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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Would you marry a Muslim girl (hijabi, practicing) who has social media, and posts pictures of herself and friends online (not inappropriate pictures just normal pictures) and interacts with other guys and girls online?
    Alright, so obviously guys will pop up to her in her inboxes, and obviously men being men - try to flirt, and it's all down to whether she flirts back or blocks them. And we live in a generation of social media now, it depends really. It's down to your opinion, if she's practising and qualifies for everything else , then yeah it's alright - try taking her phone once and see if she objects!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes you are. I'm anonymous because I know several Muslim guys who have boyfriends (and therefore obviously have sex), but they still pray to Allah and believe in most of Islam, so yes, it's definitely allowed
    Not it's not lol. And those "muslim ha friends" you have their not Muslim. They're kafir
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    Most Muslim guys and girls have insta tbh...
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    (Original post by Petulia)
    So a practising Muslim girl isn't doing anything wrong, just wants to post normal pictures with her friends, and interact with her friends on social media, and you think this might be a reason not to marry her?
    Why are you creating a problem that isn't there? Do you think she shouldn't be allowed to post normal pictures and that she shouldn't be allowed to have social media? This has nothing to do with your religion but it's very sad that a lot of Muslim men expect their wives to give up things that men wouldn't give up themselves.
    Exactly!


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    and i called you out on your point specifically in regards to christianity which isnt necessarily correct.



    no he hasnt, he believes its allowed so he isnt going against any rule. again, you can think what you like, but he disagrees with you.
    Lol he's not making any sense whatsoever.

    Sounds like your friend is cherry picking what rules he wants to obey from Islam.
    I could be the most religious Muslim in the world, pray all day, read Quran, observe extra fasts etc. but if I drank alcohol or ate pork, does that suddenly mean the ruling changes and it's permissible to have alcohol and pork?

    Your friend needs to read the copy of the Quran again and do his research because he's wrong.
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    (Original post by revisionbasher21)
    stfu Are you even muslim..... stop making your own **** up. Gay is strictly not allowed. If you went to a muslim country e.g saudia you wouldn't see tomorrow
    If you take two identical twins with near-identical genetics, if one of them is homosexual, the likelihood that the other is homosexual is significantly higher than if they just happened to be brothers. So, given that we know there is a very large biological component to homosexuality and people don't have a choice who they are attracted to when they are born, why would Allah bring these people into existence if he considers homosexuality an act worthy of death? He's essentially having people born so that he can have them killed if they act upon what comes naturally to them.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Would you marry a Muslim girl (hijabi, practicing) who has social media, and posts pictures of herself and friends online (not inappropriate pictures just normal pictures) and interacts with other guys and girls online?
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    Exactly!

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    (Original post by zxnera)
    Alright, so obviously guys will pop up to her in her inboxes, and obviously men being men - try to flirt, and it's all down to whether she flirts back or blocks them. And we live in a generation of social media now, it depends really. It's down to your opinion, if she's practising and qualifies for everything else , then yeah it's alright - try taking her phone once and see if she objects!
    Provided a Muslim wife is not actively seeking out other men or trying to gain their attraction, what could possibly be morally wrong with a woman having a social-media account? Married women can have male friends in the same way that married men can have female friends. Friends does not equal sexual relationship.

    And even if the husband did object to her having a social media account, in what universe is it acceptable for him to force his wife not to use it? This is 2015 Britain... women are not the slaves of their husbands... you do have individual liberty, you know.
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    (Original post by FrankTeller1234)
    If you take two identical twins with near-identical genetics, if one of them is homosexual, the likelihood that the other is homosexual is significantly higher than if they just happened to be brothers. So, given that we know there is a very large biological component to homosexuality and people don't have a choice who they are attracted to when they are born, why would Allah bring these people into existence if he considers homosexuality an act worthy of death? He's essentially having people born so that he can have them killed if they act upon what comes naturally to them.
    Thats a test for the person, having homosexual feelings is not a sin, just like being attracted to a person in a hetereosexual way. If the person does the act, just like if a man/woman does it then he will be sinful.

    Likewise some people are asexual, blind, death etc. That's a test for them, one which they have the capability of passing.

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    (Original post by FrankTeller1234)
    Provided a Muslim wife is not actively seeking out other men or trying to gain their attraction, what could possibly be morally wrong with a woman having a social-media account? Married women can have male friends in the same way that married men can have female friends. Friends does not equal sexual relationship.

    And even if the husband did object to her having a social media account, in what universe is it acceptable for him to force his wife not to use it? This is 2015 Britain... women are not the slaves of their husbands... you do have individual liberty, you know.
    Firstly you have to understand what khalwa(seclusion) is. If there is no seclusion then opposite genders can talk, if there is a need. However if there is no seclusion, like online messaging etc then there is a problem there.

    Personally, I don't interact with females in the manner above and I have social media accounts so I would expect my wife to be the same. No one is saying you can't have these accounts, it's what you do with them that matters.

    I am talking from an Islamic perspective btw, there's a famous hadith where the prophet(pbuh) said that no two people(man/woman) who are not non-marriagable kin are alone except the devil is the third. This is where it stems from.

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    (Original post by FrankTeller1234)
    If you take two identical twins with near-identical genetics, if one of them is homosexual, the likelihood that the other is homosexual is significantly higher than if they just happened to be brothers. So, given that we know there is a very large biological component to homosexuality and people don't have a choice who they are attracted to when they are born, why would Allah bring these people into existence if he considers homosexuality an act worthy of death? He's essentially having people born so that he can have them killed if they act upon what comes naturally to them.
    I'd like to congratulate you for coming up with a decent theory. However where is your proof that homo sexual is biological. Scientists and psychologists have proved eits not. No one is born GAY. A kid cant just turn out to be gay when they are younger.
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    (Original post by s_ahmed2)
    Thats a test for the person, having homosexual feelings is not a sin, just like being attracted to a person in a hetereosexual way. If the person does the act, just like if a man/woman does it then he will be sinful.

    Likewise some people are asexual, blind, death etc. That's a test for them, one which they have the capability of passing.

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    That paints a rather malevolent image of Allah, does it not? He makes the conscious choice to burden people with debilitating mental and physical illnesses as a way of "testing" them? Given that chastity is forbidden in Islam, why would he ask it of homosexual Muslims? Can you imagine, as a heterosexual person, being asked to contain your sexual urges for your entire lifetime and never being allowed to act upon them without fear of being hung by the neck and burned in hell for all of eternity? If he issues these sorts of lifetime punishments on people, he presumably always chooses to make certain people born with extreme - often crippling - conditions? Why are some people completely paralyzed? Why are some people born with virtually zero brain capacity? What is the purpose of their existence if their brain isn't even capable of acknowledging the fact that the Qur'an exists or a religion called Islam exists? Even if it *was* a test, they wouldn't understand it.

    To me, it's far more likely that your god does not exist, that the Qur'an is a man-made text written at a time when humans were still trying to understand the world around them and that these unfortunate occurrences in human nature are a result of genetic mutations rather than assigned tasks.
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    (Original post by Petulia)
    So a practising Muslim girl isn't doing anything wrong, just wants to post normal pictures with her friends, and interact with her friends on social media, and you think this might be a reason not to marry her?
    Why are you creating a problem that isn't there? Do you think she shouldn't be allowed to post normal pictures and that she shouldn't be allowed to have social media? This has nothing to do with your religion but it's very sad that a lot of Muslim men expect their wives to give up things that men wouldn't give up themselves.
    I don't think that Quran and Sunna have anything to say about social media

    but people make up their own analogies and interpretations : and, as usual, females are specifically targeted. As in all patriarchal societies
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Would you marry a Muslim girl (hijabi, practicing) who has social media, and posts pictures of herself and friends online (not inappropriate pictures just normal pictures) and interacts with other guys and girls online?
    No, I want a girl from the Flintstones that has never seen a lightbulb in her life so that I can impress her with my magical abilities of using electrical wizardry.
    go fudge yourself, how is this even a question?! aren't women humans too?!
    (and this is coming from a feminist hater!!)
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    (Original post by FrankTeller1234)
    That paints a rather malevolent image of Allah, does it not? He makes the conscious choice to burden people with debilitating mental and physical illnesses as a way of "testing" them? Given that chastity is forbidden in Islam, why would he ask it of homosexual Muslims? Can you imagine, as a heterosexual person, being asked to contain your sexual urges for your entire lifetime and never being allowed to act upon them without fear of being hung by the neck and burned in hell for all of eternity? If he issues these sorts of lifetime punishments on people, he presumably always chooses to make certain people born with extreme - often crippling - conditions? Why are some people completely paralyzed? Why are some people born with virtually zero brain capacity? What is the purpose of their existence if their brain isn't even capable of acknowledging the fact that the Qur'an exists or a religion called Islam exists? Even if it *was* a test, they wouldn't understand it.

    To me, it's far more likely that your god does not exist, that the Qur'an is a man-made text written at a time when humans were still trying to understand the world around them and that these unfortunate occurrences in human nature are a result of genetic mutations rather than assigned tasks.
    Believe what you want.

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    (Original post by s_ahmed2)
    Believe what you want.

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    Believe what the dark, undeveloped world thinks.
    there's a reason most muslim nations are undeveloped, (and of those that are it's mainly because of the natural resources).
    Allah just doesn't give a damn.
    and neither does god
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    you think im incorrect and i think youre incorrect. Your reason is no more valid than mine or the practising gay muslim I know. And dont bring christianity into this as the comparison is rubbish. most christians are completely accepting of homosexuality and gay sex and there are even openly gay priests etc. and 2 wrongs dont make a right.
    How long has your friend been gay and practicing? Lol it sounds like a weird combination since his/her acts are being condemned in the book he/she believes in.
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    (Original post by HedgehogsRulz)
    Believe what the dark, undeveloped world thinks.
    there's a reason most muslim nations are undeveloped, (and of those that are it's mainly because of the natural resources).
    Allah just doesn't give a damn.
    and neither does god
    That's funny.

    I guess, like I always say, you will see after death.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Are you allowed to be gay in Islam
    Nope you are not.
    Story of loot clearly indicates being gay is an actual sin , and performing sexual acts takes you out of the fold of Islam.

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    Nope you are not.
    Story of loot clearly indicates being gay is an actual sin , and performing sexual acts takes you out of the fold of Islam.

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    You guys need to do more research.
    Shows the ignorance of ppl nowadays.

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    (Original post by revisionbasher21)
    I'd like to congratulate you for coming up with a decent theory. However where is your proof that homo sexual is biological. Scientists and psychologists have proved eits not. No one is born GAY. A kid cant just turn out to be gay when they are younger.
    They have not proved its not. Genetic factors contributing to homosexuality have been found, including genes Xq28 and 8q12 on the X chromosome. It's likely that homosexuality is due to a combination of genetic and environmental factors and by environmental it's referring to things like the levels of testosterone a foetus is exposed to in the womb. So either way it's not a choice.

    To even say it is is ridiculous. Loads of people in history have been killed and committed suicide because of their homosexuality, proving it's not something that can be changed, otherwise they would have simply just decided to be straight. Ask yourself when you consciously chose to be attracted to the opposite sex and whether you could just make yourself be attracted to the same sex.
 
 
 
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