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Need some advice...

OK, I kinda need some advice cos I'm not sure what to do.

I've just finished school, I've been there for 7 years and so has this guy that I like, and we were in some lessons together, more so towards the end, so we occasionally talk in school, but not outside of school. As far as I'm aware he's never had a girlfriend. He's a really sweet, lovely, gorgeous guy and I've liked him for close to two years now. Several friends have jokingly told him I liked him, but he's never said anything about it. We've just had our school leaver's ball. I was going to tell him how I felt, cos even if it ended up really embarrassing and he didn't feel the same way or something it'd be fairly easy to avoid him for the rest of my life. I had it all planned out in my head what I was going to say. To cut a long story short, he was never on his own at any point in the whole night. So I never got to say anything. I got close enough to call out his name and then realised he was heading for his car and that I couldn't get there in time to stop him. And I cried. And realised that its gone beyond just liking him. Although it's ridiculous, I'm in love with this guy. My friends think I should just get over it and move on.

What do I do? I've still got to see him when I go into school for exams. So I've got a total of maybe four occasions when I'll see him, but after that I'm pretty sure he's not going to keep in touch.

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If you're never going to see him again there's no point, he's probably just a school kid crush.
Reply 2
If you really do like him, go for it.

Tell him when you see him at the exams.

Tell him how you feel, or just merely give him your email address and/or mobile number. Make sure to ask for his.

That way you can organise to meet up outside of school.
blackswan
If you're never going to see him again there's no point, he's probably just a school kid crush.

To be fair, these crushes can still affect your life. I had a "crush" for two and a half years. Wasn't fun.

OP: get his phone number, phone him and ask him if he wants to meet up some time. Then tell him like that. Just an idea. :smile:
What you got to lose by going for it, you never know he might feel the same.
verywilde
If you really do like him, go for it.

Tell him when you see him at the exams.

Err... rejection just before an exam isn't a good idea with university offers looming.
generalebriety
To be fair, these crushes can still affect your life. I had a "crush" for two and a half years. Wasn't fun.

OP: get his phone number, phone him and ask him if he wants to meet up some time. Then tell him like that. Just an idea. :smile:

we get over them though. I cannot believe her when she says "im in love with him"....I smell infatuation.
blackswan
we get over them though. I cannot believe her when she says "im in love with him"....I smell infatuation.

Oh, maybe, but the A-level exam period is not really a great time to have a debilitating (albeit temporary) infatuation. :smile:
Reply 8
generalebriety
Err... rejection just before an exam isn't a good idea with university offers looming.


Tell him after your last one.

I didn't say that you had to tell him before, did I?
Reply 9
blackswan
we get over them though. I cannot believe her when she says "im in love with him"....I smell infatuation.


How do you know how she feels? :rolleyes:
verywilde
Tell him after your last one.

I didn't say that you had to tell him before, did I?

The last exam they have together isn't necessarily her last one. And if it is, there's no guarantee they'll be let out of the exam room at the same time. I still reckon my idea of her phoning him was better. :p:
verywilde
How do you know how she feels? :rolleyes:

is it not common sense
Reply 12
generalebriety
The last exam they have together isn't necessarily her last one. And if it is, there's no guarantee they'll be let out of the exam room at the same time. I still reckon my idea of her phoning him was better. :p:


I suppose you're right.

But she still has to ask for his number.
You can't really say you are in love with him, if you don't know him too well.
Rock Fan
You can't really say you are in love with him, if you don't know him too well.

exactly
Reply 15
She might be, she might not.

But she didn't begin this thread to ask people to question her feelings. She wanted help on what to do.
Reply 16
Can you get his number off a friend? That way you don't have to talk during exams (could be bad) but maybe just after? Then if he says yes you guys have the whole summer to get to know each other :smile:
Reply 17
maybe make it really casual but find a way to stay in contact. like "hey, it's a shame school's over now, i'm gonna miss our fun in [chemistry] lessons! do you have msn?" or "OMG that exam wiped me out! i'm gonna go for coffee, do you wanna come?" or "YAY exams are over! what are you doing to celebrate?" then "oh well if you're gonna be in town we should meet up *swap numbers*" or "nooo you can;t stay in, come out with me and my friends! *swap numbers*"
Reply 18
Whatever you do, don't tell him you love him. It's almost certainly going to make him run for his life even if he does like you, and if he doesn't it could be far worse - I may have slightly laughed at one girl who told me she loved me (even though we'd barely talked).
Becca-Sarah
OK, I kinda need some advice cos I'm not sure what to do.

I've just finished school, I've been there for 7 years and so has this guy that I like, and we were in some lessons together, more so towards the end, so we occasionally talk in school, but not outside of school. As far as I'm aware he's never had a girlfriend. He's a really sweet, lovely, gorgeous guy and I've liked him for close to two years now. Several friends have jokingly told him I liked him, but he's never said anything about it. We've just had our school leaver's ball. I was going to tell him how I felt, cos even if it ended up really embarrassing and he didn't feel the same way or something it'd be fairly easy to avoid him for the rest of my life. I had it all planned out in my head what I was going to say. To cut a long story short, he was never on his own at any point in the whole night. So I never got to say anything. I got close enough to call out his name and then realised he was heading for his car and that I couldn't get there in time to stop him. And I cried. And realised that its gone beyond just liking him. Although it's ridiculous, I'm in love with this guy. My friends think I should just get over it and move on.

What do I do? I've still got to see him when I go into school for exams. So I've got a total of maybe four occasions when I'll see him, but after that I'm pretty sure he's not going to keep in touch.



Go for it. Tell him. From the way you're decribing your emotions, it sounds a lot like this guy I met on a Film Course, and I was too chicken to tell him how I felt, and I still regret it now (it was 2 years ago.)

He sounds as shy as you, but someone needs to make the first move. And if he rejects you, it's his loss, plus, you won't see him anymore! :wink:

Good luck!