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ok need some ones elses perspective
ok, well i broke up with my bf, brian, about a month ago, it was very hard as he told his mum that he wanted to marry me n it was pretty serious, anyway when we did break up it didnt end completely, but then he found someone else 4 days after sayin he was still in love with me (i dont care he is a jerk but were still friends) my point is that i was very badly hurt.
Now ive met this guy joe, hes really nice and such a gentleman, slightly older, i know he would never hurt me and always treat me right and he really likes me, i think hes great although im not finding him attractive, my best friends and his friends are really piling the pressure on to start a relationship with him but im not sure, should i just do it to see how things go? or just tell him sorry ubt im not really interested in him and risk losing his friendship.
on the other hand, theres brians mate who makes me feel really sexy and attractive and i love spendin time with him, but if anything was to happen with him i know i would get hurt cos he has a past reputation with girls, its kinda love em and leave em, should i try with chris and think that ill be the one to change his wild ways?
lame thread i know but please help. everyone i could possibly speak to is involved on some way and would give a biased opinion
thanks xx
Now ive met this guy joe, hes really nice and such a gentleman, slightly older, i know he would never hurt me and always treat me right and he really likes me, i think hes great although im not finding him attractive, my best friends and his friends are really piling the pressure on to start a relationship with him but im not sure, should i just do it to see how things go? or just tell him sorry ubt im not really interested in him and risk losing his friendship.
on the other hand, theres brians mate who makes me feel really sexy and attractive and i love spendin time with him, but if anything was to happen with him i know i would get hurt cos he has a past reputation with girls, its kinda love em and leave em, should i try with chris and think that ill be the one to change his wild ways?
lame thread i know but please help. everyone i could possibly speak to is involved on some way and would give a biased opinion
thanks xx
Trigger
Spend some time on your own
i 2nd that
thats what i thought, easier said than done tho with my mates, thanks xx
You don't sound ready to move on. As you said with Chris, you'll be likely to get hurt. Never go into a relationship with a man thinking you'll be the one to change them. It never works. Wait until you meet someone you don't want to change. And if you're not attracted to Joe, you can't force it, no matter how nice he is. You'll just make yourself unhappy.
Do other things. Go shopping with your friends, spend time with your family, go for walks, read books. Just fill your life with other things. There are much worse things than being single, especially when you're young, and top of the list is being in a relationship with the wrong person.
After splitting up with my first (and so far, most serious) boyfriend, I was single for two years. At first it was really hard, but by the time I met my second boyfriend (the mistake!) I was so busy having a nice time being single that I was in two minds about whether I actually wanted a relationship at all. When I got together with my current boyfriend I'd been single for less than two months and was still pretty upset about it all. One day I was still crying over the breakup, the next day I was talking to this guy and thinking, "You're actually really attractive... why didn't I see this before?" and that was that!
The one solid piece of advice I can give you is that you'll know when you're ready to move on. You can't hurry up the healing process, but you can definitely make it easier by spending more time having fun with your friends. As soon as the next person comes along, you'll immediately know you want to be with him.
Do other things. Go shopping with your friends, spend time with your family, go for walks, read books. Just fill your life with other things. There are much worse things than being single, especially when you're young, and top of the list is being in a relationship with the wrong person.
After splitting up with my first (and so far, most serious) boyfriend, I was single for two years. At first it was really hard, but by the time I met my second boyfriend (the mistake!) I was so busy having a nice time being single that I was in two minds about whether I actually wanted a relationship at all. When I got together with my current boyfriend I'd been single for less than two months and was still pretty upset about it all. One day I was still crying over the breakup, the next day I was talking to this guy and thinking, "You're actually really attractive... why didn't I see this before?" and that was that!
The one solid piece of advice I can give you is that you'll know when you're ready to move on. You can't hurry up the healing process, but you can definitely make it easier by spending more time having fun with your friends. As soon as the next person comes along, you'll immediately know you want to be with him.
whilst i kinda agree with the above posts my boyf had a reputation until he was with me -we've now been together a year and a half and are engaged.
it wouldnt be about you changing him but him thinking that you're worth changing for, so maybe see how he feels.
time alone is necessary - as in single time - still flirt but whats the rush!
it wouldnt be about you changing him but him thinking that you're worth changing for, so maybe see how he feels.
time alone is necessary - as in single time - still flirt but whats the rush!
I don't think you are ready to back in a relationship just yet.
**** that
go with chris. but dont expect anything
why the hell would you just not do anything?
why would you give someone you don't fancy the wrong impression?
as a final point, you're not going to do what anyone on the internet says, you'll do what you want to do in the end. and your ex is not a jerk, you're just bitter. I seem to remember you said it was you who broke up with him.
so thats all.
go with chris. but dont expect anything
why the hell would you just not do anything?
why would you give someone you don't fancy the wrong impression?
as a final point, you're not going to do what anyone on the internet says, you'll do what you want to do in the end. and your ex is not a jerk, you're just bitter. I seem to remember you said it was you who broke up with him.
so thats all.
john!!
**** that
go with chris. but dont expect anything
why the hell would you just not do anything?
why would you give someone you don't fancy the wrong impression?
as a final point, you're not going to do what anyone on the internet says, you'll do what you want to do in the end. and your ex is not a jerk, you're just bitter. I seem to remember you said it was you who broke up with him.
so thats all.
go with chris. but dont expect anything
why the hell would you just not do anything?
why would you give someone you don't fancy the wrong impression?
as a final point, you're not going to do what anyone on the internet says, you'll do what you want to do in the end. and your ex is not a jerk, you're just bitter. I seem to remember you said it was you who broke up with him.
so thats all.
not being funny but your post makes you sound a bit bitter too mate.
Bide your time, play it as it lies.
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