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    (Original post by Riverstar)
    I'm the same as you, I'm not repulsed, just indifferent towards it.
    I suppose that would be demisexuality, finding the right person would trigger sexual attraction. Some aces do sexual things to please their partners, but they are still asexual. I suppose how sexual an asexual person gets depends on the people in the relationship and what they're comfortable with
    I think that's fair enough.
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    LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL Nicole Arbour :lol: :rofl:
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    Just found out that she got banned, NicoleArbour. Checking her social groups, I could see a bit why.
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    (Original post by NicoleArbour)
    Hey! I believe that gay and straight people exist. None of this asexual, bisexual, transsexual and demisexual business. People put labels on everything, things that don't even exist. It's a phase, you'll grow out of it, maybe see a doctor for your low sex drive.
    See a doctor!? Really?! Asexuality is the real deal. It's one of only 4 sexualities which are recognized by the academic community (hetero, homo, bi and a)! I agree that people are making a lot of new ones up which are merely sexual preferences, but asexuality is not one of them! Would you tell a gay person to see a doctor? No? Then why would you say that to an asexual person?

    Being asexual has nothing to do with medical conditions or trauma. It's an actual sexuality just like being gay or straight or bi.

    Here, some academic papers and journal articles for you to read.

    http://fap.sagepub.com/content/early...abstract?rss=1
    http://news.stanford.edu/news/2015/f...ar-022315.html
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...they-important
    http://sex.sagepub.com/content/11/5/621.abstract

    "society has normalized certain levels of sexual desire while pathologizing others. In a sense, it's the social model that's broken, not asexuals."

    "Asexuality is not the same as sexual dysfunction."
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    I'm ace too. I've never desired sex and for me the idea of having a sweaty penis rammed up your vagina is totally repulsive. I've never been sexually attracted to anything or anyone either. I did fall in love with a molecule, though that's entirely platonic (<3 you H2O2!). Don't ask, it's something I don't really understand myself.

    It's really weird growing up when you're ace isn't it? Did you also get really confused by the fact that everyone else was getting all hormonal and sex-addicted and you weren't? Why people desire sex has always been one of life's big mysteries for me.
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    (Original post by popcornjpg)
    I find asexualism (is that a word?) rather odd to imagine, and I don't mean to be offensive. Does it mean you don't masturbate at all and have no sexual feelings whatsoever?
    Not necessarily. The key thing that makes ace people ace is the lack of sexual attraction to other people (basically, looking at someone else and thinking 'damn I'd tap that'). Feelings of arousal/sexual desire are entirely separate, so you can be ace and still have 'urges' as it were.
    To complicate things even further, there's some variation within asexuality as to how each individual feels about sexual activity. Again, it's more of a spectrum than something you can put into definite categories, but for convenience's sake the main ones tend to be:

    Sex positive/willing/[insert synonym here]: People who like sexual contact (including masturbation) and/or are willing to do it with a partner for the partner's enjoyment.
    Sex-repulsed: Pretty self-explanatory. People who don't like the idea of it at all, for whatever reason.
    Sex neutral: People who aren't fussed either way - they find sex is kinda 'meh'; they might do it for a partner's enjoyment but it's not really their cup of tea.

    Nothing offensive about curiosity, especially as you don't hear much about this kind of subject Sorry if this was patronising at all (I don't mean it to be), but hopefully this sheds some light on the situation.
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    (Original post by lightwoXd)
    Not necessarily. The key thing that makes ace people ace is the lack of sexual attraction to other people (basically, looking at someone else and thinking 'damn I'd tap that'. Feelings of arousal/sexual desire are entirely separate, so you can be ace and still have 'urges' as it were.
    To complicate things even further, there's some variation within asexuality as to how each individual feels about sexual activity. Again, it's more of a spectrum than something you can put into definite categories, but for convenience's sake the main ones tend to be:
    Two more questions if you don't mind.

    Is there any scientific explanation to asexuality?

    And also, does asexuality persist through the entirety of one's life, or can it disappear once an individual has met a specific person or something along that line?
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    (Original post by popcornjpg)
    Two more questions if you don't mind.

    Is there any scientific explanation to asexuality?

    And also, does asexuality persist through the entirety of one's life, or can it disappear once an individual has met a specific person or something along that line?
    Don't mind at all!

    Nothing concrete that I know of. If I were to hazard a guess it would probably be something to do with stopping populations getting too high (like homosexuality, which has been shown to occur in many other species aside from humans) - but that's just speculation on my part, and I wouldn't know what actually causes it (nature vs nurture and all that jazz).

    This depends really. It can be something you experience your whole life, or you can find that over time you actually do start to experience sexual attraction - whether that be because of someone you met (this kind of case could be looking more towards demisexuality or grey-asexuality, but it depends on the circumstances), or for no apparent reason at all. I think in general sexuality (or lack thereof) is pretty fluid - you might find it changes as you go through life, or you might not. Whichever one you experience, it's fine - what matters is feeling comfortable with your identity at the present moment.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    No that's not offensive at all, I started this thread to open up discussions like this!
    I know that a virgin who doesn't want to have sex seems fairly normal and not an indicator of asexuality. However, for many asexuals they do not just experience a lack of desire for sex, but also a lack of sexual attraction. For me, that was most clearly displayed early in secondary school when my friends would talk about "hot" guys, and I had no idea what "hot" meant. Obviously "hot" means attractive, but there is something else implied which I have never understood.
    So basically, many asexuals have no desire to have sex at all and feel no sexual attraction towards anyone.
    THIS THIS THIS with the whole 'hot' thing - seems to be a fairly common anecdote among asexuals, haha.
    All throughout secondary school I never really understood what the whole fuss about 'hot' people was about - I could identify what one looked like, but I could never really see reason to get excited about it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I haven't, but I'd absolutely love to one day!
    It's just that the word asexual makes me think of climbing pyramids.
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    would u adopt a child?
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    (Original post by MevMev)
    would u adopt a child?
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    Unless one of us had something stopping my girlfriend conceiving, be it me having a sperm problem or herself not being able to get pregnant for whatever reason.
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    (Original post by MevMev)
    would u adopt a child?
    I definitely will. I'd rather do that than go through sex and pregnancy and birth
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    (Original post by Riverstar)
    I definitely will. I'd rather do that than go through sex and pregnancy and birth
    Would you even adopt a severely disabled child tho?
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    (Original post by popcornjpg)
    Two more questions if you don't mind.

    Is there any scientific explanation to asexuality?

    And also, does asexuality persist through the entirety of one's life, or can it disappear once an individual has met a specific person or something along that line?
    It's exactly the same as homosexuality. You're born ace, you die ace. It's likely to be a hereditary thing too, again just like homosexuality. Not much has been done to research things like different brain structures between heterosexuals and asexuals, but since asexuality is as much a sexuality as homosexuality or heterosexuality, it's very likely that we have slight differences in brain structure. This is the case with homosexuality and there's nothing to suggest that it's not the same here.

    There's actually been quite a few asexuals in my recent family history, so I'd bet that it's partly if not fully genetic. As for finding that special someone, doing so isn't likely to change anything. In my case I feel platonic attraction but not sexual attraction. In cases where someone does start feeling sexual attraction when meeting someone special, it's not actually asexuality. Such people are demisexual not asexual, since the definition of asexuality is having no sexual attraction at all. It's really misleading when they call themselves "gray-asexual" since that implies that they're asexual whereas technically they just have low libido.
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    (Original post by popcornjpg)
    Two more questions if you don't mind.

    Is there any scientific explanation to asexuality?

    And also, does asexuality persist through the entirety of one's life, or can it disappear once an individual has met a specific person or something along that line?
    Asexuality is just a label, not a genetic trait that all self-labelled asexuals share together.
    I mean, there are many different stances toward sex among asexuals. Some are neutral and others are repulsed. There are many different labels too, so it's hard to imagine a common point between asexuals in general.

    The same reasoning could be applied to your second question: it depends on the person. Same for sexual people.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What's asexual?
    you're not sexually attracted to any gender of the human race
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    (Original post by Peroxidation)
    See a doctor!? Really?! Asexuality is the real deal. It's one of only 4 sexualities which are recognized by the academic community (hetero, homo, bi and a)! I agree that people are making a lot of new ones up which are merely sexual preferences, but asexuality is not one of them! Would you tell a gay person to see a doctor? No? Then why would you say that to an asexual person?

    Being asexual has nothing to do with medical conditions or trauma. It's an actual sexuality just like being gay or straight or bi.

    Here, some academic papers and journal articles for you to read.

    http://fap.sagepub.com/content/early...abstract?rss=1
    http://news.stanford.edu/news/2015/f...ar-022315.html
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...they-important
    http://sex.sagepub.com/content/11/5/621.abstract

    "society has normalized certain levels of sexual desire while pathologizing others. In a sense, it's the social model that's broken, not asexuals."

    "Asexuality is not the same as sexual dysfunction."
    You should have given a pornsite lol. jk.
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    (Original post by Peroxidation)
    I'm ace too. I've never desired sex and for me the idea of having a sweaty penis rammed up your vagina is totally repulsive. I've never been sexually attracted to anything or anyone either. I did fall in love with a molecule, though that's entirely platonic (<3 you H2O2!). Don't ask, it's something I don't really understand myself.

    It's really weird growing up when you're ace isn't it? Did you also get really confused by the fact that everyone else was getting all hormonal and sex-addicted and you weren't? Why people desire sex has always been one of life's big mysteries for me.
    Is 'ace' a code word for asexual? or what does it mean?

    (Original post by Riverstar)
    I definitely will. I'd rather do that than go through sex and pregnancy and birth
    I'm not sure about if I want children or not, but if I did decide I would defiantly foster/adopt rather than go through sex, pregnancy and birth!

    (Original post by BBC Two)
    Would you even adopt a severely disabled child tho?
    Why is the disability of the child you adopt relevant?
    But, if I was going to foster/adopt I would specifically look for someone with a disability.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    As the title says. I'm 17, female, and asexual. AMA
    Hi how do I become asexual?
 
 
 
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