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    So me and my ex have A lot of bad history .

    I still love him, and I still care for him. He says the same too. He says he just wants to focus on gym and education. He doesn't expect any effort from me cause he won't give any either.
    He says he wants to continue things to see how they go. But you know how guys tend to fuss over their girls .. Yeah he doesn't do that. It upsets me a lot. Cause I am trying so hard. I don't even know why I should though cause he's disrespected my mum at her own door by swearing and shouting. He's lied to me countless times. And he's made my self confidence vanish.

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    how do I move on from this toxic relationship alone?
    I don't have friends .. And my family .. Well I don't want to speak to them regarding it cause they don't know that I've been in contact with him ever since end of Jan. 😫
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    (Original post by fearless96)
    So me and my ex have A lot of bad history .

    I still love him, and I still care for him. He says the same too. He says he just wants to focus on gym and education. He doesn't expect any effort from me cause he won't give any either.
    He says he wants to continue things to see how they go. But you know how guys tend to fuss over their girls .. Yeah he doesn't do that. It upsets me a lot. Cause I am trying so hard. I don't even know why I should though cause he's disrespected my mum at her own door by swearing and shouting. He's lied to me countless times. And he's made my self confidence vanish.

    MAIN QUESTION:

    how do I move on from this toxic relationship alone?
    I don't have friends .. And my family .. Well I don't want to speak to them regarding it cause they don't know that I've been in contact with him ever since end of Jan. 😫
    I would cut all contact with him, he seems like bad news sorry.
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    (Original post by fearless96)
    So me and my ex have A lot of bad history .

    I still love him, and I still care for him. He says the same too. He says he just wants to focus on gym and education. He doesn't expect any effort from me cause he won't give any either.
    He says he wants to continue things to see how they go. But you know how guys tend to fuss over their girls .. Yeah he doesn't do that. It upsets me a lot. Cause I am trying so hard. I don't even know why I should though cause he's disrespected my mum at her own door by swearing and shouting. He's lied to me countless times. And he's made my self confidence vanish.

    MAIN QUESTION:

    how do I move on from this toxic relationship alone?
    I don't have friends .. And my family .. Well I don't want to speak to them regarding it cause they don't know that I've been in contact with him ever since end of Jan. 😫
    Have you tried talking to other guys, moving on emotionally? Not saying go out and find a new man, but even just talking to a member of the opposite gender can build some confidence.

    Have you tried branching out to find other people, like minded to talk to?

    Either way, I would move on- if doesn't respect my family, I'd not want him.
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    I have tried speaking to other guys as friends though. And all these impulsive idiots want is sex. Literally they play it so cool - they sit there listening to you about your ex, and then put them down for it. And then try there best to slide into your pants . It's disgusting.

    My ex makes me want to scream so much. It's unreal. Like yesterday I said to him you only talk to me when u want to. Today he throws it at my face like ' just message whenever u feel like talking ' I said whenever I feel like talking ??' His response to that was ' yeah cause I don't want you thinking I only speak when it suits me ' .

    I am sick of the way I get treated .
    Overall I wanted him to chase me, I wanted him to miss me. We've gone a week without no contact . My stepdad passed away last week Monday. So 2 years on that Monday. He didn't pop up to say how are u or anything. I messaged him the next day saying WTF .

    But that's a different story.

    I just don't know ☹☹
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    Yeah. You need to stop contacting him. Disrespecting your mother is a sign that he will do the same to you. Just find friends. You can have one anytime you want.
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    Seriously why waste time on someone who has so little regard for you, stop contacting him and block him.
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