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    I've been with my bf 2 years, though we were friends for about 4 years prior to this. I knew before we started dating that when he was 18 he slept with a prostitute in Amsterdam and even though I don't agree with it, it was prior to us dating and he has always maintained it was a one off and that looking back he regrets it. The other night however he told me that he had also visited strip clubs at least 5 times since then (again before us) and each time had a private dance, including one time in Vegas where he was allowed 'to put his hands places'.

    In my opinion visiting a strip club isn't as bad as sleeping with a prostitute and it was before I started dating him so I don't really have the right to be upset. I guess I always considered Amsterdam a one off and now it seems it was pretty standard behaviour. I guess my question is what are other people's opinions on strip clubs etc....
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    (Original post by little_lion_girl)
    I've been with my bf 2 years, though we were friends for about 4 years prior to this. I knew before we started dating that when he was 18 he slept with a prostitute in Amsterdam and even though I don't agree with it, it was prior to us dating and he has always maintained it was a one off and that looking back he regrets it. The other night however he told me that he had also visited strip clubs at least 5 times since then (again before us) and each time had a private dance, including one time in Vegas where he was allowed 'to put his hands places'.

    In my opinion visiting a strip club isn't as bad as sleeping with a prostitute and it was before I started dating him so I don't really have the right to be upset. I guess I always considered Amsterdam a one off and now it seems it was pretty standard behaviour. I guess my question is what are other people's opinions on strip clubs etc....
    I think only you can decided everybody has different views, in my view Strip Clubs are totally different to visiting an escort.Strip Clubs the women have the power, its a tease the men in general pay a fortune for a dance but can never have them and in most cases touch them. Where as when a man pays for sex the woman basically does what the man wants her too (with agreed limits), the man has the power. Just my view I am sure others will disagree
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    I am a male and do not find strip clubs appealling
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    as tony the tiger says both are great
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    (Original post by little_lion_girl)
    I've been with my bf 2 years, though we were friends for about 4 years prior to this. I knew before we started dating that when he was 18 he slept with a prostitute in Amsterdam and even though I don't agree with it, it was prior to us dating and he has always maintained it was a one off and that looking back he regrets it. The other night however he told me that he had also visited strip clubs at least 5 times since then (again before us) and each time had a private dance, including one time in Vegas where he was allowed 'to put his hands places'.

    In my opinion visiting a strip club isn't as bad as sleeping with a prostitute and it was before I started dating him so I don't really have the right to be upset. I guess I always considered Amsterdam a one off and now it seems it was pretty standard behaviour. I guess my question is what are other people's opinions on strip clubs etc....
    never really had to think about it but my bf better not even consider going to a strip club whilst were together else his going to know he hit a nerve!!! even the thought is making me angry right now
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    Never received a private dance and never will. It looks incredibly awkward/pointless/waste of money.
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    I would only be annoyed if my bf went to a strip club while he was in a relationship with me. I would end it if he ever had sex with anyone while with me, prostitute or not. What he done in the past is his own business regardless of what I think about it.

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    At the end of the day only you can decide. For me personally, the fact that he'd been with a prostitute would be enough for me to say no to that relationship. The fact that he's just revealed he's been to strip clubs as well is a big no no (especially as he took so long to reveal it; I'd feel like he was hiding something).

    It's up to you: can you put the past behind you and move forward in a relationship with him? Or is this a dealbreaker which makes you wonder if he's hiding other things? Completely how you perceive it tbh.
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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    I would only be annoyed if my bf went to a strip club while he was in a relationship with me. I would end it if he ever had sex with anyone while with me, prostitute or not. What he done in the past is his own business regardless of what I think about it.

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    Does that mean that you'd only want to date someone who was a virgin? I completely understand your opinion, I'm just curious
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    Agree that the strip clubs are a lesser demeanour than the prostitute. He does seem to be a bit sexually over the top previously. But it predates your relationship, he's been transparent and if you're happy with him what does it matter.
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Does that mean that you'd only want to date someone who was a virgin? I completely understand your opinion, I'm just curious
    I think she means she would end it if he had sex with someone else whilst he was in a relationship with her...
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    (Original post by little_lion_girl)
    I think she means she would end it if he had sex with someone else whilst he was in a relationship with her...
    Aha whoops, misread her post! Didn't see the "while with me" part. Thanks for clarifying!

    (PS Accidentally clicked edit instead of reply on your post. Don't worry, I didn't change anything! Still getting used to this whole mod thing so please forgive me :blushing:)
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    I have been to strip clubs in both Amsterdam and Bangkok and highly recommend them especially if you are a guy, but girls go too.

    The ones in Bangkok are much the better, though. The girls have neat tricks like opening coke bottles down below (how do they do that?) and smoking cigarettes through vaginal muscle control. Fascinating. They also play "pussy ping pong" (very short rallies I never once once saw a serve returned) and "flying banana." These were peeled whole bananas fired at great velocity. The men fought over those, though, as they flew over their heads and landed on the ground. I found that rather gross and almost certainly a major health risk but it didn't spoil my overall experience.
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    both are ways women prostitute themselves to some degree. I think he has serious issues with the objectification of women, if my man went to a strip club I would dump him
 
 
 
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