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    (Original post by Eriasu)
    (Crying rarely) I understand how op feels but I don't get why he keeps on making this thread again, again and again, even though others have given him advice. I don't know what he's hoping to gain from remaking his post though, probably didn't get the answer he wanted even if it's not the he needed.

    OP, there is difference between what you want and what you need, please consider what you need for your own welfare, these feelings you hold are guiding you astray, they're irrational, irrelevant.

    Please if you're currently reading this, please accept the TSR community advice and act upon it. These feelings you have are temporary and irrationalised, you aren't going to die without this girl, you're strong and you can overcome it so please get up and do something proactive to get her out of your mind and keep you occupied

    Goodluck!
    I know. I am trying really hard now. She's gone. I am trying to accept it and move forward. Going to start therapy too soon hopefully that will help?
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    (Original post by RomanKing)
    Damn Daniel.
    You just have to socialise bit more and slowly move on.
    It will happen even though you don't see it right now.
    I know. I will get over this one day. Just feels really difficult right now. Hopefully after uni finishes, it will get easier.

    (Original post by Tom78)
    You need something to focus on until you become independent again, any hobbies you've got, sports or anything. I do a lot of music and I've just picked up skateboarding, this **** helps. And even just reading a book or watching a film can give you an escape for a while.
    (Original post by Tom78)
    You're kidding yourself if you think you can be friends. Give yourself 6 months man and actively try and forget about her and you'll be as right as rain.
    Yeah. At the moment I have no time, I just have tons of uni work to get done. I know there is no chance to be friends. She would rather die than be my friend again. I really felt that. Right in the feels.

    (Original post by whorace)
    She sounds like a stupid manipulative brat and you sound like an obsessive child. You both need to get over yourselves and take some responsibility.
    Yeah, I admit my mistakes and behaviour. But apparently, she is a good person, she is always right, she is perfect, she is never wrong, I don't deserve to be her friend etc - it's funny the way she doesn't even see herself and she can't even admit her fault in all of this. Not even a little bit? That's just plain wrong.

    (Original post by MountKimbie)
    No...it's not real. This girl isn't real.

    You, sir, are a professional troll.

    You know what you're doing.
    No.

    (Original post by chikane)
    I found it irritating reading that can't she form proper sentences?
    I know what you mean but a lot of people just write in this way when talking via text/whatsapp etc. I do have some friends who are the opposite and write in proper english etc but yeah no big deal although her english makes me cringe sometimes lol
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I know. I will get over this one day. Just feels really difficult right now. Hopefully after uni finishes, it will get easier.





    Yeah. At the moment I have no time, I just have tons of uni work to get done. I know there is no chance to be friends. She would rather die than be my friend again. I really felt that. Right in the feels.



    Yeah, I admit my mistakes and behaviour. But apparently, she is a good person, she is always right, she is perfect, she is never wrong, I don't deserve to be her friend etc - it's funny the way she doesn't even see herself and she can't even admit her fault in all of this. Not even a little bit? That's just plain wrong.



    No.



    I know what you mean but a lot of people just write in this way when talking via text/whatsapp etc. I do have some friends who are the opposite and write in proper english etc but yeah no big deal although her english makes me cringe sometimes lol
    I can't stand people who write like that unless English is not their first language or they are dyslexic but yes it is cringe.
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    ok so first of all- Don't worry! Everyone goes through this stage at some point in their life... so I totally get you. The most important thing is she missed you, you didn't miss her! And sometimes people also say we fall in love with the wrong person and yeah that's true because I have friends who have experienced that. People are meant to be in our lives for a purpose. So they are either there to teach you a lesson, or it to be a lesson for them. Whatever happens, it happens for good. Be positive If she comes back accept her, but if she keeps coming back to you, it means that she loves you for real. Moving on is the best idea though I understand how hard it is. Be determined to achieve your goal, do whatever pleases you like playing football, consoles, movies etc. One day a miracle happens that you'll be grateful for forever! I am sure better is coming your way...
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I know. I am trying really hard now. She's gone. I am trying to accept it and move forward. Going to start therapy too soon hopefully that will help?
    I'm glad to hear that, keep it up
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    Going to the hospital, getting examined and starting a course of therapy= good move

    Making another thread i.e. an ode to this girl= totally unproductive and detrimental to your recovery

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    (Original post by chikane)
    I can't stand people who write like that unless English is not their first language or they are dyslexic but yes it is cringe.
    Haha yeah. I'm ok with it as long as I can understand it lol.

    (Original post by Missstudent04)
    ok so first of all- Don't worry! Everyone goes through this stage at some point in their life... so I totally get you. The most important thing is she missed you, you didn't miss her! And sometimes people also say we fall in love with the wrong person and yeah that's true because I have friends who have experienced that. People are meant to be in our lives for a purpose. So they are either there to teach you a lesson, or it to be a lesson for them. Whatever happens, it happens for good. Be positive If she comes back accept her, but if she keeps coming back to you, it means that she loves you for real. Moving on is the best idea though I understand how hard it is. Be determined to achieve your goal, do whatever pleases you like playing football, consoles, movies etc. One day a miracle happens that you'll be grateful for forever! I am sure better is coming your way...
    Yes, it's the first time in my life where I have gone through something like this, which is why perhaps it hurts this much and everything. I defintely have learned a lot of lessons over the past few years with this girl.
    Thanks, I hope so

    (Original post by Eriasu)
    I'm glad to hear that, keep it up
    Thanks

    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    Going to the hospital, getting examined and starting a course of therapy= good move

    Making another thread i.e. an ode to this girl= totally unproductive and detrimental to your recovery

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    Maybe. But I wanted to let everyone (they know who are they, yourself included) that I have actually gone and acted on the advice (finally) and just needed some encouragement I guess to follow through.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Maybe. But I wanted to let everyone (they know who are they, yourself included) that I have actually gone and acted on the advice (finally) and just needed some encouragement I guess to follow through.
    Yep hopefully therapy will provide you with a path forwards. I have no complaints on that front. However, it's important to divert your attention towards new things now rather than trying to interpret past actions involving her. I feel that 'topic' has been exhausted now and you have closure.

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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    So the last few days I have been really struggling. It got worse. I am having severe chest pains and all sorts of emotions so today I decided to go the hospital.

    After waiting for 5hrs, I saw a doctor. I explained to him everything that happened with this girl, how it has really left me in pieces etc. And he said you are suffering from anxiety, and you are really stressed and you're not coping well with it. He said I need therapy. So he will write a referral letter which I need to take to my own GP. So he feels I need counselling as it will help me to relax and control my emotions etc.

    So I need to make an appointment with my GP next week.

    Also, I was extremely anxious and upset last week in uni. I am really going through hell right now.

    Shaking, trembling, feeling anxious, crying, no appetite, no motivation, emptiness, sadness, visibly shaken, regret, tense, panicky, etc

    When will this get better? I am very panicky about my uni work too. Honestly this is the worst timing ever.
    Sorry to hear that bro how long were you together for?
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    Sorry to hear that bro how long were you together for?
    They were never together
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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    Yep hopefully therapy will provide you with a path forwards. I have no complaints on that front. However, it's important to divert your attention towards new things now rather than trying to interpret past actions involving her. I feel that 'topic' has been exhausted now and you have closure.

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    Yeah ok. I am trying, got lots of uni work to do. And I might see her on wednesday and I really don't want to see her face as it will stress me out.
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    Some posts on the threads said to go out and get *LAID*..well..I did that today..

    I met up with this friend of mine (who I have been friends with for 8yrs) And although we have kissed in the past, nothing major has happened.

    She asked me to come over and she was alone, so I went over and one thing led to another and I ended up sleeping with her.

    First time for me. I kind of feel mixed emotions. The sh*t thing is once we were done, I immediately thought of the other girl and that made me feel worse.

    I don't think she really helped me. I mean I like this girl, she is my best friend and she has been there for me through everything in my life. And she is single too (so no cheating or anything like that happened)

    So I don't know, I thought it was going to be some big thing, but it didn't really live up to what I had in mind..weird..

    Did I make a mistake here? I mean it was of mutual consent and everything..

    I don't think I would do this again. It didn't really help me I feel..I still feel upset and everything..

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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Some posts on the threads said to go out and get *LAID*..well..I did that today..

    I met up with this friend of mine (who I have been friends with for 8yrs) And although we have kissed in the past, nothing major has happened.

    She asked me to come over and she was alone, so I went over and one thing led to another and I ended up sleeping with her.

    First time for me. I kind of feel mixed emotions. The sh*t thing is once we were done, I immediately thought of the other girl and that made me feel worse.

    I don't think she really helped me. I mean I like this girl, she is my best friend and she has been there for me through everything in my life. And she is single too (so no cheating or anything like that happened)

    So I don't know, I thought it was going to be some big thing, but it didn't really live up to what I had in mind..weird..

    Did I make a mistake here? I mean it was of mutual consent and everything..

    I don't think I would do this again. It didn't really help me I feel..I still feel upset and everything..

    Thoughts?
    Yes you did the right thing. You are moving on. If You stay in this bad place for much longer, you will end up pushing everyone away. You will even more fixated on this girl that you can't stop thinking about.

    It's good you just had sex with this girl. She likes you, cares about you, and is attracted to you and you are attracted to her. Not saying you have to try and get serious with her, if you need time to focus on yourself, tell her, but you need to move on and that involves having new women on your mind (in a non obsessive way).
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    people can be so ****ing inconsiderate, here is a guy who actually seems to be suffering from anxiety and all you can do is mock him, just stop it. OP, I don't know what to offer in terms of advice but it will get better! you will get there!
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    (Original post by tailred)
    Yes you did the right thing. You are moving on. If You stay in this bad place for much longer, you will end up pushing everyone away. You will even more fixated on this girl that you can't stop thinking about.

    It's good you just had sex with this girl. She likes you, cares about you, and is attracted to you and you are attracted to her. Not saying you have to try and get serious with her, if you need time to focus on yourself, tell her, but you need to move on and that involves having new women on your mind (in a non obsessive way).
    I'm glad then. I am trying to move forward, I really am. Definitely. I have learned from all my mistakes over the last few years with this girl so I am not making any of those mistakes with any of the girls in my life now.

    No more needy, clingy, obsessed, childish, jealous etc. I wish just I could do all this with the girl. Anyway I have learned a lot.
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    (Original post by Ursin)
    people can be so ****ing inconsiderate, here is a guy who actually seems to be suffering from anxiety and all you can do is mock him, just stop it. OP, I don't know what to offer in terms of advice but it will get better! you will get there!
    Thanks for that. Yeah I really hope so. Sooner rather than later. I just am filled with regret because I know it's my fault that this happened. If only I controlled my emotions better etc, maybe this would not happen (the way it did). But I can't go back in time, I just have to live with it.

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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I'm glad then. I am trying to move forward, I really am. Definitely. I have learned from all my mistakes over the last few years with this girl so I am not making any of those mistakes with any of the girls in my life now.

    No more needy, clingy, obsessed, childish, jealous etc. I wish just I could do all this with the girl. Anyway I have learned a lot.
    Stop wishing to do it with her, it won't happen. These constant wishes and desires based around this girl will only continue your issue of stagnancy. I know you can't really stop it, but i think saying it overtly only shows how much your really want to move on from the situation.

    If she the girl that put you through so much texted you tonight, would you respond?
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    (Original post by tailred)
    Stop wishing to do it with her, it won't happen. These constant wishes and desires based around this girl will only continue your issue of stagnancy. I know you can't really stop it, but i think saying it overtly only shows how much your really want to move on from the situation.

    If she the girl that put you through so much texted you tonight, would you respond?
    But it's normal, right? But it will reduce over time and I hope these thoughts stop.

    To be honest, I would not respond. Not for a few days at least. It depends on what exactly she said. But I don't think I would respond. Her last message to me really hit me hard and I can't forget it so quickly. But she will never ever message me so no need to think about it anymore.

    I just went through my phone today, deleting every note with her name on it, deleted every pic of her, any photos relating to her, anything reminding me of her.

    I also have a problem with music. I have like 200 songs on my iphone and more than 3/4 of them I have been listening to during the past 2.5yrs and so many of them bring back memories of her, it's a weird thing but I can related a song/ or even the lyrics to a particular moment, memory or a place and it makes me sad to be honest. I guess I need to completely do an overhaul on the songs from my phone.
 
 
 
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