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Boyfriend/good friend scenario.

I've been with my boyfriend exactly 4months and I love him to bits. He's the only one I've only ever been able to open up to and I trust him 250%, I really do.

Over the past few weeks, I've noticwed how he's been getting closer to my friends. In particular, I think he's really been flirting with one girl in particular.
I know being a bit jealous is expected in a relationship etc, so I made a point of making it into a joke.

Tonight was supposed to be the summer ball at uni. I ended up not going, because my friends decided they didn't want to go, and my boyfriend thought it would be fun to go to the cinema etc with them instead.

The whole day he's been flirting with this one girl, talking about our sex life with her, groping her boobs, letting her feel his nipples etc, all while I was there. He knew I was pissed off with him, but still he carried on.

We ended up going back to my boyfriend's and this girl ended up asking to stay over at my boyfriend's, because it was supposedly too far to walk, despite the fact that everyone else lived near her too.

I just don't know what to do. Because after all this, I felt ready to storm out, and just rant at both of them for being so flirty (the girl does have a boyfriend at home, but will only remmber that once she feels its gone too far), my boyfriend gets a text from a friend, accusing him of cheating with his girlfriend. He's just spent the past 2hours practically ready to cry, telling me how much he loves me and how he's nothing without me.

So do I keep quiet about how I feel about the way he acts around my friend, or do I tell him how I feel?

I'm going to read this in the morning, and be confused, so thanks for reading.

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

17

*starry_eyed_*

The whole day he's been flirting with this one girl, talking about our sex life with her, groping her boobs, letting her feel his nipples etc, all while I was there. He knew I was pissed off with him, but still he carried on.

I find this a little worrying! or a lot actually. You need to tell him and her straight out that you dont like it. No wonder you're jealous, you have every right to be.

Reply 2

*starry_eyed_*

OP

14

i would. i wish i could. but the thing is, in my group of friends, one of them has aspergers, which apparently makes her talk obsessively about things..such as sex. And this girl just talks about this with everyone. I'm confused. :frown:

Reply 3

ßlαcksωαn

17

*starry_eyed_*

i would. i wish i could. but the thing is, in my group of friends, one of them has aspergers, which apparently makes her talk obsessively about things..such as sex. And this girl just talks about this with everyone. I'm confused. :frown:

does this excuse the gropping though?

Reply 4

*starry_eyed_*

OP

14

my friends just laugh it off.
i'm just not that open type of person. I don't feel comfortable talking about sex, acting in such ways in public. Maybe I need to change a bit.

Reply 5

ßlαcksωαn

17

I don't think you should change at all. And the fact that ur bf talks about your sex life to other people which you obviously wouldn't like is just inappropriate! anyway..ill let other people gives their views >

Reply 6

theredsox

15

I really think he went too far with that girl. Did he just not realise? (in reference to the fact he didn't seem to care until he got a text)

You should definitely speak up! Anyone would be more than slightly pissed off if that happened.

Reply 7

thatwhichiam

14

*starry_eyed_*

my friends just laugh it off.
i'm just not that open type of person. I don't feel comfortable talking about sex, acting in such ways in public. Maybe I need to change a bit.

I think your friends may be laughing outwardly, but I would not stand for this behaviour from a boyfriend and a friend. You need to speak to them both, because this is not normal. I hope you get it sorted, they are both being horribly out of order.

Reply 8

. sav .

1

trust me. dont leave it. Act now or you'll regret it later...

Reply 9

KT8

sav_606_rebels

trust me. dont leave it. Act now or you'll regret it later...

I agree. Be calm and don't get too angry or accusing. Remind him of what he did and then explain how upset that made you.

Reply 10

ClareR

Definitely tell him. I wouldnt stand for such behaiviour either especially right under my nose.

If his friend accused him of cheating that obviously shows your not the only one who thinks hes been out of order, and that other people are 'on your side' as such.
Theres no point you being put through him being an outrageous flirt with one of your friends as of course thats gonna hurt. Hiding it will just make it worse and youll get even more bitter, making things worse with your boyfriend and your friends.

Say something, hope it goes ok!

Reply 11

PinkMobilePhone

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22

I've had two boyfriends that cheated on me with two of my friends before. You definitely have cause for concern here - especially with the groping that's ridiculous.

Reply 12

Louise88

You have every right to say something to your boyfriend, there is no excuse for that behaviour. Sit him down and talk about it, tell him how it upset you and tell him that you would rather he didn't talk about your sex life because it makes you uncomfortable. Don't start an argument, don't accuse him of anything, just talk to him.

This behaviour was out of order, he might not have realised that but it still hurt you and you deserve better than that. Hopefully when you talk to him, he'll realise that his behaviour was wrong and stop behaving so inappropriately around your friends.

Please make sure you speak to him though, relationships are about honesty, you need to be able to talk to him about your feelings and tell him when you're hurting.

Reply 13

crema

9

*starry_eyed_*

The whole day he's been flirting with this one girl, talking about our sex life with her, groping her boobs, letting her feel his nipples etc, all while I was there. He knew I was pissed off with him, but still he carried on.

Whoah. You're boyfriend is taking a piss, and he most definately is not within his limits. Not to mention that doing this is bad enough, but in front of you too!

You say you love him and trust him but are you sure he loves you back and is worth of your trust? His actions make me think otherwise. And anyway, even if the chick is asperger-whatever and can't control her actions your boyfriend should have no problems with setting the limits and keep his hands off her boobs. Are you sure you want to keep this kind of person in your life?

Anyway. You should definately tell him exactly what you think about his actions and what kind of a moron he is being. If you want to give him another chance I would tell him firmly that this was the first and last warning and if you ever see him doing a similar thing you are out of his life. And I'd also tell him to watch it when he is around that "friend" of yours and keep the conversation in neutral terms and his hands in his pockets!

Reply 14

*starry_eyed_*

OP

14

I know he's worthy of my trust and I know he loves me.

Damn, he's the only person, alongside my mum I've ever really opended up to. I should be able to do this. :frown:

Reply 15

Meep!

9

Um, I think your boyfriend is taking the mick! This is just not normal

*starry eyed*

The whole day he's been flirting with this one girl, talking about our sex life with her, groping her boobs, letting her feel his nipples etc, all while I was there.

This would worry me for starters, but then you say that:

He knew I was pissed off with him, but still he carried on.

In my eyes this is just totally unnacceptable, and I think that of course you should have it all out with him. He's acted like an idiot, and hurt you in the process, so tell him. He needs to hear it.

Reply 16

gracie88

14

Woah if my boyrfriend started groping another girls boobs infront of me i would probably be leaning strongly towards finishing things. Yes of course it's fine to mess on and have fun but groping another girl i think is way past fun.

Reply 17

username47781

20

I would confront him and tell him you don't like and if he does not change, ditch him. YOu deserve so much better than a guy who gropes other girls' boobs.

Boyfriend/good friend scenario.

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