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what are the specifics here? What color are you, and what colour is he / she ???
ok, he sounds like a scumbag. I would be angry and hate his guts, rather than upset. He sounds like an utter pillock for stringing you along.
The good news is, that not all people are like that. Nice people don't lead people on if they ultimately don't want to be with them.
Are you sure that it's just him that feels that way, or could it be that his family has put pressure on him to end it?
Anyway, I suggest lots and lots of chocolate and a girly day in with your friends, ranting about how much of an ******* he turned out to be
I hope you are ok. xx
The good news is, that not all people are like that. Nice people don't lead people on if they ultimately don't want to be with them.
Are you sure that it's just him that feels that way, or could it be that his family has put pressure on him to end it?
Anyway, I suggest lots and lots of chocolate and a girly day in with your friends, ranting about how much of an ******* he turned out to be
I hope you are ok. xx
I can see where the guy is coming from here. Sure colour or race shouldn't matter in an ideal world, but we don't live in an ideal world.
He is black and as such will have different cultural values and his family probably disprove on mixed race relationship; it will be an upbringing issue.
Sounds to me like he wants to end it before it gets too serious. If he feel he can't be with you because of pressure from his family, culture/values and the rest of the black community then I can understand him.
Yeah, it crap, it's unfair. But there is nothing you can do about it. It's better that he ends it now, the for it to get 'really' serious, i.e marriage, moving in together etc.
I hope you get over this, it's an unfortunate set of circumstances.
He is black and as such will have different cultural values and his family probably disprove on mixed race relationship; it will be an upbringing issue.
Sounds to me like he wants to end it before it gets too serious. If he feel he can't be with you because of pressure from his family, culture/values and the rest of the black community then I can understand him.
Yeah, it crap, it's unfair. But there is nothing you can do about it. It's better that he ends it now, the for it to get 'really' serious, i.e marriage, moving in together etc.
I hope you get over this, it's an unfortunate set of circumstances.
Bloody hell. Don't you guys get it?
It's not racism. Ok, try this. A middle east man or a British Muslim wants to have a relationship with a white female Christian?
Or a Pakistani woman wants to have a relationship with a white male?
You see where I'm going with this. Cultural difference is not the same as racism.
It's not racism. Ok, try this. A middle east man or a British Muslim wants to have a relationship with a white female Christian?
Or a Pakistani woman wants to have a relationship with a white male?
You see where I'm going with this. Cultural difference is not the same as racism.
Just be happy as you are, forget about what he says!
I know a few black guys like this.. they would sleep with/ go out with a white girl but would never marry her or have kids with her. That's just their mindset. If you truely liked someone it wouldn't matter. I'm black and originally from London and my bf is a white guy originally from Middlesbrough with a shaved head... we do get some odd looks, but we don't care we like each other. He's met my family and they dont have a problem with him and vise versa.
Forget this guy (i know easier said than done). You can find someone who truely appreciates you, if black guys are you preference there are still plenty out there that would love and cherish you for who you are. Dont be put off by you experience with this fool.
Forget this guy (i know easier said than done). You can find someone who truely appreciates you, if black guys are you preference there are still plenty out there that would love and cherish you for who you are. Dont be put off by you experience with this fool.
Ozy
A middle east man or a British Muslim wants to have a relationship with a white female Christian?
Or a Pakistani woman wants to have a relationship with a white male?
Or a Pakistani woman wants to have a relationship with a white male?
What's the question here? Putting a question mark at the end of a sentence typically denotes that a question is being asked, but I don't see a question anywhere.
Ozy
It's not racism. Ok, try this. A middle east man or a British Muslim wants to have a relationship with a white female Christian?
Or a Pakistani woman wants to have a relationship with a white male?
You see where I'm going with this. Cultural difference is not the same as racism.
It's not racism. Ok, try this. A middle east man or a British Muslim wants to have a relationship with a white female Christian?
Or a Pakistani woman wants to have a relationship with a white male?
You see where I'm going with this. Cultural difference is not the same as racism.
The OP has mentioned nothing about religion. Just that the guy won't have kids with her because of her colour.
I'm half indian and my boyfriend is half italian. I can't wait to have kids, they'll be beautiful! There's only cultural clashes if neither side is willing to compromise, which clearly this guy isn't going to do.
OP, try to get over him. Not all people of his race will have that opinion so don't let it put you off dating other races
more adventurous
What's the question here? Putting a question mark at the end of a sentence typically denotes that a question is being asked, but I don't see a question anywhere.
I'm asking, 'do you understand?'. How things can't work, or how thing wouldn't work in that situation.
How this situation is no different. It's easy for a non-racist good values white person to say that this is wrong, but if they are not black and don't have those inherited cultural values and views how can they understand.
I was merely highlighting other situation where cultural difference cause problems in relationships, ones that these people will understand.
Talya
The OP has mentioned nothing about religion. Just that the guy won't have kids with her because of her colour.
I'm half indian and my boyfriend is half italian. I can't wait to have kids, they'll be beautiful! There's only cultural clashes if neither side is willing to compromise, which clearly this guy isn't going to do.
OP, try to get over him. Not all people of his race will have that opinion so don't let it put you off dating other races
I'm half indian and my boyfriend is half italian. I can't wait to have kids, they'll be beautiful! There's only cultural clashes if neither side is willing to compromise, which clearly this guy isn't going to do.
OP, try to get over him. Not all people of his race will have that opinion so don't let it put you off dating other races
The religious cultural difference was all I could think of at the time.
I'm happy for you. But not everyone is as open minded. Being brought up in a strong primarily black community can lead to these views about mixed race relationships.
Am I the only one who can see that?
Ozy
I'm asking, 'do you understand?'. How things can't work, or how thing wouldn't work in that situation.
How this situation is no different. It's easy for a non-racist good values white person to say that this is wrong, but if they are not black and don't have those inherited cultural values and views how can they understand.
I was merely highlighting other situation where cultural difference cause problems in relationships, ones that these people will understand.
How this situation is no different. It's easy for a non-racist good values white person to say that this is wrong, but if they are not black and don't have those inherited cultural values and views how can they understand.
I was merely highlighting other situation where cultural difference cause problems in relationships, ones that these people will understand.
Maybe instead of merely listing different combinations of races, you could actually explain what would be wrong with them dating.
Look, I can do what you're doing too!
Black man and asian woman!
Asian woman and native american man!
White woman and hispanic man!
Black woman and aboriginal man!
Wow!
more adventurous
Maybe instead of merely listing different combinations of races, you could actually explain what would be wrong with them dating.
Look, I can do what you're doing too!
Black man and asian woman!
Asian woman and native american man!
White woman and hispanic man!
Black woman and aboriginal man!
Wow!
Look, I can do what you're doing too!
Black man and asian woman!
Asian woman and native american man!
White woman and hispanic man!
Black woman and aboriginal man!
Wow!
Well I'll explain for you then, if you can't pick up on it.
Many cultures or religions only date 'their own'.
A Muslim would normally only date another Muslim, more devoted Muslims would never even date, they would just get married.
A black man may only date a black woman, with the approval of his family. Family ties can be much stronger for other races and their families approval may be more important to them than you and I.
Having seen the OP post before, her boyfriend is Nigerian.
Nigerians are not racist per se...they're not crazy about their kids marrying Ghanaians, Jamaicans, Kenyans, etc. either. It's a cultural thing, simple as.
Frankly the reason I haven't dated black guys in quite a long time is that the ones my age will happily date white girls, break their hearts, and then at the age of 28 or so expect all of us nice Nigerian girls to be waiting to marry them with open arms.
It's bad behavior and I'm sorry you got caught up in it. But just be aware of the reality; many African guys talk about white girls like they are objects and playthings. Hopefully in another generation this nonsense will stop.
Nigerians are not racist per se...they're not crazy about their kids marrying Ghanaians, Jamaicans, Kenyans, etc. either. It's a cultural thing, simple as.
Frankly the reason I haven't dated black guys in quite a long time is that the ones my age will happily date white girls, break their hearts, and then at the age of 28 or so expect all of us nice Nigerian girls to be waiting to marry them with open arms.
It's bad behavior and I'm sorry you got caught up in it. But just be aware of the reality; many African guys talk about white girls like they are objects and playthings. Hopefully in another generation this nonsense will stop.
Ozy
Well I'll explain for you then, if you can't pick up on it.
Many cultures or religions only date 'their own'.
A Muslim would normally only date another Muslim, more devoted Muslims would never even date, they would just get married.
A black man may only date a black woman, with the approval of his family. Family ties can be much stronger for other races and their families approval may be more important to them than you and I.
Many cultures or religions only date 'their own'.
A Muslim would normally only date another Muslim, more devoted Muslims would never even date, they would just get married.
A black man may only date a black woman, with the approval of his family. Family ties can be much stronger for other races and their families approval may be more important to them than you and I.
Racial differences are not the same as cultural differences. Two white people can have completely different cultural backgrounds, and a white and a black person can have the same cultural background. We're talking about a situation where the ONLY thing we know is that they are of different races. Culture doesn't come into it, at this point.
And if you're too culturally different from white women to marry them, then DON'T DATE THEM. The man in question obviously believes that white women are good enough to date and ****, but not good enough to marry. How is that not racist?
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