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    (Original post by phunky_fresh)
    Why though? You have to keep things alive!
    I have no idea! they all seem to back off.....im not desperate so im not going chase them around forever. i have a life to get on with!
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    Well if i was to return the compliment and make assumptions about you then id say those are not your abs, you base your opinion solely on the way you someone looks which is wholly shallow, and that you ask 25 year old men on the internet for their mug shot. Il take the unattractive instead. My old man warned me about people like you when I was younger.
    So much anger within you.
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    (Original post by KissMyAbs)
    So much anger within you.
    I don't get angry at stupidity.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So, im a 25 year old man. I've never had a proper girlfriend before, and im starting to worry about why, and if its holding me back that I dont know how the whole relationship thing works. I thought id add in that a) im not a virgin b) im not ugly....like im not brad pitt either. id say im 6 or 7 out of 10 if im being honest with myself, carrying a little bit round the middle too, just a belly, nothing huge!

    I consider myself a nice guy (yep one of those...) and usually get ripped apart by most women. rejection used to destroy me, now it just doesnt surprise me any more. it has developed me an impressively thick skin now which im quite happy about to be honest. im not down or depressed about it, just thinking what the hell is wrong, why me? I dress alright (when i want to...), i make people laugh, i have amazing friends and family and am close to graduating with a degree and have been offered an amazing grad role.....i should be a total catch?

    but i do sometimes get nervous around women. not to the point where i freeze and cant talk, to the point where i dont feel like i make the best impressions and show them who i really am. can be a bit guilty of coming on strong sometimes. not like stalker weirdo level, more like im excited i met you kind of thing! I have so many amazing friends and family and feel that sometimes it almost holds me back in a weird way, because im so happy with life most of the time.....

    help please? starting to think il die alone...all i want to do is meet a girl who likes me and that i can take care of! whats wrong with me?
    Start socialising with everyone, talk to women you don't find attractive, this will improve your social, conversation skills and confidence.

    Then go out there and practice talking to women you life, the aim is to get more comfortable and develop your confidence, you are just their to learn and improve, you are very, very young.

    Develop yourself, your career, your conversational skills, their are a ton of free resources on the internet and lots of good books at Water stones and Amazon.

    Don't be a nice guy, don't smile all the time or do favours, have good posture, body languages, talk loudly, act like you have options.

    Go to the gym, wear good, well fitted clothes, groom well, get a good hairstyle, grow your confidence, be proud of who you are, you treat people well, you've done nothing wrong, you have achieved well in your life, practice talking to women, think positively, you are improving all the time.

    You could try online and even speed dating. Also their are plenty of good dating/pick up coaches who can coach you.

    Good luck!
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    Just read my above post. You need to start talking to a lot of women. I would seriously consider going out with a dating coach such as the authentic man within, google the dating coach. Read his blog posts and take a 4 hour coaching session, he will show you the way.

    Good luck and wish you all the best!
 
 
 
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