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Why do I always stop being attracted to guys after I sleep with them?
It has happened with me so many times with guys I really like and even in serious relationships, after I sleep with them something just seems to change, and it always makes me feel like it cheapens the relationship or something.
I guess I enjoy the tension and anticipation when everything is new, like the first kiss when you really want it but both of you are too nervous to do it, and you feel intimidated by the other person when you're around them cos you like them so much. Anyway, it seem like as soon as I get too comfortable around a guy the spark just goes.
Is anyone else like this? I hate being this way because I actually want a serious relationship but I don't see how i can change.
I guess I enjoy the tension and anticipation when everything is new, like the first kiss when you really want it but both of you are too nervous to do it, and you feel intimidated by the other person when you're around them cos you like them so much. Anyway, it seem like as soon as I get too comfortable around a guy the spark just goes.
Is anyone else like this? I hate being this way because I actually want a serious relationship but I don't see how i can change.
Reply 1
I think that when you find somebody who is right for you in a long-term relationship kind of way, then the spark will remain for far longer than the initial period, and once it fades a bit, then the love that you have for each other will be enough to support your relationship (and you may even find that it is better than the initial spark!).
Perhaps another solution would be to wait until you think you're in love before you sleep together - that way it's not cheapening at all, its a physical expression of love. that might give you a different perspective on it.
Good luck with it
Red
Perhaps another solution would be to wait until you think you're in love before you sleep together - that way it's not cheapening at all, its a physical expression of love. that might give you a different perspective on it.
Good luck with it
Red
Reply 2
yeh i think the key is love - if you love someone sex isnt everything and it doesnt begin or end a relationship it strengthens it, id suggest waiting longer to have sex in a relationship and try nt to overthink it all!
Reply 3
Maybe you are subconciously afraid of commitment.....
Reply 4
Rouge
It has happened with me so many times with guys I really like and even in serious relationships, after I sleep with them something just seems to change, and it always makes me feel like it cheapens the relationship or something.
I guess I enjoy the tension and anticipation when everything is new, like the first kiss when you really want it but both of you are too nervous to do it, and you feel intimidated by the other person when you're around them cos you like them so much. Anyway, it seem like as soon as I get too comfortable around a guy the spark just goes.
Is anyone else like this? I hate being this way because I actually want a serious relationship but I don't see how i can change.
I guess I enjoy the tension and anticipation when everything is new, like the first kiss when you really want it but both of you are too nervous to do it, and you feel intimidated by the other person when you're around them cos you like them so much. Anyway, it seem like as soon as I get too comfortable around a guy the spark just goes.
Is anyone else like this? I hate being this way because I actually want a serious relationship but I don't see how i can change.
I can relate to these. I love 'the chase' and playing hard to get and the struggle you both go through to enter the relationship. Maybe the sex for you is like the final prize, you dont think it can get better than that....
Reply 5
blackswan
I can relate to these. I love 'the chase' and playing hard to get and the struggle you both go through to enter the relationship. Maybe the sex for you is like the final prize, you dont think it can get better than that....
Agreed, it's all about the chase.. maybe that's why some guys will do anything to go out with a girl and once they're going out they don't really care anymore? Hmm.
OP, I can relate. The only way to solve it, that has worked for me, is to work hard at being a friend first, then move onto the relationship thing if you're still feeling the same way. I know it is SO exciting, the flutters and the " he like me!! " bit and the kiss and nerves and stuff, but that tends to fizzle out and then you realise that you dont know them, and wonder what the hell you saw in them anyway. Thrill of the chase and all. Good luck.
Reply 7
I'm the same, but usually I recognise my lost of interest before it even gets to the sex stage. After I have wooed and succeeded in reeling them in, I lose interest in a week and move on. I think it's the chase really I'm interested in, but you shouldn't worry too much - I don't. You're probably too young like me to settle down in a long term relationship anyways.
Reply 8
Segat1
work hard at being a friend first, then move onto the relationship thing if you're still feeling the same way
^^ Seconded!
Incidentally, the answer to the title question is oxytocin. Here's proof.
Reply 9
Yellowmarshmellow
Agreed, it's all about the chase.. maybe that's why some guys will do anything to go out with a girl and once they're going out they don't really care anymore? Hmm.
me too , but think also gals do like to turn the tables on , us guys when it suits them!! p:
Reply 10
It gets like that sometimes, sex seems the be all and end all of relationships there is nothing left, nothing new to try. It will be different when you find someone you are really in love with. It will be exciting everytime you see them.
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