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    (Original post by In2u)
    Whenever I'm in school or in public I do not talk much, and if I do, my voice is very quiet. I have no friends in my school as I have moved schools this September in year 11, when everybody already had their 'squads' and were not bothered to accept any other new people
    Hey. Please get some counseling to help with your confidence. It will only get worse if you don't.
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    (Original post by In2u)
    Whenever I'm in school or in public I do not talk much, and if I do, my voice is very quiet. I have no friends in my school as I have moved schools this September in year 11, when everybody already had their 'squads' and were not bothered to accept any other new people
    Are there any groups at your school that you could join? Any extracurricular activities in either sport, music or drama (wherever your interests happen to lie)? It is really difficult if you're already quiet and join a new school, but there will be people around who are friendly and who might be quiet themselves - it's just a case of putting yourself in the places where you might come across these people. Have you asked about volunteering in the school library? Sometimes that's a nice way to pass some time and meet people to talk to.
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    (Original post by mscaffrey)
    Are there any groups at your school that you could join? Any extracurricular activities in either sport, music or drama (wherever your interests happen to lie)? It is really difficult if you're already quiet and join a new school, but there will be people around who are friendly and who might be quiet themselves - it's just a case of putting yourself in the places where you might come across these people. Have you asked about volunteering in the school library? Sometimes that's a nice way to pass some time and meet people to talk to.
    Similar to this, try joining a nearby Explorer group. Explorers are like Scouts but for 14-18 yr olds, they often have a range of different people and are generally pretty friendly, there's never really have anyone who's really chavy or anything. If there is a group near your school then it might have a few people who go to your school, and this will give you an opportunity to make friends with them outside of school (as they're more likely to talk to you as being in the same extracurricular group shows a shared interest).

    If you make friends with a few people (or even just one) from your school at Explorers then they'll see you on your own at school and invite you to join their group. Or, if you make friends with people from other schools at Explorers then you'll at least have made new friends, and had a chance to build up your confidence.
    The same thing goes for any sort of extracurricular event really, Explorers is just a good one for those who aren't into any particular sports, as it involves lots of standing around talking to each other, and doesn't really require any particular interests from joining (unless you want to go on the camps, which require, well camping interests).

    The most important thing is to just feign confidence if you don't feel 'properly' confident (fake it till you make it), just throw yourself in and try talking to people, the worst that happens is they don't like you and then you just don't talk to them again!
 
 
 
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