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    (Original post by ivy.98)
    oh my god sorry but your life is just sad

    stop giving ****s about some silly females and get your life together, dont become so dependent on them.
    grow some balls dude

    Growing balls = testes = more testosterone = more attracted to women = same problem.
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    (Original post by Fkmylife)
    Lol fk it its easy just hit up a girl on sc not deep u would forget
    Read all the other millions of threads he made about this girl for the past 2 years, he feels no other girl can compare to her and i feel sorry for him as he could have met other girls at uni and now he is soon to finish he will find it harder.
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    (Original post by Ablicious)
    Growing balls = testes = more testosterone = more attracted to women = same problem.


    i meant man up/stop being a pussy
    and he can just be sexually attracted to them
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    (Original post by ivy.98)


    i meant man up/stop being a pussy
    and he can just be sexually attracted to them
    I know.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    So the last few days I have been really struggling. It got worse. I am having severe chest pains and all sorts of emotions so today I decided to go the hospital.

    After waiting for 5hrs, I saw a doctor. I explained to him everything that happened with this girl, how it has really left me in pieces etc. And he said you are suffering from anxiety, and you are really stressed and you're not coping well with it. He said I need therapy. So he will write a referral letter which I need to take to my own GP. So he feels I need counselling as it will help me to relax and control my emotions etc.

    So I need to make an appointment with my GP next week.

    Also, I was extremely anxious and upset last week in uni. I am really going through hell right now.

    Shaking, trembling, feeling anxious, crying, no appetite, no motivation, emptiness, sadness, visibly shaken, regret, tense, panicky, etc

    When will this get better? I am very panicky about my uni work too. Honestly this is the worst timing ever.
    Time plus you will go through the phases. If you make an effort rather than wallowing in it then you will come through quicker, but everyone has their own rates of recovery.

    Things that might help after the initial phase, exercise, not isolating yorself, being busy, focusing on the here and now, eventually meeting someone else, looking after yourself.
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    Drown your sorrows in some fresh punany
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    (Original post by Ablicious)
    Go out and get laid. Stop being such a pussy.
    LOL..... your my time of broski! :jumphug: :dumbells: :drool:

    http://i.imgur.com/F0IhZuX.gif

    (Original post by believeteam22)
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    This is just one of the main reasons why I wouldn't pursue a relationship while at university. For me its not worth the hassle such as given your context etc.

    Anyway, as for advice.... time is the biggest variable, once you're feeling a bit better just go outside and get laid. Don't try and find another "girl" to substitute that feeling as imo you shouldn't be dependent upon your partner for happiness.

    Do whatever that makes you happy.
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    (Original post by ivy.98)
    oh my god sorry but your life is just sad

    stop giving ****s about some silly females and get your life together, dont become so dependent on them.
    grow some balls dude
    Thank God he hasn't managed to bag her because if he actually experienced a relationship and got dumped he definitely wouldn't handle it.
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    Hey dude!

    I've gone through a breakup pretty recently too and it sucks. I also have anxiety and threw up for weeks which is common when you breakup with someone. But you should use this time to focus on yourself and your course at uni, i found with me that it helped. And more advice? Don't sleep around as it will not make you feel better and will lose your chances of ever getting back with your ex (if you wanted to).

    Hope this helps!
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    So the last few days I have been really struggling. It got worse. I am having severe chest pains and all sorts of emotions so today I decided to go the hospital.

    After waiting for 5hrs, I saw a doctor. I explained to him everything that happened with this girl, how it has really left me in pieces etc. And he said you are suffering from anxiety, and you are really stressed and you're not coping well with it. He said I need therapy. So he will write a referral letter which I need to take to my own GP. So he feels I need counselling as it will help me to relax and control my emotions etc.

    So I need to make an appointment with my GP next week.

    Also, I was extremely anxious and upset last week in uni. I am really going through hell right now.

    Shaking, trembling, feeling anxious, crying, no appetite, no motivation, emptiness, sadness, visibly shaken, regret, tense, panicky, etc

    When will this get better? I am very panicky about my uni work too. Honestly this is the worst timing ever.
    (Original post by Ishea16)
    some guys dont go as deep into this as OP so they wouldn't understand cant blame them tbh
    (Crying rarely) I understand how op feels but I don't get why he keeps on making this thread again, again and again, even though others have given him advice. I don't know what he's hoping to gain from remaking his post though, probably didn't get the answer he wanted even if it's not the he needed.

    OP, there is difference between what you want and what you need, please consider what you need for your own welfare, these feelings you hold are guiding you astray, they're irrational, irrelevant.

    Please if you're currently reading this, please accept the TSR community advice and act upon it. These feelings you have are temporary and irrationalised, you aren't going to die without this girl, you're strong and you can overcome it so please get up and do something proactive to get her out of your mind and keep you occupied

    Goodluck!
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    Thanks everyone (mostly). I know where I stand right now. It really sucks.

    But hey, I've booked an appointment with my GP for thursday. Then hopefully they will sort out whatever I need to counselling.

    Today, I deleted her number from my phone (previously I still kept it hoping things would change, but now I have deleted it and our messages as I found myself looking at them and getting even more depressed).

    The worst thing is all of this could have been avoided had I been more mature, not childish and needy and clingy and the other stupid behaviour.

    All I can say is I have this other girl friend who I have become quite close with. But every mistake I made with the other girl, I have made 0 with this girl. I am glad that I have learned from my mistakes and I know better.

    I just wish I could have another chance with the girl and show her I changed. Anyway it's too late. She has moved on, she is happy.

    I also think this is the 1st time in my life where I have left this bad, so it will make me stronger and toughen me up.
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    The last message from her was:

    "I'm sorry no friendship i can die but i will never be ur friend. U cnt changr anything. Its too late man too late. So forget me. I don't like u anymore. No emotion, nothing. It's dead, finished forever. No more friendship. Even if I die, don't come."

    This was probably one of the worst messages I've ever received. I really felt hurt and broken after reading it. It put me to tears
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    Damn Daniel.
    You just have to socialise bit more and slowly move on.
    It will happen even though you don't see it right now.
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    You need something to focus on until you become independent again, any hobbies you've got, sports or anything. I do a lot of music and I've just picked up skateboarding, this **** helps. And even just reading a book or watching a film can give you an escape for a while.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    The last message from her was:

    "I'm sorry no friendship i can die but i will never be ur friend. U cnt changr anything. Its too late man too late. So forget me. I don't like u anymore. No emotion, nothing. It's dead, finished forever. No more friendship. Even if I die, don't come."

    This was probably one of the worst messages I've ever received. I really felt hurt and broken after reading it. It put me to tears
    You're kidding yourself if you think you can be friends. Give yourself 6 months man and actively try and forget about her and you'll be as right as rain.
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    She sounds like a stupid manipulative brat and you sound like an obsessive child. You both need to get over yourselves and take some responsibility.
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    No...it's not real. This girl isn't real.

    You, sir, are a professional troll.

    You know what you're doing.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    The last message from her was:

    "I'm sorry no friendship i can die but i will never be ur friend. U cnt changr anything. Its too late man too late. So forget me. I don't like u anymore. No emotion, nothing. It's dead, finished forever. No more friendship. Even if I die, don't come."

    This was probably one of the worst messages I've ever received. I really felt hurt and broken after reading it. It put me to tears
    I found it irritating reading that can't she form proper sentences?
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Time plus you will go through the phases. If you make an effort rather than wallowing in it then you will come through quicker, but everyone has their own rates of recovery.

    Things that might help after the initial phase, exercise, not isolating yorself, being busy, focusing on the here and now, eventually meeting someone else, looking after yourself.
    Yeah ok thanks. I am trying to do those things.

    (Original post by XxKingSniprxX)
    LOL..... your my time of broski! :jumphug: :dumbells: :drool:

    http://i.imgur.com/F0IhZuX.gif

    This is just one of the main reasons why I wouldn't pursue a relationship while at university. For me its not worth the hassle such as given your context etc.

    Anyway, as for advice.... time is the biggest variable, once you're feeling a bit better just go outside and get laid. Don't try and find another "girl" to substitute that feeling as imo you shouldn't be dependent upon your partner for happiness.

    Do whatever that makes you happy.
    Will try.

    (Original post by whorace)
    Thank God he hasn't managed to bag her because if he actually experienced a relationship and got dumped he definitely wouldn't handle it.
    Yeah, clearly I am not ready for a relationship, I agree with that.

    (Original post by kbisgrove)
    Hey dude!

    I've gone through a breakup pretty recently too and it sucks. I also have anxiety and threw up for weeks which is common when you breakup with someone. But you should use this time to focus on yourself and your course at uni, i found with me that it helped. And more advice? Don't sleep around as it will not make you feel better and will lose your chances of ever getting back with your ex (if you wanted to).

    Hope this helps!
    Definitely agree. Am trying.
 
 
 
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