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    Met a girl last year and we've not been on a date yet. She finally agreed to one tomorrow but i'm not happy and i don't know why. I find it hard to get women to go out with me but when i finally do, i almost lose interest and get afraid and angry that it has finally happened. I'm really tempted to just not show up tomorrow but i'm not sure if that's a good idea. Has anyone ever experienced something similar? Shes really pretty and seems keen.
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    Do not be insecure.
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    Maybe you just like the idea of chasing someone, flirting and working for them but once you have them, it's... boring? :dontknow:

    Or pre date nerves are getting the best of you and you don't know how to feel.
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    Are you interested in her?

    There is a thing like this that I've heard of where an individual finds another person attractive or intriguing up to the point where the feelings are reciprocated, at which point they basically lose interest. Akoiromantic, possibly? I think that's what people call it...
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    Maybe it's because you wait for long to ask girls on a date? I'd lose interest if I waited more than a couple of weeks to go out with a guy.
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    (Original post by phunky_fresh)
    Maybe it's because you wait for long to ask girls on a date? I'd lose interest if I waited more than a couple of weeks to go out with a guy.
    I usually ask them out quite quickly so that i don't end up in the friendzone.
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    did you go on the date?
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    did you go on the date?
    Yeah and she was a really nice and kind. Probably the nicest girl I've been out with in a while. She text me later saying that she wants sex which is like my dream come true cos i'm still a virgin.

    Strange thing is that i'm not sure i wanna go through with it. I even feel like there must be something wrong with her if she likes me that much. I'll probably sleep with her i think.
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    Not showing up is incredibly ignorant and bad manners.

    It sounds as though you just get frustrated that women dont agree to go out with you sooner or with less effort, so resentful and sulky. The issues are yours, wbhhy not just be happy instead of a misery, becayse youve go a pretty girl who likes you. Part of its fear and low self esteem imo. Try not to take your own weaknesses out on other people, it wont do you any favours.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah and she was a really nice and kind. Probably the nicest girl I've been out with in a while. She text me later saying that she wants sex which is like my dream come true cos i'm still a virgin.

    Strange thing is that i'm not sure i wanna go through with it. I even feel like there must be something wrong with her if she likes me that much. I'll probably sleep with her i think.
    get rid of your virginity. girls dont like virgins.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    get rid of your virginity. girls dont like virgins.
    Are you male or female and how do you know this applies to all women??
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    No rush getting into sex, maybe go on another date and see how you feel.
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    No rush getting into sex, maybe go on another date and see how you feel.
    Why shouldn't I rush into sex? I'm 24 and still a virgin who still lives at home and only has one friend. Everybody I know has had a girlfriend and lived with them. I feel like a ****ing man baby and not a real human being. My whole family mocks me because of it as do family friends.

    If I don't go through with this, I'll never overcome my fear of women and sex. She is also keen and I don't wanna miss out as I'll never find someone who will like me. Even if I have to use viagra I will.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why shouldn't I rush into sex? I'm 24 and still a virgin who still lives at home and only has one friend. Everybody I know has had a girlfriend and lived with them. I feel like a ****ing man baby and not a real human being. My whole family mocks me because of it as do family friends.

    If I don't go through with this, I'll never overcome my fear of women and sex. She is also keen and I don't wanna miss out as I'll never find someone who will like me. Even if I have to use viagra I will.
    You need to figure out what she wants first, she may want a full blown relationship.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why shouldn't I rush into sex? I'm 24 and still a virgin who still lives at home and only has one friend. Everybody I know has had a girlfriend and lived with them. I feel like a ****ing man baby and not a real human being. My whole family mocks me because of it as do family friends.

    If I don't go through with this, I'll never overcome my fear of women and sex. She is also keen and I don't wanna miss out as I'll never find someone who will like me. Even if I have to use viagra I will.
    Calm down, I do think you like the chase you want what you can't have. If i was you just go out with her.
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    (Original post by chikane)
    Calm down, I do think you like the chase you want what you can't have. If i was you just go out with her.
    It's possible that I like the chase although my fear of sex and intimacy is greater. I went out with her in the end.
 
 
 
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