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If you are a guy and come from a ... relationship paranoia watch

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    We are not originally British, but we live here. I don't want to go into figures, I was shocked.

    As I was growing up and very recently, I did not know the heritage in my family as it was kept secret from me. They never wanted me to know because I could have went off the rails. I didn't know the reason why my mother's family for example decided to leave our home country (back when it was a very dark time for the country) to come to a small town in England.
    I am 25 soon and they felt it was time to tell me. We are just like any ordinary family and are very modest in the way we live our lives. I grew up thinking I was poor, poorer than my peers. So much so that when my friends used to visit my home they used to look down their noses at how run down our home was.
    My Dad in England did not really take his opportunities because all throughout his life he has been ill with all sorts (TB, brain tumour), I was raised mostly by my mother. The rest of my family live abroad.

    Now that I know who I am and that my great grandfather ran one of the biggest logistics companies in the region of his home country, I am not quite sure how I am meant to trust a girl to eventually settle down with. The problem never really crossed my mind before. It's not like I can't find a date, but how do I exactly break it to them about where I come from and the family situation. I just want to be able to find a girl that will love me completely for who I am, including all of my immature jokes and simple life with my pets.

    It feels really weird in a way, that they raised me in a way to always be hungry for success and for more, that they voluntarily chose to shun the life of having the new car on the driveway or nice house.

    It is like all throughout my life I did not know who I really was, and now that I do it feels very strange.
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    Sorry about the title , meant to put "If you are a guy and come from a certain background... relationship paranoia"
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