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Reply 1

;console; i know what you mean. i think after time they realise maybe they did you wrong and owe you an apology, maybe a step towards trying to become friends or something.
if you dont forgive them dont accept it.

Reply 2

That's bad. Really they are just trying to clear their conscience.

It happened to my friend. She made it clear she was seriously hurt and things weren't OK and just stopped talking to him.

Idiots, they are just trying to make themselves feel better, let him know you are not alright and he's an ass.

Reply 3

i know how you feel.
just be the bigger person, accept the apology and get on with life. whatever they've done they obviosuly regret it, apologies genereally make the person doing the aplogising feel better about themselves.
IM me if you want to talk :smile: hugs

Reply 4

Thanks people. Means loads!
It's just he hurt me so much, for no reason whatsoever. I left university after we got together and then i went back to visit him and he acted like a total prat.

I stopped talking to him for a month and a bit and today, when i'm practically feeling my life is back on track he comes back. GRR. The bad thing is, I miss him.

Reply 5

Guilty conscience.

Reply 6

Guilty conscience. It's purely to make them feel as if they are innocent in this.

Reply 7

speaking to him again can make you miss him. Remember how it ended though... for all the good times there was a reason you split.

i agree, he's trying to clear his conscience and see if he still has his "hold" over you if you know what i mean.

By all means you can talk to him, be friends. Forget but dont forgive.

Reply 8

sav_606_rebels
speaking to him again can make you miss him. Remember how it ended though... for all the good times there was a reason you split.

i agree, he's trying to clear his conscience and see if he still has his "hold" over you if you know what i mean.

By all means you can talk to him, be friends. Forget but dont forgive.


Indeed: “The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” [Szasz]

Reply 9

forgiveness is hard to do if you've been hurt
of course u miss him - u miss the good times, its natural :smile:

Reply 10

Because they feel sorry for you.

Reply 11

well, you know what they say. Love is like a shadow, when you chase it, it runs away. When you turn back and forget it, it haunts you.

Reply 12

Why
Because they feel sorry for you.

..No, they feel bad about what they did.

Reply 13

Talya
..No, they feel bad about what they did.


No, They feel sorry for you. If him/her cared, he wouldn't hurt her in the first place.

Reply 14

try to be friends, if u can forgive then u can move on from it and he hopefully can move on knowing u have forgiven him :biggrin:

Reply 15

Why
No, They feel sorry for you. If him/her cared, he wouldn't hurt her in the first place.

There is a difference between loving and caring. :smile:

Reply 16

Why
Because they feel sorry for you.


Well i don't want him to feel sorry for me as there is no point as there is nothing to feel sorry for.

Reply 17

Why
No, They feel sorry for you. If him/her cared, he wouldn't hurt her in the first place.


i hurt the people i care about quite a bit.

its become a habit :mad:

Reply 18

Bedshaped
i hurt the people i care about quite a bit.

its become a habit :mad:

tut tut

Reply 19

Don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing, but that's happened to me with my ex when I was 16, and I acted like I was fine. Obviously, during the break-up, I'll show my emotions, but if it was like a month after, and especially if he'd done something out of order, I'd never give him the satisfaction of knowing he'd hurt me. I guess it's a pride thing. But if he was wonderful and I was still in love with him, I'd try and get back with him, but if he was that wonderful, there wouldn't have been a break-up in the first place. I'd tell him that you're happy and that you both did the right thing and you don't have a problem with him. Then delete his number and don't even consider doing the 'staying friends' thing; inevitably one of you will meet someone new and one of you will get really hurt.