on it and exploit it. Remember as well, if you are at uni, most of these people you may/or may not see after you graduate, so concentrate & be happy with yourself and people will come to you.

Reply 9

Angrybanana

11

fat_hobbit

I am sure there are people that like you, you have to be more specific on why by using examples of situations you have been in.

If someone treats you like you have 0 worth then don't hang out with them simple as...Just recently, I had to cut ties with a girl I knew because of this reason - she treated me like a knob and absolutely hated it when her friends give me attention or if I get attention from girls in general. I don't know why -but either way I cant be arsed with wasting my time with her. For two reasons, a) she may bitch about me too girls I don't know...so whats the point? (even though the girls I meet through her eventually see through it and continue giving me attention) b) more importantly, she brings me down...so for that reason I disregard her friendship as I have no time for it.

...Saying that, I have also got friends that I am very very close too and I am sure you will meet people like that too. If not I am very suprised. If you are at uni, surely you have met people on your course that you get along with - or even randomly.

Don't get down mate, remember not everyone will like you - just filter the knobs from the people who like you and be confident too. If you are not, then people will pick up on it and exploit it. Remember as well, if you are at uni, most of these people you may/or may not see after you graduate, so concentrate & be happy with yourself and people will come to you.

Sorry I know this is off-topic but did you post a thread about that girl once, saying she wouldn't believe it if you said someone chatted you up and stuff? Sounded like a right biatch.

Reply 10

fat_hobbit

2

Angrybanana

Sorry I know this is off-topic but did you post a thread about that girl once, saying she wouldn't believe it if you said someone chatted you up and stuff? Sounded like a right biatch.

Yeah it is her that I have cut ties with. Last week for example I was revising with her flatmate, her and another chick - her flatmate was showing me a lot of attention and then afterwards we went for dinner to the local pub. Her flatmate on the way there and in the pub kept saying to me "x is really annoyed at us" , so I just reassured her that everything was fine and that "x needs to grow up as she was talking to my other female mate and so we was not disturbing them".

Not only that, she is playing stupid games with my flatmate by showing him a lot more attention and then talking about me behind my back to him (...which is a stupid thing to do) - so I just ignore the hell out of her. Eventually, she always comes back to me - phoning me etc and then complaining "why I don't show her attention.." ...Since her and my flatmate fell out, I have shown support for my flatmate and basically not answered her calls because I KNOW that if I had answered I would be used as an emotional pillow...don't have time for it.

Reply 11

Angrybanana

11

Sounds like she fancied you. Just had a screwed-up way of showing it, and since when has that been attractive? Good for you for getting rid. Your life has one less **** in it. :five:

Reply 12

*Stargirl*

on TSR?! they don't even know you!! you shouldn't give a toss

Reply 13

fat_hobbit

2

Angrybanana

Sounds like she fancied you. Just had a screwed-up way of showing it, and since when has that been attractive? Good for you for getting rid. Your life has one less **** in it. :five:

A LOT of people have said that lol. But this is fundamentally the problem with her, she does not show it...and if she does show it, it is via this manner.

My last exam for example (we did the same module), after the exam I said to her "so how did it go?", she said "fine", then wondered off and started talking to her friends....which is what I find really annoying about her, her behaviour changes depending on who she is around.. The night before she moaned how "I did NOT show her attention", when I do she does that - pretty annoying especially if you want to develop some kind of freindship. So I just thought "whatever", spoke to my friends then went to the gym for a good after exam workout lol.

:five:

Reply 14

Riim

Adam83

what is a friend anyway

:dito: Lucky is the one who finds a true friend for life.

Reply 15

theonehitwonder

OP

2

There are people who DO like my company, and probably know the real me. I am very easy going, and like to joke around like any other person but be serious when the need arises. I am very bad around new people and hate my voice, as it goes all weird when I feel nervous.

for the record, I actually met that TSR person, and things were alright but then yeah... I might see them occasionally around my university campus but eh who cares..

Reply 16

theonehitwonder

OP

2

Butterfly

^ The problem is not necessarily with the rest of the world.

This may sound harsh, but I reckon it is probably the most likely reason for what is happening one hit...perhaps you are a bit on the boring side? :confused:

Thanks for your honest and constructive comment! I am too shy :frown:

Reply 17

James

14

Try to find a few activities that you really enjoy, and do them regularly. These might include sports, music, acting, voluntary work, TA/UOTC, chess, etc. You will then meet lots of people with similar interests to you, and may make friends with many of them. Don't feel that your best friends need to be your housemates or people on the same course as you. :smile:

Reply 18

ßlαcksωαn

17

theonehitwonder

I am 23 and know that it's rather juvenile to think in this manner, but I just do feel this way. I get defriended by people sometimes and it makes me feel sad. Heck, even by someone from TSR.

WTF is wrong with me?

bah don't worry about TSR, hell heaps of people hate me on here, but it is the internet so dont let it bother you.
Making friends is hard but like someone said on here once...'you actually have to talk to people and not wait for them to talk to you'.
Nothing is wrong with you, this happens to the best of us.
Maybe you could make some "online friends" in the mean time. I'm not saying you have to meet up or what ever, just chat to them, I do that. Feel free to add me to msn, or pm me if you want, I am from your country if that helps.

Reply 19

Adam83

12

theonehitwonder

Thanks for your honest and constructive comment! I am too shy :frown:

well i dont agree with what he/she said.
the problem probably is with the rest of the world. You are the way you are, worry about getting good marks and going wherever you want to go in life, you are especially lucky as you wont have friends bothering you, so you can concentrate.

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