Love and lust?

Just a random question. Love is a strong emotion felt for a person, lust is a sexual desire for a person. Is it at all possible for love to exist without lust? To be in love with someone you have to be attracted to them in lustful/sexual way surely. Has anyone been in love with someone without lusting after them too?

Reply 1

Zerforax

You can love someone = friend
You can lust someone = a crush/one night
you can love + lust and everything someone = soul mate/life long partner etc? ._.

Reply 2

Talya

Yeah I think if you don't lust after a person you also love then you've probably descended into friend territory.. I hope that never happens to my relationship!

Reply 3

sweetface.

There can be both love and lust in a relationship, but they have to balance out. Otherwise it's not going to work.

Reply 4

Paperfolders57

hippieglitter

I believe so is safe to assume , you can have one with out the other , but think its best for one will lead to the other though!!

Reply 5

Yellowmarshmellow

sweetface.

There can be both love and lust in a relationship, but they have to balance out. Otherwise it's not going to work.

Agreed - I think unless you lust someone aswell as love then you just love them as a friend.

Reply 6

glaucon

Yeah you can have love and lust seperately and together as sarforaz said. But if you have love without lust, although it can be amazingly strong it isn't going to be in a romantic relationship. Parents love their children and friends love each other but if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend then there's some lust in there somewhere

Reply 7

Epitomessence

Lust: what I feel towards Jose Mourinho, Sean Ingle, Jake Gyllenhaal.
Love: What I feel towards Peter Crouch and this man whose name I shan't say.

Reply 8

Sanity Panda

I'm sure there is some that would put less emphasis on lust due to the way they've been brought up. It does make sense that there would be a small amount...

depends on what it would mean to lust though.

Reply 9

BabyBee

i think lust is important for love

Reply 10

Meep!

I think what has been said about a relationship with the love but not the lust decending into friend territory is absolutely right. One needs a bit of the animalistic element in one's relationship for it to be a true relationship rather than a friendship, methinks.

Reply 11

Scarlett_Jewel

Silly silly silly. This labelling irks me.

If you love someone and want to be with them then what does it matter what you call it? I mean look at all the marriages around where people haven't slept together in months, years, where pretty much all the lust is gone. Would you really label *most* of the marriages in the country as 'friendships' ?

I agree lust adds the sparkle, but it is perfectly possible to love someone and not lust after them. ptsch.